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Jmv0405 -> RE: How to make a Wimpy girl more open to pain? (2/18/2009 5:50:55 AM)
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You are so young, my friend, and there's nothing wrong with that.
But even at 22 I feel like I was too young to know what I was doing at 18 now.
And I assume when I am 30 I will feel like I was too young to know what I was doing at 22.
Now, there are many questions you need to ask yourself, each one more difficult than the last.
1. What are you willing to give up for this girl?
2. Do you love this girl?
3. Is this just about sex?
4. How important is the pain to you? To her?
5. Can you get some of the same responses from other things that you want to get from the pain?
6. How long do you have to expand her pain tolerance?
7. Finally, you need to ask your partner each of these questions in turn. And I've probably forgotten one or two.
Man, this stuff is tricky, and I'm hesitant to call you disrespectful because I think you've got that kind of charisma that will turn into a deep kind of charm with a little age and temperament and I don't want to turn you off to this kind of lifestyle. But there are serious risks involved. I went through a period when I was in very serious danger of losing my education because something happened that did not turn out well for me. And I was using both safewords and what I thought, at the time, was a constant vigilance. Not to scare you, but this shit can get real at any moment, so you better be prepared.
So, that being said nothing is more important than understanding your motivations and the motivations of your partner. If they are the same motivations move forward TOGETHER with very specific, and reasonable goals, in mind. If they are not the same motivations, there are two options. Compromise. Or find a new partner. But in the end, you will compromise. A lot. No matter what partner you have, so keep that in mind.
Hope that helps, mate.
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