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To dominate or submit? - 2/2/2009 5:10:22 PM

Anastasia25

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Which do you enjoy more to dominate or to submit? or both?

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 2/2/2009 5:16:19 PM

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Given the choice? I'll submit most every time. With the right submissive girl? Hand me a paddle and let me at her....

I make a big distinction, though, between dominating and topping - I enjoy topping certain submissive women. Running an entire scene, having to exert the mental and emotional control that a dominant must do? That's stressful and wouldn't be fun for me at all. But topping - merely being the one who is doling out the physical sensastions because I know how good it feels to be on the receiving end - that's a pleasure and I like to be able to do that once in a while.

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 2/2/2009 5:18:12 PM

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It depends on the person, the setting, and my mood.

*Ambivalent*

Probably not the answer you were looking for?

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 2/2/2009 5:50:45 PM

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I'm more interested in how you understand the question, rather than it coinciding with my opinion.

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 2/2/2009 5:51:51 PM

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But lets see. I'm in love with my Dom, because I'm in love with the one I submit to. I can love a submissive, but i'm not in love with my subs.
Ever experience that?

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 2/22/2009 1:59:21 PM

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To sub, but wanting to learn about dominating - at least topping more to please partner.

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 2/23/2009 9:01:21 PM

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Theoretically, my inclination to individuals with whom I have a partnered bond is submission but I have found immense pleasure in Dominating one dear as well.
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RE: To dominate or submit? - 2/24/2009 4:56:42 AM

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I am incredibly submissive to almost everyone but those with the right personality I do enjoy topping. I find I tend to react to certain personalities the same way and there are definite commonalities between those individuals that I have enjoyed or would enjoy topping.

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 2/24/2009 6:53:46 AM

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I have been told that I am an excellent Domme, my subs being sure it was a role that I was born to. However, my true fulfillment comes from serving and being shown appreciation for it. My deepest inclination is to do good for others and to have my hard work recognized. To some extent I can get that from either role, but my heart is happiest as a slave.

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 2/24/2009 7:11:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

It depends on the person, the setting, and my mood.

I lean heavily toward submissive, but it depends a lot on the other person. Her excitement and arousal creates mine. I would not enjoy being submissive to someone who didn't really get off on being dominant. I would not enjoy dominating a woman who really didn't like it.

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 2/26/2009 12:39:53 AM

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I'd say submit. The longer I'm in the l/s, the more natural it feels to be submissive yet I can also be a fairly sadistic submissive.
I have to agree with T1981 that running a scene is more often than not just more stress I'd rather not deal with; especially when I can just focus on playing with whoever volunteers to be my chew toy at that time.

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 2/26/2009 5:23:19 AM

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Im just a curios person, seeking out, there must be more to life but i just havent found it..................

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 2/26/2009 5:42:35 AM

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I like to whip and be whipped. When I was married, we alternated every night. There was no power exchange or dom or sub. Just a married couple who both enjoyed the endorphin rush.

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 2/26/2009 11:58:48 AM

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I love to dominate a woman and be submissive to a male. Lately dominating a male is becomming of more interest though hehe.

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 2/26/2009 1:03:34 PM

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Steve constantly pushes his dominant side on me which can be a problem sometimes as I do need and want to be dominant. I would say Im a 50/50 now in my head but Steve doesn't give me anything like 50% of my time to be dominant. He knows he can never take my dominant side away and he also knows that if allowed I will push that side and eventually take over

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 3/7/2009 8:07:17 AM

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I prefer the Dom side, but my mood at times has driven me to the other side as well. But I have fond that I tend to get more of a rush and feel more at place when I am holding the whip then when I am being hit with it.

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 3/12/2009 5:06:03 PM

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It's almost one of those questions that you have to sit here and think about before you try to answer it.

I prefer the pleasure I receive from serving my Master and doing as He wishes me to, to the thrill I get when I dominate/top others in hypnosis.

I find taking that control pleasurable, but by and large, I prefer to be submissive.

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RE: To dominate or submit? - 3/12/2009 5:19:13 PM

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Right now I would love to dominate someone the most, To be in charge and to tell them how I want it and how to please me and then expect that it'll be done cause I said so lol.