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Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/21/2009 4:02:37 PM

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Subs, if you met a very beautiful woman who seduced you and got you into bed, then continued to use you for sex and sex only, with very little concern for your orgasms - just her own - would you find this rather exciting, or totally one-sided? Would you leave a woman that was sexually selfish in bed, even if she pushed every single one of your submissive buttons?

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/21/2009 4:18:58 PM

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While this is a very stimulating idea for me, intellectually, I think if a beautiful woman tried to seduce me I would probably sneak out the back way. Given your question, I suppose I would prefer the woman to have no concern over my pleasure whatsoever. It seems way less complicated than a traditional relationship.

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/21/2009 5:20:03 PM

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Subs, if you met a very beautiful woman who seduced you and got you into bed, then continued to use you for sex and sex only, with very little concern for your orgasms - just her own - would you find this rather exciting, or totally one-sided? Would you leave a woman that was sexually selfish in bed, even if she pushed every single one of your submissive buttons?

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I would probably find the lack of orgasms one sided. As to would I leave a Domme who pushed all my buttons. I truthfully dont know. The question for me would be is being totally mentally stimulated enough to make up for not being totally physically stimulated. One point I will make is orgasms are not as important to me as intimacy. ( Not that I would turn one down )

If I was to meet someone who would use me sexually when it suited her, but not constantly, and still pushed all my buttons. Then I would be a happy bunny.

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/21/2009 6:00:25 PM

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Would you leave a woman that was sexually selfish in bed, even if she pushed every single one of your submissive buttons?

If she ignored my wants and needs, then she wouldn't be pushing my submissive buttons. For me, any kind of enjoyment has to be mutual, even if I'm sub and she's Domme... anything other than and I find myself losing respect for them. Of course, I think the key here is the word "orgasm". I wouldn't need an orgasm to enjoy myself, but I would still need to feel like my Domme was taking my enjoyment into consideration.

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/21/2009 6:13:15 PM

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I am going to be interested in seeing the replies here, as I know a couple of male Dominants who do not allow their fem subs orgasms. I would like to see the comparison of answers as to who would stay with a Dominant who did not vs who would leave.

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/21/2009 6:42:51 PM

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Subs, if you met a very beautiful woman who seduced you and got you into bed, then continued to use you for sex and sex only, with very little concern for your orgasms - just her own - would you find this rather exciting, or totally one-sided?

Both. Very exciting. A little one-sided, but that just adds to the excitement.

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Would you leave a woman that was sexually selfish in bed, even if she pushed every single one of your submissive buttons?

No, probably not. Her selfishness in bed IS one of my submissive buttons. But if she pushed every one of my submissive buttons, she'd also be seducing me by the promise of my own reward, the possibility of orgasm for me if I please her well enough.

This question is a little more complicated than it appears at first. The first questions seems to refer to a casual relationship; the second, "would you leave a woman" seems to imply something more serious. My answers to the questions depend partly on what type of relationship we're talking about, and also on exactly what "very little concern" means. If it means that she comes first (pun not originally intended, but very fitting) and I might or might not get mine, depending on how happy she is with me, that's cool. Or hot.If it means that there's never any chance of an orgasm for me, I could only take that temporarily.

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/21/2009 6:53:30 PM

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Thank you for posting this and also thank you to everyone that has replied.

I'm finding the answer to this to be interesting.

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/21/2009 6:54:59 PM

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Isn't that part of the cuckold fantasy for some? And the chastity thing? I am surprised that more are not interested.

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/21/2009 7:10:52 PM

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Isn't that part of the cuckold fantasy for some? And the chastity thing? I am surprised that more are not interested.

Maybe they haven't found the thread yet. Of course, they'll find it now when they search on "cuckold" or "chastity".

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/21/2009 8:25:32 PM

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There is a difference between being dominant in a way that provokes submission, and just being bossy. I think any D/s relationship has to be a two-way street, and if the sub's needs aren't being addressed, then eventually s/he will be dissatisfied, and leave if given the option.

Sometimes, however, having one's needs ignored or disregarded is what one needs Being used as a sex toy is certainly something I fantasize about, but that's different from just being with someone selfish. I think really selfish people don't make good Dominants. You might get some work out of people that way, but you probably won't get a satisfying relationship, unless you stumble upon that very rare (if not nonexistent) sub who really does get everything s/he needs just from serving.

