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fetishisttista -> Personal sexuality (3/15/2009 12:43:54 PM)

Hi im 25 year  old male, with hardly any experience in the scene, but my question is more of an insight into me. Ever since i was younger i have found myself to be what i guess is called a sissy. I have been with girls, and never said anything, but i find shemale porn and dildos to be the most insense sexual feeling i have. I also have been getting into big cock porn, so i am wondering if i am possibly bi or even gay. anwser please what you think



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/15/2009 1:12:56 PM)

First, I think you need to turn off the DVD player, shut down the computer, and put away the porno mags.  Fantasy is not the same as reality.  People fantasize about lots of things they would never want to do in reality.
 
Then, you need to do some serious soul-searching.  Go to the library and pick up a copy of The Bisexual Option by Fritz Klein.  Use the Klein Sexual Orientation Grid to figure out where you fall on the sexuality spectrum.  There is no way in the world a bunch of people on a message board can tell you whether you are gay, straight, or bi.  It's just not possible.  It's about whether you are sexually and emotionally attracted to men or to women.  It's possible you are more sexually attracted to women and more emotionally attracted to men or vice versa.  It's something you are going to have to figure out for yourself.



zenny -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/15/2009 1:23:28 PM)

Indeed. Take everything with a grain of salt and make sure you understand the specific definitions behind the words used in descriptions. Their usage can make a world of difference. Just like the difference between fantasy and reality.



YoursMistress -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/15/2009 1:28:12 PM)

If it helps you to call yourself straight because you only have sex with men on the weekends, or only fantasize about men, or..., then I think you should.  Bi, straight and gay are three words that are used to generally describe categories of people, and allow easy sorting of the lists of people.  Better for you to realize that you are on a personal journey, like no one else's.  The sooner you can accept honestly the things that you are and the things that you desire, the better.  If I had to describe you in a word, knowing all I know and only what I know, I would say that you are probably a fetishisttista.  Welcome home and good luck. 

yours



fetishisttista -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/15/2009 1:39:51 PM)

Ok thanks for all the replys, I guess i am on journey To find where I belong in the world



RealSub58 -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/15/2009 3:45:45 PM)

 
It really does not matter what we think it matters what you are comfortable with.
 
Exploring and experimenting in real time might be of great help.
 
My belief is that male subs have a great love for fetish's.
I stick to my belief.    [:)] 



MarsBonfire -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/15/2009 3:59:22 PM)

For another thing, don't slap a label on yourself just because you go out and experiment, either. How you identify yourself is really up to you. For a while, when I was first out on my own, I played around in the gay scene for a year or two, but finally settled into a very comfortable 30/70-ish bisexuality. But even this self-definition doesn't really tell the whole story.

You need to stop looking at possible partners as catagories on a porn shop video shelf, and start thinking about them AS PEOPLE. Otherwise, you really are just approaching them as accessories to your own selfish whacking off, rather than actually having a relationship with them. Secondly, I think you'll find that the experience of being with someone who fits into your "Tranny/ big cock" fantasy quite different from the fantasy itself. You seem to have forgotten about the single sexiest part of them: their brain.
I've had a few semi long term relationships with TG/TS folk, and I can assure you that they can spot someone coming onto them for a quick fuck a mile away.

I agree with SA in post #1. Put the porn away for awhile... it sounds like the constant diet of it is beginning to warp your sense of reality.



LookieNoNookie -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/15/2009 4:24:53 PM)


(Never mind)



popeye1250 -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/15/2009 10:16:23 PM)

Can I have your girlfriend? You won't be needing her anymore, right?



VanessaChaland -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/16/2009 12:26:24 AM)

 Freakin Vultures, lol. :)
quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Can I have your girlfriend? You won't be needing her anymore, right?



MarsBonfire -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/16/2009 5:18:56 AM)

I'm sure popeye looks on it as recycling. [&:]



UncleNasty -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/16/2009 10:20:04 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Can I have your girlfriend? You won't be needing her anymore, right?



LOLOL.


