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RE: "mark me" - 1/21/2009 10:27:22 AM

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My gut says this guy is bad news.

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RE: "mark me" - 1/21/2009 10:29:22 AM

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I'd be a hypocrite if I went on a 'no unprotected sex' rant because I've not used condoms at various times when some may have found it more prudent to do so and in at least one instance where I'll fully admit it was flagrantly stupid not to do so (Luckily, the Universe smiled on my stupidity and gave me a pass). When I read the title, I went to what 'marking' generally means to me which is biting in a fashion as such to leave marks/bruising which, on a very primal as well as symbolic level, I find to be very staisfying. As to the whole cumming inside of someone piece, I can understand wanting to cum inside of someone (Or, as the recipient, wanting to have someone cum inside of me) as another primal and symbolic gesture. It's not something I've allowed with every past person with whom I've sexually related (Or even most) as it means something special to me. Connection and symbology and whatever else aside, there are the practicalities of such an endeavor. OP, I would want to know why he believes this would make you 'his' and able to be no one else's forever. I might also want testing, particularly if he was making a big deal out of the whole making it so no one else could have you piece but it's your choice if you demand that or not. Worst case scenario, you get an incurable disease. I am not sure that that means no one else would want you but it'd sure limit the playing field depending on what it was. If you get knocked up, that can be taken care of if you're not inclined to remain in that condition. I can not tell you what risks you are willing to take, only you can decide that.
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RE: "mark me" - 1/21/2009 10:36:04 AM

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I had skipped this thread because I thought it was about branding, just by the title.

My gut reaction says "potential stalker"... which is what comes to mind when someone says "so no one else can have you."

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RE: "mark me" - 1/21/2009 2:06:46 PM

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I completely agree with giving suggestions of how to avoid harmful situations and how to verify the intent involved... but scaring the girl away from someone based on a 'gut feeling' from reading 12 sentences on the internet is potentially denying her of what could have been a beautiful relationship...

I'm not suggesting the guy is right for you, but I also do not feel any of us have nearly enough information to suggest otherwise...

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RE: "mark me" - 1/21/2009 2:18:37 PM

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I guess my standards are too high then. Heck, just today I got a decent but short intro email from someone, I responded politely, and said something to the effect that his profile was glaringly bare. His response was "what do you want to know?". Well, now, frankly, I don't want to know anymore. I don't want to have to work that hard to get to know someone. And maybe I passed on a beautiful relationship.

Just as I would pass on a guy who told me he wanted to mark me by having sex with me so no one else could.

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RE: "mark me" - 1/21/2009 3:04:50 PM

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You've never had a date where you talked all day, and night, and felt he's perfect, I want him forever? Yes it's impulsive, and I don't know if that magical connection will ever happen again, but I have been known to do one or two impulsive things in my life. M
Did you let him cum in you on the next date?

Oh absolutely not! I'm a good girl. I've never had sex on a first date or unprotected.

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RE: "mark me" - 1/21/2009 3:20:50 PM

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Sounds to me like he's looking for a fuck buddy but wants to make sure he doesn't catch any diseases so to insure that he tells you you can't fuck anyone else.

If that's what works for ya then by all means go for it but if you're looking for something more..this ain't it.

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RE: "mark me" - 1/21/2009 3:52:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

I guess my standards are too high then. Heck, just today I got a decent but short intro email from someone, I responded politely, and said something to the effect that his profile was glaringly bare. His response was "what do you want to know?". Well, now, frankly, I don't want to know anymore. I don't want to have to work that hard to get to know someone. And maybe I passed on a beautiful relationship.

Just as I would pass on a guy who told me he wanted to mark me by having sex with me so no one else could.

Cali

But by considering the fact the OP clearly stated that she has already spent time getting to know this person online, and has had a couple of meetings... sort of makes your example completely unapplicable to this situation...

I think HER gut feeling would be far more valuable that your speculation...

