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RE: Cyber to the right...cyber to the left... - 8/15/2004 10:37:02 PM

LadyBeckett

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So what did you tell wondersub Beckett?

Truthfully, when I read his email I did just what you did, Tess. I laughed right out loud. I was tempted to just delete his email and forget about it. Because the truth is, there are several more messages waiting to be read, and two thirds of them, unfortunately, are from guys just like him.

I thought about a post that Leonidas made the other day about how many people "lurk" on the boards at any given time, and right about now I'm hoping "wondersub" and a few of his friends are among them.

I did answer his email, and I told him that before he writes to another Domme, on this site, or anywhere else, he needs to give some thought to what type of "service" he has to offer, and what his limits are, realistically. The D/s relationship is give and take. Welcome to the real world. Even in "cyber".

Reading a Domme's profile also helps. At no point on my profile does it say "will accept 'cyber slaves who write convincing emails'. That reminds me of the male who wrote and said he would be my pig. Oh yay, I'll take two!

Or...What's your schedule? I'm not busy, can I Domme you? My treat!!!

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Mmmmm let's see the Domme works and the male sits and reads. Yeah, thats seem right.

I know there are "cyber"/LDR D/s relationships that work. I have iwill, and it works great. But he's one in a million. Would I take another one? Nah...

Speaking of iwill, I think I'm ready to step out on the deck for that "smoke" now!

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RE: Cyber to the right...cyber to the left... - 8/16/2004 9:50:21 AM

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I know there are "cyber"/LDR D/s relationships that work. I have iwill, and it works great. But he's one in a million.

iwill is different because all that keeps him from your side is distance. He is submissive and a help to you, even from afar. The wondersubs....MY definition-wonder if they would be subs without the keyboard. warm smile, be well, and happy, Tess

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RE: Cyber to the right...cyber to the left... - 8/16/2004 4:52:11 PM

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Last word I got, he's found a way to overcome that particular challenge, and is plotting a course to my side as we speak. He'll keep us all posted, I'm sure.

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RE: Cyber to the right...cyber to the left... - 8/17/2004 12:18:33 AM

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BTDT in the early days of being online... he turned out to be married... and I wasted 3 months repeatedly asking what the problem was and why he wouldn't come meet with me. He was a mere 175 miles away.

Cybersubs? Like R.O.U.S. 's I don't think they exist. Submissive, they aren't. Just mainly wankers looking for some strange among us kinksters usually.

I learned my lesson, it's not worth the carpal tunnel. And online subs rarely turn into real ones. I don't accept them. EVER. Hope you're taking notes cyberboys.

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RE: Cyber to the right...cyber to the left... - 8/17/2004 1:36:18 AM

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Few things in life are black and white. I will not say I would accept a cybersub. But then I wouldn't cut a male off at the knees for being a thousand miles away from me and trying to get to me. Occassionally you will find that diamond of a male in the position of being unable to reach you right now. I might waste my time with fifty "can't get there from here" males. But I will not cut off the communication just because they are unable to come to me NOW. Whats a few key strokes? Heck look at how many we make just chatting on the boards. Sundew

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RE: Cyber to the right...cyber to the left... - 8/17/2004 5:59:48 PM

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I had an online sub for about a year and a half. His name was Chris. He was an Englishman living/ working in Hong Kong. I lost track of him shortly after the take back by China. I miss him. We became a lot more than cyber boy and Governess. I started writing erotica for him. I still do it but it's not the same.

I didn't plan to meet him, really. Sure I let myself daydream. But I knew it wasn't going to happen. In his case, I'd do it all again. But I doubt I will ever again find a cyber sub I'd want to bother with. He was just unique somehow.

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RE: Cyber to the right...cyber to the left... - 8/17/2004 6:37:28 PM

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Zanthia,

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Hope you're taking notes cyberboys.

I'll put those notes on my plane tickets.

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RE: Cyber to the right...cyber to the left... - 10/28/2004 7:00:41 PM

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up to this point, i would have to say, not very. i have been speaking with a Domme for almost four months via chat and email. we are only 15 minutes or so apart, yet we have not met. She tells me often how She desires me to serve Her, yet will never set a meeting date. As i read this, i guess that really doesn't answer Your question. i can say, though, that at least both parties know from the start that cyber is all it will be and that takes the pressure to meet off.

