MoGa
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Joined: 8/25/2008 From: Hellizona! Status: offline
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When I first met Geoff, we were just friends for a long time. He called me by my given name. When I asked him to consider me, he didn't suddenly start calling me Mistress. When I collared him, I asked him to call me Mistress, but it was so difficult for him to do so. He was used to calling me by my given name. During the entire time we lived together, he only called me Mistress at certain times, when it felt right to him. I didn't enforce it, because I felt if he wasn't comfortable calling me Mistress, I wasn't going to force him to do so. Now, after everything that has happened between us, he calls me Mistress. It sits right with him and he is very comfortable saying it. I love it that he calls me Mistress, no matter the time of day or what is happening. He truly feels in his heart that I AM his Mistress, now. In my opinion, it has to feel right for both sides. If a sub is uncomfortable calling his Domina "Mistress", there might be a very good reason why he feels that way. If I had asked him why he didn't feel comfortable calling me Mistress at the time that he wasn't, I would have learned many things about him. But I didn't ask and he didn't say. Lack of communication on both parts. Lessons learned on both parts as well. MoGa
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