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Eric8 -> collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 7:59:18 AM)
Ok Im sure the mods will want to put this somewhere else but since Im searching for a submissive it seems only logical that I ask a group of submissives. When I am watching whos online and checking their profiles what the correct thing to do? Just invite for a chat or send a quick note? And whats the best way to do it without coming across as a total doofus? Thanks, Eric8

littleone35 -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 8:01:22 AM)
Well eric i wouls say send a quick note saying you saw thire porfile and would like to talk. Just be respectful in you letter and you will usually get some sort of response. Unless of course the girl is taken and you did not read her profile. littleone

Eric8 -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 8:05:28 AM)
Well Ive done that but usually they have moved on by the time the mail gets to them.\ Again I dont want to come across as too pushy nor do I want to come across as the 45 year old sitting in the captain kirk chair in his mothers basement either... thanks Eric8

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 8:08:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Eric8 Well Ive done that but usually they have moved on by the time the mail gets to them.\ Again I dont want to come across as too pushy nor do I want to come across as the 45 year old sitting in the captain kirk chair in his mothers basement either... thanks Eric8 Such is life. Send a short polite email and then let it go.

typesgirl -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 9:25:47 AM)
Eric: I love your Cpt Kirk joke...soo many dweebs in momy's basement surfing for subs hahahah I understand what you mean about people fleeting on and off the site and you can't be sure if they'll get the message before they sign off. I know that I get an email from the system when someone leaves me a message so if others have that turned on they'll get back to you eventually. If you want immediate feedback hang out in the chat room and look at profiles of people who might be there. As others have said, short and honest messages that seem friendly and genuinely interested should get you a response from subs who are without a Master. Good luck to you! typesgirl

perverseangelic -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 10:25:51 AM)
I'd much rather someone send me a note before sending a chat request. Not 'cause I want to grant permision or anything, but because I have problems with the collarme chat and would rather move offsite than try to make it work. I get a bit confused by someone who just sends me a chat request with no prior contact.

nelbot -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 10:40:08 AM)
I do not accept chat requests from strangers with whom I have had no prior communication to warrant it. I may be missing out but I categorically decline invitations to chat from someone I have not received an introductory message from and to which I have responded possitively that I would like to communicate further. I do not accpet requests from strangers ever, no wiggle room. Not everyone is like me, of course, so your approach might work for you, I don't know but I don't think an invitation to chat is the best way to make your introduction.

typesgirl -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 11:36:00 AM)
I'm sorry. Maybe i wasn't clear. i'm not suggesting that Eric initiate private chats with subs from the chat system. I'm just suggesting that it would be a good place to begin getting to know people in the public chat and that He would at least know that he/she is online at the time. I agree completely that i don't accept just the random private chat request but i've become involved in many great conversations that started in a public chat room here. typesgirl

fastlane -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 12:17:49 PM)
Why don't you try to establish your personality on the board first. Post a picture. See the personalities that you like on the board and contact them or wait and hope some will contact you? Just my .02 Good luck Eric

gingersnap7789 -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 1:54:47 PM)
Instead of sending a chat request--which I would think would be ignored, send an e-mail. But don't send a short one saying, "hi" or "would you like to talk?" Send one that illustrates who you are, highlights your interests, and shows your sense of humor. When I'm accepting mail, I always respond to well-written e-mails, even if it's just to say thanks. I think most women find intelligence and personality worth a second look.

Arpig -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 3:36:11 PM)
Basically it is not unlike fishing...you throw out your lure and hope he/she bites. And as for looking like a doofus...hell we all look like a doofus at one time or another, and personally after the first 30 years, I just quite worrying about that, but then again, maybe I am just a doofus (my ex sure seems to think so [;)]) And does it still count as dorky if it is a basement apartment, and not my Mum's basement?

EriaeMelody -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 4:30:52 PM)
Much like others have said, I never accept a chat request from someone unless they have at least made the effort to establish some kind of contact first. Send them a nice letter of introduction first, then let them know that you would like to take it further by going into chat. They can only answer 1 of 2 ways.

sudja -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 6:07:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Eric8 Well Ive done that but usually they have moved on by the time the mail gets to them.\ Again I dont want to come across as too pushy nor do I want to come across as the 45 year old sitting in the captain kirk chair in his mothers basement either... thanks Eric8 You have Kirk's chair! Woohoo! ::grin:: sudja

krikket -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 6:35:31 PM)
Since the CM chat part doesn't seem to like my computer i rarely respond to chat requests. A note works much better... good luck in Your search...

classykindasassy -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 7:21:55 PM)
Eric, your profile has very little detail and no pic. I would not respond to such a profile, and i suspect that many others would decline to do so as well. You say you want intimacy and that you are fine with the way you look. So, offer some intimacy in the way of real detail and a picture. Let's face it, a lot of us feel like idiots putting ourseves out there to someone who is virtually anonymous. You will get 75% more response if you actually let people know who you are, and what you look like. All it takes to get a response from me is evidence that you read my profile and that you are in compliance with it. Not everyone works that way. A kind note is all it should take to get the ball rolling UNLESS the lady insists on seeing a pic first. I do insist on that.

seaturtle50 -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/11/2006 8:20:05 PM)
quote: whats the best way to do it without coming across as a total doofus A: Don't be a total doofus [:)]

mystictryst -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/12/2006 9:59:10 AM)
In my recent exploration of personal sites and the influx of responses, my general thoughts on the matter are this: 1. I do not respond to chat requests 2. Notes containing suggestive pick ups/fantasies/email addresses to chat off site 3. Requests for pictures - I will share when I'm ready - if you want pics, I assume you are looking to get laid/get off 4. Obviously didn't read my profile I will respond to notes if I feel that we've something in common - I always read the profiles of the sender, details are good, long lengthy descriptions of body parts aren't. I also tend to dislike "sex" pics or nude pics - but I'm an odd duck sometimes!

miticantenslaved -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/12/2006 10:09:27 AM)
quote: And does it still count as dorky if it is a basement apartment, and not my Mum's basement? Prolly not....but ponders a while Nope, definitely not! (unless You have a Captain Kirks chair?) Jugglers will tell you that juggling with items that are identical is always easier than a mixture of all shapes and sizes. This is even the case with chainsaws, although of course when the juggler misses the first chainsaw it is only the start of his problems. Some more will be along very shortly. [Jingo] ~miti

MHOO314 -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/12/2006 11:41:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Eric8 Well Ive done that but usually they have moved on by the time the mail gets to them.\ Again I dont want to come across as too pushy nor do I want to come across as the 45 year old sitting in the captain kirk chair in his mothers basement either... thanks Eric8 ooohhh that is priceless! From a Dominant prespective, I prefer a polite note, I find an invite to chat rude, especially when My profile clearly says not to do that.

yourMissTress -> RE: collarme etiquette.... (1/12/2006 12:17:15 PM)
Send an email that gets thier attention...and no I'm not advocating the "On your knees, bitch!" wanker-dom email. Show them a little bit of you and what you are about. Include a G-rated picture with your initial email, or request that they take a look at your profile. If they don't respond to the first email, send a second one, polite and courteous reminding them that you are interested in talking with them. If they don't respond to the second email...move on. The ratio of men to women here on Collar me speaks volumes about just how patient and dilligent you may have to be.

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