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RE: Visions of fantasy or reality ? - 1/26/2009 1:56:40 PM

marie2

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ORIGINAL: Aneirin

I was wondering, when people here message another on this site , say a sub messages a dom or vice versa, what is the image you hold in your head of that person ?

If it's someone from the other side (that doesn't have a photo posted), I don't have an image in my head of them.   In my opinion, most people are average in looks, so I just figure it's most likely someone average or neutral-looking, where with the right chemistry and demeanor I could become attracted. I've met a few people from the other side, and saw pics of them before doing so, and there was only one guy who looked nothing like his picture. It was ok though, and if we had the right chemistry I definitely could have become attracted to him even though he didn't look the same as the pic.

On this side, it's a little bit different. I do imagine familiar posters as having a certain look, and moreso a certain voice. I've only met one person from this side of cm, and for the year or two that I saw him posting before we met, I did develope a physical image of him in my head and had imagined his voice too. When I finally saw his photo, my image of him wasn't even close. But I think it's natural for us to put imaginary looks and voices on people that we've gotten familiar with via online sites.

When it comes to photographs, I would imagine that most people offer their best shots, rather than one where they are in a torn t-shirt or a housecoat. But other than the one I mentioned from the other side of cm, no one that I ever met looked that much different than their photos.

So I would say, no, I've never been disappointed because of the way a person turned out to look when we met.

I don't think I ever met anyone who was disappointed in my appearance either.  Or at the very least, I've never met a man who didn't want to see me a second time.  So either they liked my looks, or they've all been really desperate. lol.

And like Aileen, the most common thing I hear is , "wow, you're short". I don't try to hide it before meeting someone, but regardless, when a six-foot + guy is finally standing next to me, it seems to be something they feel the need to remark about.  Eh, whatever, I'm gonna end up on the floor anyway. :)

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RE: Visions of fantasy or reality ? - 1/26/2009 2:58:07 PM

littlewonder

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My vision of them depends on how they speak, how they type, what they say, their demeanor and their photo.

If they type like a netgeek then that's how I picture them...like the boy who never leaves his computer screen.

If he speaks like an hng then I picture in my head the guy who hangs out in the bar who hits on every girl while he spills his drink (or something else.....)all over her shoes.

You get the idea I think....

I tend to be attracted to men though who I can picture in my head as a normal, everyday, intelligent, balanced, sane adult male.

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