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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/24/2009 9:27:23 PM

ExKat

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Just a side note from a submissive point of view: As a submissive, I internalize all information about my dominants preferences, and constantly measure myself against them. If he noted on a website somewhere that he liked super-thin women, that, despite repeated assurances to the contrary, that I would always not be preference and, therefor, not good enough. Undoubtedly, some of this is my own concerns surfacing, but I think it's common sub behavior to focus overmuch on their dominant's preferences.

Out of 100 female subs, maybe 2 are Asian. If you find one, great, and then you can tell HER that you prefer Asians. Telling all subbies, even the largely caucasian majority, lets 98% of submissives that they will never be good enough for you. I advise you to take that out of your profile.

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/25/2009 2:40:09 AM

Blackwolf9

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ORIGINAL: Vanityfull

but ALL female subs HATE metal music, other than that your good, just ditch the dream theater and love will come.

Do I not count because I'm switch??? Otherwise you might have to correct your stats on that one

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/25/2009 2:47:41 AM

Blackwolf9

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ORIGINAL: KingSurm

I am kind of new to being dominant but not new to the lifestyle. I was sub from age 14 to just recently.

I just want to know how my profile looks from a female subs perspective.

From a switch/sub standpoint, your profile is nicely done. Not all of us women are looking for repressive, over domineering, control freaks for our Dommes. You seem like a nice guy, I hope you find your match.

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/25/2009 3:07:12 AM

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<----likes heavy metal....but not death metal....does that count???

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/25/2009 3:48:07 AM

Blackwolf9

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I think so

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/25/2009 8:40:49 AM

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I agree with exkat, and she said it before I could. Whenever someone says, "I prefer WHATEVER, but others are okay", if I am not WHATEVER, I pass them by. I don't want to know that I will always be second-best.

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/25/2009 9:01:27 AM

GreedyTop

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Vanityfull

but ALL female subs HATE metal music, other than that your good, just ditch the dream theater and love will come.

I love Dream Theater. And Fates Warning. And Savatage.

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/25/2009 9:09:30 AM

GreedyTop

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OP.. after looking at your profile, the only suggestion I would offer is that you include more about your vanilla interests. What bands do you like? What else do you enjoy doing? That kind of stuff...

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/25/2009 9:22:16 AM

OmegaG

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Blackwolf9

quote:

ORIGINAL: Vanityfull

but ALL female subs HATE metal music, other than that your good, just ditch the dream theater and love will come.

Do I not count because I'm switch??? Otherwise you might have to correct your stats on that one.

I'm an alternative rock kind of girl (but then again, I'm a switch too).

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/25/2009 9:29:55 AM

OmegaG

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OK, I read the OPs profile and Mr Brittinghams (just for shits and giggles)

OP-- I think yours is cool, it's not too long, not too philosophical and not too full of yourself, I think you should just hang in there and be patient. Mr. Brittingham-- you fancy yourself as a wordsmith and take great pride in what you say, I would rather be with someone who liked to hear what others said as well.

OP, I happen to know where you live (grew up 20 miles away) and I have to wonder if you are locked to that location or you are planning on going somewhere else, besides you, there isn't much of a draw to your area (she couldn't even find a motel close by for an initial visit).

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/25/2009 9:33:40 AM

InTonguesslave

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its probably picky and not something everyone would be comfy doing, but i really think it makes a person seem more emotionally in charge if you change the word ''she' to 'you'. its more personal, feels more personal when someone reads it -

and i agree about pinpointing body types. you may end up missing out on someone special because when she reads youre prefferance it makes her feel self conscious about herself and puts her off writing to you.

< Message edited by InTonguesslave -- 3/25/2009 9:36:17 AM >

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/25/2009 11:03:06 AM

KingSurm

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OmegaG

OK, I read the OPs profile and Mr Brittinghams (just for shits and giggles)

OP-- I think yours is cool, it's not too long, not too philosophical and not too full of yourself, I think you should just hang in there and be patient. Mr. Brittingham-- you fancy yourself as a wordsmith and take great pride in what you say, I would rather be with someone who liked to hear what others said as well.

OP, I happen to know where you live (grew up 20 miles away) and I have to wonder if you are locked to that location or you are planning on going somewhere else, besides you, there isn't much of a draw to your area (she couldn't even find a motel close by for an initial visit).

I am wanting to relocate. I want out of this town. There is a hotel within 15 minutes though in Owosso but yeah I am most likely going to move to her area.

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/25/2009 11:52:18 AM

OmegaG

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KingSurm

quote:

ORIGINAL: OmegaG

OK, I read the OPs profile and Mr Brittinghams (just for shits and giggles)

OP-- I think yours is cool, it's not too long, not too philosophical and not too full of yourself, I think you should just hang in there and be patient. Mr. Brittingham-- you fancy yourself as a wordsmith and take great pride in what you say, I would rather be with someone who liked to hear what others said as well.

OP, I happen to know where you live (grew up 20 miles away) and I have to wonder if you are locked to that location or you are planning on going somewhere else, besides you, there isn't much of a draw to your area (she couldn't even find a motel close by for an initial visit).