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RE: Cyber to the right...cyber to the left... - 10/29/2004 7:12:32 PM

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Ok have to put my two cents in. I have had a online sub for 4 years now. Online is the only was for not only distance keeps us apart but situations as well. I admit that as the years gone by we have not only become Domme/submissive, but we have become friends and even soulmates. I admit that i would love to meet him and have him with me always, but we both know its impossible so we make with what we have. This is accomplished with a lot of love and trust for each other. And i won't lie, we do have cyber sex lol...and he does spank himself while i listen! Matter of fact he's got a webcam now so i can watch woohoo lol...ok i'm getting off the subject. For some it does work, for some it doesn't....end of story.

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RE: Cyber to the right...cyber to the left... - 10/29/2004 9:16:01 PM

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Welllllll, I *had* about 12 cyberslaves as of yesterday... and as of today, FOUR! Did some serious weeding/pruning! Each week, I write out a Lesson with two parts, Edict (learning/teaching) and Mandamus (practise/exercise) and weeding out the slaves which failed to respond.

I have a strong feeling that the slave pool will dwindle down to one or two devotees who then will possibly become RT slaves. I expected the attrition rate to be high. I weed out the 'wankers' by not getting into hot and heavy straight off. Rather, I teach their larger heads.

Will this method work out? *shrug* Don't know. But yes, it's work and yes, I'd love to find a RT slave out of it. So far, one prospect sounds very good, AND he's almost local! he may end up being My driver, chef, gofer, chew-toy and carpet! Yum!

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RE: Cyber to the right...cyber to the left... - 11/5/2004 9:15:56 PM

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But I have noticed an increase in the amount of IMs and emails from submissives that want an online relationship for whatever reason.

As I said earlier in the thread, I invited a couple of the boys that respectfully requested that I consider them as "cyber subs", to contribute to this thread. Obviously they declined. However one of them did respond to me in email, including the additional information that he also has a live-in girlfriend, and doesn't want to pay financial tributes. But he wants a Mistress to totally control him online.

Well sure, I can see how that would work.

Somwhow, as I was going through this thread I knew this would come up. Fantasy cannot hit reality and in additon "I don't think I should pay for it." It is alot of work, and takes alot of time. First thing I do is tell them how much for the online they are insisting they must have. That usually ends it right there. LOL

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RE: Cyber to the right...cyber to the left... - 11/5/2004 9:23:30 PM

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But I have noticed an increase in the amount of IMs and emails from submissives that want an online relationship for whatever reason.

As I said earlier in the thread, I invited a couple of the boys that respectfully requested that I consider them as "cyber subs", to contribute to this thread. Obviously they declined. However one of them did respond to me in email, including the additional information that he also has a live-in girlfriend, and doesn't want to pay financial tributes. But he wants a Mistress to totally control him online.

Well sure, I can see how that would work.

Somehow, as I was going through this thread I knew this would come up. Fantasy cannot hit reality and in additon "I don't think I should pay for it." It is alot of work, and takes alot of time. First thing I do is nicely explain the expected tribute for the online they are insisting they must have. That usually ends it right there. LOL
On the other hand, I have several I chat with on a somewhat regular basis, but no cyber or any sort. But that is a whole 'nother situation.

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RE: Cyber to the right...cyber to the left... - 11/12/2004 9:26:05 PM

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The right "online only" relationship *can* evolve into real life if the chemistry is right. But subs have to realize that just because it's "online only" that doesn't mean that good chemistry must exist from the start.

I am very into online and long distance play when it includes a combination of photos or web cam play or digital videos. Good digital cameras are very affordable these days (I even bought one for a sub once because I was tired of still photos, I wanted the 30-second video clips). I also require phone as part of it.

Lots of subs line up for this kind of treatment, and many get downright offended if I do not accept their offer. They don't realize I am not just offering a free wank-session for them to cheat behind their wives backs or get their jollies. I require a man that I find both physically attractive and sensually/intellectually stunning. I want to have a relationship via email and phone that drives a lust in me that makes me *need* to see him submit via photos or videos -- that makes me want to send him toys simply because "I want to see you in this locking ball gag."

Lust is a motivator for me when it comes to domination. I don't need a guy to pay me. But I have to *want* the man. Period. I won't settle for less.

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RE: Cyber to the right...cyber to the left... - 11/13/2004 5:42:33 PM

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This kinda reminds me of doing the "time warp"...with Janet and whatwashisname? lets do the time warp againnnnn... *does the little foot shuffle*

I am receiving very polite, and well written emails from slaves requesting that I consider accepting them as "on-line slaves". What I'm thinking is that they are finding profiles that seem to be in line with what they are seeking, and the distance is a problem. I normally respond politely and wish them luck in their search, but I'm curious as to what the "success" of these relationships are.

You mean you don't know about Interlick and Interwhip?

Oops, I'm not supposed to mention them at this end of the time warp.

Sorry. Forget I said anything.

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