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MHOO314 -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (1/24/2006 7:03:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: funinakron

WHy is it that there are so many lost souls out there that have to lie and pretend to be someone else? WHy can they not just state who they are and what they really want? There has to be someone out there for them.
Having been on this site for some time now I am qualified to state that there are more phonies out there than legitimate people looking for actual experiences.
In Ohio, we have met people who lied about looks, age, experiences and the like. Many pretend to be women who collect pics. It's really sad. It's not like we are seeking the perfect person, but this gets frustrating.





Hmm a very good point, lets go back and as that pesky President about that missing military time--

and btw that's the reason I left Akron 36 years ago--




orfunboi -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (1/24/2006 8:36:39 AM)

i was at OLF last summer and there were all kinds of great people there...keep looking, i am sure you will find them.




funinakron -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (4/6/2006 3:18:52 PM)

Well, here we are two months later and am reading the responses to what I originally posted in January. We have met :
A man who said he was dominant and when we met him, he admitted he had never been dominant. WHile I went to the bathroom he told her to call him "master". She had a good chuckle with that.
Another one said he was straight and then asked if he could suck me off. (I'm straight)
One couple where the "man" had been arrested for beating his former wife. His current girlfriend was being forced to do this.
Another couple where the woman's butt was almost as wide as my car. The pictures sent were 20 years old.
Another couple where the man was interested and the woman was doing this to please him. I doubt if their marriage was going to survive.
We did find find one potential and then he lied about being married (as if we had cared) and could only get out for an hour or so a t a time.
Lots of married guys who said they were dominant but not dominant at home. Jeezuz!!!!!!!!
If someone wrote to us and we did not respond back, it was because your pic did not match your written description or after a couple of e-mails, something was said to give us pause and move on.
My favorites are the traveling salesmen. There sure are a lot of them. ALmost all state that they come by Akron 1-2 times a month and would love to meet.
And finally, there are thos guys out there witha third grade education and don't know how to read profiles. They see a pic and respond. DUh.
Enough said.






BEOURPET -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (4/6/2006 3:26:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

LOL; i'm in Cleveland and it really sucks, but i think the worst place i ever lived was Flint, MI. An industrial town of about 20,000 where damn near everyone was unemployed. Lordy.

sweet whispers, how far is Findley? Can we meet for shopping?

candystripper



Awwwwwwwww c'mon!  The drug dealers are working!  Don't exxagerate now, lol!

Sir J's Lady <<<from Detroit




wytchywoman -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (4/6/2006 3:32:32 PM)

Sounds like you've had some very disappointing experiences. Please don't disparage an entire state, though. I am back in southeastern Michigan now, but spent several years living in the Cleveland area.

I thoroughly enjoyed Ohio Smart and Ohio Leatherfest. I'm not sure how far you are away from Cleveland, but I'd recommend you try meeting some people through Ohio Smart in real life. Just to network, of course. It's a given that you're more likely to find "phonies" on the internet than if you get out there and meet them in public face to face before inviting them into your home.

I wish you better luck than you've had so far.




SirKenin -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (4/6/2006 3:44:47 PM)

Judging by the fact that we get one or two of these stupid threads a day, I think all of us can fairly safely say that fakes are not particular to Ohio.  If we look at the origin of all these posts we should see that they are scattered all over the continent.




LordIronwolf -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (4/6/2006 4:05:30 PM)

It really doesn't matter what state you're in (except the state of confusion), it is pretty much all the same. Want boredom? Try New Hampshire. After moving here from California it is like being on the darkside of the moon.
No matter where you go or what form of media you use, players are everywhere. The last 4 girls I have met from online have lied about their age, weight or both. If you can't be honest with someone then just do us all a favor and find a nice deep lake......
Not that giving up is an option either. There are the few that in the very least turn out to be good friends.
I wish you all well in your travels.
Ironwolf




windchymes -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (4/6/2006 4:25:29 PM)

How about Lake Erie?  Hey, remember when the Cuyahoga River caught on fire?

Yes, I know I've enthusiastically promoted New Jersey in another thread.  But I was born in Cleveland and spent the first 38 years of my life in NE Ohio.  I have dual citizenship![:D]




SirPrize -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (4/6/2006 4:51:11 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: funinakron

WHy is it that there are so many lost souls out there that have to lie and pretend to be someone else? WHy can they not just state who they are and what they really want? There has to be someone out there for them.
Having been on this site for some time now I am qualified to state that there are more phonies out there than legitimate people looking for actual experiences.


The internet is the ultimate Walter Mitty enabling device.  It allows people with no lives and no self esteem to suddenly become the people they wish they were.  It's why I don't play the "I want to get to know you online before we meet" game anymore.  It's really quite simple.  After a few days on e-mail and IM we move to the phone.  If they won't move to the phone, they are lying about their identity.  After a few phone calls, we make plans to meet.  If they won't meet, they are either lying, or one of those poor pathetic losers who will never meet anyone because it's just too damned dangerous.  So I move along.  It saves a lot of agrivation.




funinakron -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (4/8/2006 3:24:48 PM)

Well, one additional thing we learned is if after a few e-mails they still want to talk and not meet and have numerous excuses, they are fake.




DigitBox -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (4/8/2006 7:13:31 PM)

Yes there are more than a few phonies in most locales.

It's a shame too.

It's why if I think someone is being false with me or playing me then I'll not continue dealing with them.

I've had to put up with the same kind of crap from tranny chasers who want pictures, virtual interaction etc.

It is frustrating but it's predictable.




funinakron -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (5/3/2006 12:03:57 PM)

Wll we are into May now and just checking on our forum post. Seems most people are in agreement. Is there not one decent looking, fit dominant AREA male that is real and wants to actully have a great time?