I am wanting to relocate. I want out of this town. There is a hotel within 15 minutes though in Owosso but yeah I am most likely going to move to her area.

you should say that then, especially if the 2 people who know where you live happen to be interested. And lets face it, who wants to go to a podunk area where there is only one hotel in the county? You might have to be going to her neck of the woods in the get to know you stages.

So..... UofM or MSU?

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/25/2009 3:03:14 PM

MrBrittingham

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Not really relishing the task of having to live up to being labeled as fancying myself as a wordsmith, just pops in for the benefit of ms. omegaG with a little Wordsmith Apprentice Philosophy...

My own experience with teaching writing to children is that some love it from the start, but most don't. A common misconception is that writing (especially "creative" writing) is a special gift that can't be taught. Wrong! If that suspicion is lurking in your mind, you will be ahead of the game if you understand this simple fact: Writing is a craft. Any craft can be taught. How does one learn? By learning how to use the tools, mastering the techniques, and practicing. Of course, it helps if the student brings some enthusiasm to the task. Wordsmith Apprentice attempts to arouse that enthusiasm and build those vital skills. The most important thing, of course is, to never forget to put in a healthy dose of shits and giggles. This goes a long way in relating to those, whose attempts at sarcasm reveal a general sense of insecurity, however un-intentionally provoked. MB

quote:

ORIGINAL: OmegaG

OK, I read the OPs profile and Mr Brittinghams (just for shits and giggles)

OP-- I think yours is cool, it's not too long, not too philosophical and not too full of yourself, I think you should just hang in there and be patient. Mr. Brittingham-- you fancy yourself as a wordsmith and take great pride in what you say, I would rather be with someone who liked to hear what others said as well.

OP, I happen to know where you live (grew up 20 miles away) and I have to wonder if you are locked to that location or you are planning on going somewhere else, besides you, there isn't much of a draw to your area (she couldn't even find a motel close by for an initial visit).

< Message edited by MrBrittingham -- 3/25/2009 3:05:31 PM >

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/25/2009 3:44:54 PM

DavanKael

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Actually, the thread is an excellent way to get folks to look at your profile, so kudos on the salesmanship there. :> Seriously; distinguishing one's self is important.
Your profile is pretty well-done, imo. Some folks have mentioned the need to fix spelling errors and such. I'd pull the text together a bit more as the spacing strikes me as a little awkward but that's a stylistic suggestion.
Someone mentioned most female subs don't like metal. Well, while I identify as a switch, I will raise my fist proud and say it loud: I love metal! :> And, common interests are important among partners, imo. Good job on fleshing yours out.
Additionally, commonality in values is key. You do a good job expressing that you desire a wholly monogamous relationship without saying so. You checked off poly- as a hard limit and you may wish to add swinging as well if that's an option in the hard limits section.
I think you give a good initial picture of who you are and what you are looking for.
Davan
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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/26/2009 11:20:38 AM

RealSub58

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wont look at OP or profile . ......

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/26/2009 12:19:50 PM

OmegaG

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MrBrittingham

Not really relishing the task of having to live up to being labeled as fancying myself as a wordsmith, just pops in for the benefit of ms. omegaG with a little Wordsmith Apprentice Philosophy...

My own experience with teaching writing to children is that some love it from the start, but most don't. A common misconception is that writing (especially "creative" writing) is a special gift that can't be taught. Wrong! If that suspicion is lurking in your mind, you will be ahead of the game if you understand this simple fact: Writing is a craft. Any craft can be taught. How does one learn? By learning how to use the tools, mastering the techniques, and practicing. Of course, it helps if the student brings some enthusiasm to the task. Wordsmith Apprentice attempts to arouse that enthusiasm and build those vital skills. The most important thing, of course is, to never forget to put in a healthy dose of shits and giggles. This goes a long way in relating to those, whose attempts at sarcasm reveal a general sense of insecurity, however un-intentionally provoked. MB

quote:

ORIGINAL: OmegaG

OK, I read the OPs profile and Mr Brittinghams (just for shits and giggles)

OP-- I think yours is cool, it's not too long, not too philosophical and not too full of yourself, I think you should just hang in there and be patient. Mr. Brittingham-- you fancy yourself as a wordsmith and take great pride in what you say, I would rather be with someone who liked to hear what others said as well.

OP, I happen to know where you live (grew up 20 miles away) and I have to wonder if you are locked to that location or you are planning on going somewhere else, besides you, there isn't much of a draw to your area (she couldn't even find a motel close by for an initial visit).

Though I am often sarcastic, there was not one hint of sarcasm in that post. It is obvious that you think yourself clever with words. I didn't even comment on the truth of this matter, I merely made the observation.

But you nailed me, alright, so insecure that I need validation from strange people on the internet. Though I wish you wouldn't have outed me, I had everyone else fooled this whole time.

(now there might be some sarcasm in this post)

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/26/2009 10:48:26 PM

GreedyTop

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*validates Omega*

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/27/2009 8:24:17 AM

OmegaG

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

*validates Omega*

but, but, but, you aren't a stranger....

awwww, OK, I'll take it anyway *smooches*

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RE: How does my profile look from a female sub's perspe... - 3/30/2009 7:59:00 AM

tamedspirit

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Honest opinion? i had a look, nothing special jumped out at me and i would probably just move on to browse the next profile..
sorry if that makes me sound like a bitch
tamed.

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