As far as orgasms specifically? Here's my own dirty little secret. I haven't had an orgasm by any means other than masturbation since around 1982 or thereabouts. I've been with a few women since then and had some enjoyable sexual encounters, but for some reason I never actually get to the climax. If I'd ever gotten into a steady romantic and sexual relationship since then, and this continued, I'd look into doing something about it, but my encounters have been so few and far between that it hasn't been a real issue.

But a couple years ago I had a really amazing night involving some bondage and mild electrical stimulation, amongst other things. I'd trade that for a lot of orgasms. Orgasms I can do on my own.

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/22/2009 2:35:54 AM

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Isn't that part of the cuckold fantasy for some? And the chastity thing? I am surprised that more are not interested.

Hi Ma`am. Being a cuckhold doesnt hold the slightest interest for me. Being used sexually, now thats hot. I guess others would love the whole scenario of being used to turn a Mistress on, then have someone else satisfy her though.

Err its just if I start something I like to finish it myself

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/22/2009 3:28:57 AM

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Hi Ma`am. Being a cuckhold doesnt hold the slightest interest for me. Being used sexually, now thats hot. I guess others would love the whole scenario of being used to turn a Mistress on, then have someone else satisfy her though.

Err its just if I start something I like to finish it myself

Gotta love that kind of dedication and attention. M

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/22/2009 3:59:16 AM

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/22/2009 4:33:02 AM

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One of my hot buttons is being used as a sex toy. And I've always felt that no matter who I was with her pleasure should come before mine even at the cost of my own orgasm. I wouldn't leave as long as there was opportunity to recieve some release at some point, since all of my buttons would most likely be pushed.

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/22/2009 4:47:33 AM

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Subs, if you met a very beautiful woman who seduced you and got you into bed, then continued to use you for sex and sex only, with very little concern for your orgasms - just her own - would you find this rather exciting, or totally one-sided? Would you leave a woman that was sexually selfish in bed, even if she pushed every single one of your submissive buttons?

I'm not sure I could fulfil this role it is more of a physical question and so a physical answer is required from physical experimentation IMOSHO.
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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/22/2009 4:54:17 AM

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Hell, you wouldn't have to be a sub to enjoy such a thing!.....believe Me!

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/22/2009 5:56:54 AM

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When I was a Domme I came up with an idea to "tame" subs that thought that they were incredible lovers and were doing me a favor by having sex with me. I would tell them that I would like to have them lay on their backs, cover them with a sheet with a hole cut in it over their genitals, and that they were to lay still under it, face covered. I would use them however I saw fit. They were to make no noise, and were not to reach up and touch me unless I commanded it. (No, this was not a form of necrophilia.) I would remind them during the act that they were nothing to me but a piece of meat for my pleasure, a faceless body for me to use. They had no right to even have eye contact. They would not be pleasuring me, I would be pleasuring myself by using them.

I never lived this out but I found that the subs that I mentioned it to seemed to get quite hot about the idea. Most of the male subs that I dealt with enjoyed some form of humiliation along with wanting to be sexually pleasing and this seemed to fulfill both. If I would have used this it would not have been the norm but as a special teaching device.

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/22/2009 6:30:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Subs, if you met a very beautiful woman who seduced you and got you into bed, then continued to use you for sex and sex only, with very little concern for your orgasms - just her own - would you find this rather exciting, or totally one-sided?

Both. You're basically just talking about orgasm control here, right?

And what's wrong with one-sided sex? Isn't that the nature of D/s?

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ORIGINAL: AAkashaWould you leave a woman that was sexually selfish in bed, even if she pushed every single one of your submissive buttons?

Being selfish in bed is probably a large reason she's pushing every single one of my submissive buttons. But then, i'm a pervert.

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/22/2009 8:34:48 AM

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Subs, if you met a very beautiful woman who seduced you and got you into bed, then continued to use you for sex and sex only, with very little concern for your orgasms - just her own - would you find this rather exciting, or totally one-sided? Would you leave a woman that was sexually selfish in bed, even if she pushed every single one of your submissive buttons?

Akasha

I think it would be a mix of being hot and being one-sided. While the thought of being seduced and used for sex by a beautiful dominant woman is very enticing, I know eventually I'd need more than just that. I have feelings, and while they can be turned off for a while, I know I'll eventually need more. She might be able to push every submissive button I may have, but it wouldn't be enough to keep me interested for anything long-term.

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RE: Used as a sex toy: Hot or not - 2/22/2009 9:50:31 AM

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Would I be given permission to finish myself off later? Maybe given a time limit to do so, and if I can't in said time, then I must stop.

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