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dom and slave - 3/2/2009 2:42:09 PM

lynn1947

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i do not know that much about switch enfacted i am new to the Master/slave side. but my question can you be both dom and slave to the same person??? i personally can't see it. but may be in the wrong mind sit. i sure could use some help here . thank you

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RE: dom and slave - 3/2/2009 5:25:44 PM

chamberqueen

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It would take a very special relationship to be able to do that. Many switches who are both slave and Dom/me are slave to one Master (or Mistress) and a Dom/me to someone else. There is little chance of confusing your role that way.

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RE: dom and slave - 3/2/2009 9:19:31 PM

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Based on my personal definitions of those terms, it would be difficult. Dominant and submissive flip-flopping. I can see that more readily. 'Course, different people define things differently and different things work for different people.
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RE: dom and slave - 3/6/2009 2:55:20 AM

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It is difficult to describe how it feels to be a switch... Do you like cooked or grilled flesh? Do you like vegetables and a good salad? Grilled beef and cold salad are completely different, but you can like both. And moreover the combination fits great for a hamburger.
What I try to say is that you can like both, because both sides have their own attraction. Moreover you don't need both sides permanent, you can eat a meatball OR a salad and either meal makes you saturated.

Now let's see how this affects D/s-lifestyle:
To live out both ways with the same person is quite difficult. Well, I've forsaken my D/s-life for a vanilla relationship, but that doesn't mean that we have never played...

If both partners are able to switch or to tolerate this, it is indeed possible to live out both ways. It's a more laxly life than strict D/s, but an additional reason can be that our relationship is vanilla-based. This sounds very EPE and game-playing-like, but a switch can really grow into his (time-limited) role more and more, it's no switching during a session or something like this. Anyway, a visual sign of the current role helps.

Another option would be to separate these roles on different people. I've once been able to try this and I guess that it would work longtime as well.
This way keeps the desires satisfied and the roles kept strict.

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RE: dom and slave - 3/13/2009 7:10:00 PM

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i wish to thank all that tried to help me understand. i understand what each of you are saying. i personally just do not think i can do it. it would mix me up to much. so my Master has backed off for now. and i thank Him for that. again thanks to all of you

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