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ORIGINAL: peppermint

When one posts on a public message board it's advisable to have thick skin. 

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ORIGINAL: peppermint

When one posts on a public message board it's advisable to have thick skin.  You never know what kind of responses you will get.  

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ORIGINAL: zach7
Your absolutely correct, but there is a definate trend in that people love to pile on someone that may not have expressed themselves in the best way. Thick skin is a two way street, if the question isn't your taste simply move on. If the OP has made a mistake in his or her wording and somebody has allready called them on it there's not much more to be said about it, let it go.

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ORIGINAL: kittinSol

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ORIGINAL: peppermint

When one posts on a public message board it's advisable to have thick skin. 

Otherwise, crocodile tears sometimes do the trick.

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ORIGINAL: Viridana

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ORIGINAL: zach7
Your absolutely correct, but there is a definate trend in that people love to pile on someone that may not have expressed themselves in the best way. Thick skin is a two way street, if the question isn't your taste simply move on. If the OP has made a mistake in his or her wording and somebody has allready called them on it there's not much more to be said about it, let it go.

I absolutely agree with you, albeit I've been guilty in the past of doing exactly the opposite. However, there is this certain thing, a little tiny thing called free speech which in essence gives anybody the right to be overtly nasty if they feel like it, given legal parameters. It's just one of those things that are a two way street.



Agreed, I agree with freedom of speech and having thick skin. I was waiting to see how long thick skin and freedom of speech would come up, didn't take long. Thanks for you responses.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I've just come to the conclusion that my point of view and way of expressing it will not always make me well liked.

There are a lot of people that are nicer than I am. I am good with that. They balance out people like me.

Sometimes I upset people, piss them off. There are people that don't like me because I've called them on their shit. I am good with that too. I don't need their shit.

There are slaves and submissives that are probably excellent slaves and submissives but find me too.......unsweet, un-whatever, too abrasive, too abrupt, too whatever.......to be MY submissive or slave. I am good with that too.

I am fully aware of the consequences of my communication style. If other people don't like it, as long as I mind the rules of engagement, it really isn't my problem.

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ORIGINAL: ThatDamnedPanda

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I've just come to the conclusion that my point of view and way of expressing it will not always make me well liked.

There are a lot of people that are nicer than I am. I am good with that. They balance out people like me.

Sometimes I upset people, piss them off. There are people that don't like me because I've called them on their shit. I am good with that too. I don't need their shit.

There are slaves and submissives that are probably excellent slaves and submissives but find me too.......unsweet, un-whatever, too abrasive, too abrupt, too whatever.......to be MY submissive or slave. I am good with that too.

I am fully aware of the consequences of my communication style. If other people don't like it, as long as I mind the rules of engagement, it really isn't my problem.

Well, first of all, I disagree that there are a lot of people nicer than you. I think you're one of the nicest people on the boards. Yes, you're blunt and don't pull your punches, but I've never seen you throw a cheap shot. You're an uncommonly fairminded and classy woman. In my opinion, being blunt is far nicer than sugarcoating something to the point where it wasn't even worth saying anything at all.

Second, I don't think you're the kind of poster the OP is talking about at all. I think he's referring to the posters who seem to go out of their way to find something to pick apart in every post, rather than make a sincere effort to determine what the posters is really trying to convey - people who seem to treat every thread as an opportunity to show how clever they are and how dumb the other poster is. That's not you.

Now please don't be mean to me for disagreeing with you. K?

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ORIGINAL: zach7

Wow, I couldn't have said that second part any better myself. Being brutally honest is good, constructive criticism is good. Being dominate or submissive or a masochist or sadist shouldn't matter...thick skin, thin skin, medium skin shouldn't matter...freedom of speach is something to hide behind when making mean comments to another person. A lot of folks that are posting are new to the scene, don't scare em off, help em...thats why they're here...they're looking for answers.

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

But also there are times when someone comes here regular to be an attention whore, crazy person, doing the same dumb thing over and over or to ask advice they have no intention on taking or to complain of their newest "illness". I think the regulars here can think of many of the looney's that came to create drama. When we all jumped on the person because they keep asking advice that they should be asking doctors, or ask advice and then refute any idea you give them, until we finally tire of trying to help and ignore them, people jump on them. The new peope who dont know their background on the boards say how mean we all are. So sometimes it appears cruel because you dont know the full history of the poster whos trolling for kicks, attention, pity party or just because.