I don't mean to come across as offensive to you, I simply feel the OP's 'man in question' is being unfairly judged by people with not nearly enough information...

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RE: "mark me" - 1/21/2009 3:57:48 PM

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True, nutcase, I'll blame it on my headache.

However (and you knew there would be a "however", right?), if I met a man for coffee for 2 hours and then went on a date with him (as she said in her OP), and he said he wanted to mark me with sex so no one else could have me, I would still pass on it, no matter how promising it seemed otherwise, because in my book, that is just too farkin' creepy for words.

And the creepy ones usually DO give you small clues like this, that add up over time, until their full-blown creepmonster status shows its face.

Edited to say: And he may actually be a perfectly nice guy, but the creepiness is going to hold him back.

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RE: "mark me" - 1/21/2009 4:27:26 PM

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Cali has an exquisite way of cuttin' to the chase on things! :>
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RE: "mark me" - 1/21/2009 6:02:07 PM

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I have been marked only by my MasterDaddy..I bare his name tattooed on me and my wedding ring is also a tattoo.I would not allow myself to be marked by another daddy..even my current one out of respect for Jess.

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RE: "mark me" - 1/22/2009 7:25:57 AM

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I am slowly learning that there are many terms and ways to present this lifestyle.... so is this a normal one... to be 'marked'

Hello angelbaby22222. Marking someone with unprotected sex? Are you familiar with the term ''total bull shit''? RL.

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RE: "mark me" - 1/24/2009 6:43:40 AM

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I haven't used the term 'chudwah' in years, but it sounds made for this guy.

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RE: "mark me" - 1/24/2009 8:02:08 AM

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Well, I learned something new today. From UrbanDictionary.com:

CHUDWAH: Acronym: Clueless Heterosexual Dominant Wannabe

Derogatory term used in the BDSM world for (typically) men who think they are masterly dominants, with no basis for their belief whatsoever. Or they may be vanilla men who get off on cruising BDSM sites and fantasising about submissive women. They generally don't get any dates.

"I got IM'd by this stupid CHUDWAH on collarme.com saying 'Kneel before Me, bitch!'... although he's never done a scene in his life, and doesn't know what a flogger is for."

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And yes, the "collarme" example was in there! LOL!

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RE: "mark me" - 1/24/2009 10:16:25 AM

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Meh. This is a fast reply. I have had sex on the first date.

ditto ditto

I have had sex with people without knowing their name, and I have lived to tell the tail.

Ed: damn the.darkness and her wacky font

Ah ... so many sluts on here. I'm glad to count myself amongst 'em.

I'm thinking ... if you want unprotected sex with the man, both of you have bloodwork, share the results then do the deed. If you want sex quicker, use a condom.

But as others have said, I'd take it slower as to being 'his' after one or two dates. I've found relationships that I've permitted to grow over time have been more long-lasting and fulfilling than those I've jumped into.

I'm also thinking ... you're married for twenty years, and widowed for two. You may want to go out and just get laid to kinda get that out of your system (I know I would!), and that doesn't require commitment or markings!

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RE: "mark me" - 1/24/2009 2:17:07 PM

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Here is my question...I have met on man ..on here..we talked online a lot met for coffee had a two hour meeting ..it was nice..then we had a 'date" .....and now he is wanting to 'mark' me as his own.. Have sex with me so that no other can have me.

Was this a man you were meeting, or an over-sexed Pomeranian? Mark you, by having sex with you, so that no other man can have you? Like an ankle biter marks a tree? Do me a favor, try saying that out loud and see if you can without cracking up.

If you just end your sentence with "He wants to have sex with me" you don't need to go any further. In his defense, that just makes him like 90% of the men here. The "I want to mark you" line is a good one though. I give it 9/10 on the comedy gold scale.

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RE: "mark me" - 1/26/2009 4:26:44 PM

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You need to find out if he has a branding iron or if he just intends to piss on your leg.

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