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RE: 2 public display questions - 2/23/2009 5:58:58 PM

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If you are comfortable in yourself, with your partner, and in the type of relationship you are in, why would you be ashamed to show it in public.

in the context of that other thread it was for punishment purposes and therefore innappropriate to pull in the public to shame his slave.

Also, how is kneeling any different or more uncomfortable than watching others make out in public? Atleast kneeling shows both love and respect. Making out show lust and passion.

its a show of love and respect for us, but the general public are unlikely to parrallel it with making out and actually its much deeper than that and would be percieved as such. that said i would happily sit at Sirs feet in a public park i will wear his collar (when and if i ever earn it). but to be punished publicly in a place where people go shopping is wrong on so many levels. not so much for the sub involved but for the people who will feel discomfort witnessing it.

i have a question for you:

what gives anyone the right to manipulate complete strangers into feeling uncomfortable and embarrassed, just because you feel the need to. make a point.

Manipulation is based upon persons personal beliefs. No action or verbal response has meaning until you give meaning to it. So to manipulate someone you would need to know the basis of their moral and ethical codes in order to know how to use them to your advantage. So the point would be different for different people.

That said no one has a right to manipulate anyone else.

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RE: 2 public display questions - 2/23/2009 8:46:22 PM

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Maybe it's because i live in NYC and don't generally bat an eye at anything, or maybe its because i am the opposite of prude, but kneeling in public isn't much of a big deal to me. Furthermore, i feel that anyone is obligated to do what they want in public so long as it isn't dangerous and is completely consensual.
Provided that some people may be offended by what other consider acceptable, others have made this point... You're in a public place, if you don't like what you see, keep moving, or look away.

Although, people doing things in public just go get their kink out there is the wrong way to go about it.
Why is it so wrong for my Master to walk me around on leash and collar? Because society deems it as wrong. However, i see nothing wrong with it. Why is it so different than someone making out in public? Both are displays of affection, mine is just different from yours.

i have kneeled in public. It was at a train station, and an old Domme of mine ordered me to kneel before her. For the most part, people completely ignored us. And there was no misinterpretation of whether or not this was kink as i was on a leash and collar, the leash of which She was of course holding. But, even if people did look, how was it any different from the people beside us making out?

Perhaps it is because i have no children to speak of, or because i am still young. But i feel that 'live and let live' is the best policy for living in a society. me kneeling doesn't hurt anyone, doesn't involve anyone and definetly doesn't expose anyone to anything that could psychologically scar them, so why should anyone care.

If it isn't hurting anyone other than the willing participants, then do whatever you want. Especially talking for the people who live in "free" societys, its a free country, practice your freedom.

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RE: 2 public display questions - 2/24/2009 7:13:05 AM

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Provided that some people may be offended by what other consider acceptable, others have made this point... You're in a public place, if you don't like what you see, keep moving, or look away.

Thank you. I'll bear that in mind when I'm caught short in Trafalgar Square. Here was I under the mistaken belief that I had to go find a public toilet. Now I know I can not bother and just have a piss in the street. I mean, some people into BDSM piss on each other, so it's not much of a taboo, and besides I'll be very careful and make sure that I'm not pissing on anyone else. As you say I'm in a public place, if people don't like it they can just move on or look away.

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RE: 2 public display questions - 2/24/2009 1:36:33 PM

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And because you need to explain when the toddler behind you asks loudly "Mommy, why is that lady on the gwound?". Are you able to do so without subjecting others to your sex life?

if i have to explain public displays to my toddler then the actors are involving us in their kink, and that is not acceptable

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RE: 2 public display questions - 2/24/2009 1:48:41 PM

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Then again, if I have to explain, I might indulge in a little humiliation play with the dominant party and explain to him why I think they are being morons.

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RE: 2 public display questions - 2/24/2009 1:55:14 PM

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i like the way you think.

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RE: 2 public display questions - 2/24/2009 1:56:26 PM

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Thank you. It's taken years of practice to hone this fine edged blade of evilness...

And now I am snort laughing at myself.........

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RE: 2 public display questions - 2/24/2009 2:07:26 PM

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in the USA I can see why most would not wont to do that, even so I might try to find a way.... but in erop UK Japoan other place in the wrold where the lifestile is not looked down at well whats so worng then?

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RE: 2 public display questions - 2/24/2009 2:15:54 PM

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RE: 2 public display questions - 2/24/2009 2:27:26 PM

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I would have no problem kneeling in public if I was asked to do so. From the other thread it was the fact that the slave might be naked that would be a problem/illegal and get folks into trouble. I sit or kneel on the ground frequently. It isn't a sex thing for me, just comfort. If my Master told me to, that still isn't inherently a sex thing, but more an issue of power and our relationship dynamic. I am comfortable on the ground, so if anyone asked I could tell them that, or that my Master wanted me there, depending on the person/the situation. I don't generally go asking strangers why they are doing something.

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RE: 2 public display questions - 2/24/2009 3:14:24 PM

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It's no different than when you have to explain why the fat lady over there is so fat* if your kid asks* Or why that guy over there has pink hair* again if your toddler would be the type to ask questions like this*

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And because you need to explain when the toddler behind you asks loudly "Mommy, why is that lady on the gwound?". Are you able to do so without subjecting others to your sex life?

if i have to explain public displays to my toddler then the actors are involving us in their kink, and that is not acceptable

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RE: 2 public display questions - 2/24/2009 3:44:50 PM

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If you have to explain to someone you are with what could possibly be going on between other people it's offensive huh? (and I agree with you YourHandMyAss) Is this the direction that society is going now? Everyone has to be doing exactly the same thing as everyone else? Everyone has to behave just like everyone else? I mean... really... we wouldn't want parents to hold so much responsibility as to have to EXPLAIN something to their kids... that's a government job!! And if you wish to piss yourself in public I say Go for it!! It's that kind of extreme exageration that causes the good ole' big brother to make all kinds of stupid laws. I find it really hard to believe that there are soo many sheeple in the world. My gawd, we've established that they aren't talking about going around giving and recieving blow jobs, they aren't running through the streets naked... we're talking about kneeling in public or wearing a collar... maybe even a leash. If you (the generic you... let's keep it politcally correct here) can not explain someone sitting on the ground or wearing a leash and collar (You know... it's just some peoples thing hon... I guess some people are just strange huh? Or It takes all kinds don't it?) then perhaps you aren't as ready to be a parent as you initially thought.

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