Proprietrix -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (5/3/2006 12:47:38 PM)

lol
This has got to be one of the most rediculous threads I've read all week.
As an Ohioan, I'd take issue with the whole overgeneralization thing.
As for your luck with meeting folks... .
there's a plethora of real life BDSM interaction in Ohio.
Once you've been to all of them, and still struck out because of all the phonies, you *might* have reason to gripe (but probably more likely you might want to do some self-reflection and see why you keep striking out when others in Ohio are meeting others and having a good time.)

Been to SMART?
Been to PEER?
Been to CORDS?
Been to MORAL?
Been to SEO?
Been to TPT?
Been to OLF?
Been to the Chamber?
Been to Dayton BDSM?
Been to NLA?
Been to TAPE?
Been to SORE?
Been to the hedonistic society?
Been to Sterling?
Been to Cinci MAST?
Been to the forum?

Been out of the house lately?




Littlepita -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (5/3/2006 1:07:00 PM)

Well this isn't very encouraging!! I have a very dear submissive friend who lives in Ohio and is actively looking for the Dom of her dreams. I think I should tell her to move. [&:]




MistressWolfen -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (5/3/2006 1:10:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: funinakron
Another couple where the woman's butt was almost as wide as my car. The pictures sent were 20 years old.

I have just read your profile and note that you say you are seeking "decent looking fit people"; I wonder if it may help to actually define what you mean by decent looking and fit? Both those words are open to very personal interpration. I have seen many a sumo wrestler that is decent looking and is very fit for their chosen sport. By your interpratation they would be "fakes or phonies" because they do not fit your personal defintion of decent looking and fit.
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My favorites are the traveling salesmen.

Examination of your profile also may address this problem, it says merely that you are looking for "regular meeting" no where does it suggest the regularity or time commitment expected (travelling salesman usually travel a territory on a regular basis) also a married Dom is called a fake for not saying he was married. Where in your profile does it state a desire for commitment or single only.

Sometimes just rewording your profile in precise terms may help those that approach you understand exactly what you are looking for and save disappointment for all. Hope this helps and all the best in your search




darq -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (5/3/2006 1:17:07 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: funinakron

WHy is it that there are so many lost souls out there that have to lie and pretend to be someone else? WHy can they not just state who they are and what they really want? There has to be someone out there for them.

Having been on this site for some time now I am qualified to state that there are more phonies out there than legitimate people looking for actual experiences.
In Ohio, we have met people who lied about looks, age, experiences and the like. Many pretend to be women who collect pics. It's really sad. It's not like we are seeking the perfect person, but this gets frustrating.



So you come here to make a broad statement, encompassing all of Ohio in your frustration.

Hmm, considering I've found fakes in each of 8 states I've lived in since leaving home, I guess I could tell everyone to avoid Florida, New York, New Jersey, Connecticut, Michigan, Ohio, Texas and North Carolina ... But that would make me look silly, wouldn't it?

How do you think you look right about now?

People lie about looks, age and experience because they want to impress you. Maybe you should be flattered ... Of course, on the other hand, what does that say about their own level of confidence? Hmm ... Not much. So maybe you shouldn't be flattered ... Since you seem to be attracting people who don't really like themselves. Or are you approaching them first? In which case, what kind of people are you attracted to anyway?

See how crazy this gets when you start picking it apart? Just accept the fact that this is the internet. You can't be sure of anything until you've seen it for yourself. If you can't live with the very real probability that you will be lied to, misled, and disappointed by people, then maybe you should become a hermit. Human nature, unfortunately, is what it is ...

Also, if you don't want to deal with people claiming to be women who collect pics, you could just not share your kinky fetish pics with anyone until you meet them face to face ... Just a thought.




temptressofsouls -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (5/3/2006 1:39:26 PM)

Hey everyone :)
     I'm about two miles from Ohio, and Master lives in Toledo. Could anyone possibly tell me of any munches or events near Toledo? Are there any? I cant drive at night, and Master is currently getting His liscense, so going to Detroit for clubbing is out of the question right now and so is Cleveland and Columbus. I'd love to find something within an hour of home if I could.




wytchywoman -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (5/3/2006 2:19:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: funinakron

Wll we are into May now and just checking on our forum post. Seems most people are in agreement. Is there not one decent looking, fit dominant AREA male that is real and wants to actully have a great time?


You might want to re-read a bit more closely. Most people are not in agreement with your generalizations about people in Ohio.




JohnWarren -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (5/3/2006 3:07:48 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: wytchywoman

quote:

ORIGINAL: funinakron

Wll we are into May now and just checking on our forum post. Seems most people are in agreement. Is there not one decent looking, fit dominant AREA male that is real and wants to actully have a great time?


You might want to re-read a bit more closely. Most people are not in agreement with your generalizations about people in Ohio.



When desire covers the soul, the eyes are no longer an accurate reporter of things about.  In short, they suffer from basic reading incomprehension.




alwayshis -> RE: Phonies in Ohio (5/3/2006 3:23:22 PM)

there are lost souls everywhere, some of them are even very active in thier own local community, but in reality couldn't dom their way out of a paper bag.  i find most think dominance in bedroom, or a little spanking is all there is.  i happen to live in ohio, and have met some really nice men, none that are a great fit for me, but still nice men, that are in general honest.  i think we will all find players regardless of where we live, where we seek, be it online or at local functions.  i prefer not to call them players, because in their own eyes, they are really dominant, they are just not what i see as a dom, and im sure many men would say the same thing about submissives as well.  being a player is not limited to one gender, or geographical area, its just the chance you take in life. 




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