Uncle Nasty



LaTigresse -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/16/2009 12:00:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: fetishisttista

Hi im 25 year  old male, with hardly any experience in the scene, but my question is more of an insight into me. Ever since i was younger i have found myself to be what i guess is called a sissy. I have been with girls, and never said anything, but i find shemale porn and dildos to be the most insense sexual feeling i have. I also have been getting into big cock porn, so i am wondering if i am possibly bi or even gay. anwser please what you think



The question is...........what do you think?



domiguy -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/16/2009 12:37:36 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: fetishisttista

Hi im 25 year  old male, with hardly any experience in the scene, but my question is more of an insight into me. Ever since i was younger i have found myself to be what i guess is called a sissy. I have been with girls, and never said anything, but i find shemale porn and dildos to be the most insense sexual feeling i have. I also have been getting into big cock porn, so i am wondering if i am possibly bi or even gay. anwser please what you think



I will give you what you ask for, an honest opinion.

If I were a vegetarian and everytime I saw a pig I thought of bacon or I found myself continually drooling over a steak I might think that perhaps this vegetarian lifestyle aint quite for me.

Why should you put down the porn?  If a 100% straight dude came out here and said he loved gash, anal, threesomes and snuff films, would anyone tell him to "put down the porn?"  Errrr....forget I mentioned that whole snuff film thingy...Back on point.

Yeah you are probably some sort of queer.  Not really too big of a surprise.   Let's look at the facts:

1) you are a sissy.  ( there is an ongoing study been conducted for over thirty years(?) that goes soley on the basis of identifying males who exude feminine characteristics and women being too "dikey"..lol....This is started around the age of five...Anywhooo, the majority of the dudes turn out gay. While many of the woman turn out to be queer, they all definitely love to play softball.)

2) You dig shemales...It's the last bastion of a gay man to cling to his slipping away heteroness...Chicks with dicks.

3) You dig cock.  Not just any cock...But huge cock.

End of story. You my friend are a queer.  Enjoy!



FangsNfeet -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/16/2009 12:39:08 PM)

If you think you might be gay then you're gay *Clap Clap*

If you still like women and you're a sub, I'm sure you'll find more than a few Fem Doms here that like to wear strapons.

Sooner or later, I'm sure you'll find exactly what makes you happy.



Vendaval -> RE: Personal sexuality (3/16/2009 3:01:39 PM)

Looking and fantasizing about images on a computer or TV and actually having real life experiences are two vastly different ways of spending your time.
 
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You are 25 now, the clock is ticking, get off your ass and out of the house and start LIVING.
  
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fetishisttista -> RE: Personal sexuality (4/1/2009 5:17:12 PM)

Well thanks for all the input, definetely gave me alot to think about. Though I do feel I'm somewhere in the middle



MarsBonfire -> RE: Personal sexuality (4/1/2009 6:00:30 PM)

Then be in the middle. Since when is being bi somehow a bad thing?

As Woody Allen put it: "The great thing about being bisexual is that it immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night."



kdsub -> RE: Personal sexuality (4/1/2009 6:06:13 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Can I have your girlfriend? You won't be needing her anymore, right?


Nah I guess he decided not to give that girl a second chance last week.

Butch



kdsub -> RE: Personal sexuality (4/1/2009 6:18:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: fetishisttista

Hi im 25 year  old male, with hardly any experience in the scene, but my question is more of an insight into me. Ever since i was younger i have found myself to be what i guess is called a sissy. I have been with girls, and never said anything, but i find shemale porn and dildos to be the most insense sexual feeling i have. I also have been getting into big cock porn, so i am wondering if i am possibly bi or even gay. anwser please what you think



I will give you some advice... figure it out now... then understand whatever your conclusion it does not make you less a person. Don’t wait and wonder.

So many people in your situation hide their feelings...suppress their sexual urges… turn them inward where they can result in dangerous behaviors.

Times are changing if slowly and being bi or gay does not carry the stigma it once did…But still expect discrimination and steel yourself against it.

Once you are honest with yourself you can be honest with others and will not feel like you are living a lie.

Butch



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