LadyHibiscus
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Joined: 8/15/2005 From: Island Of Misfit Toys Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact LH, don't worry. April is almost over. Praise the IRS commissioner!! Seriously, I'm not even saying that the Old Boy's Club way of thinking doesn't exist. I know it does. Personally, I haven't experienced a lot of it. As I mentioned in another thread, I really don't know why this is or could I give any particular explanation for it. That's the thing... just because you and I have not been on the wrong side of prejudicial behaviour does not mean that it doesn't exist! People tell me that I have this "presence" and this aura of dominance, and I have no freakin clue what they are on about. In the vanilla world, I am "indimidating". Whatever. I am a woman who makes direct eye contact, pulls no punches, and doesn't take any nonsense. I agree with policing ourselves. In fact, some of the ways of the good old boys used to do this. An abuser in the midst? It used to be one of the good old boys who would take him aside, figuratively (just so nobody confuses this with violence) knocked him upside the head about what he was doing that wasn't acceptable, and then removed him. I would have been ENCHANTED if that had happened. Here, it never does. A person can be a thief, leave town, and be welcomed back with smiles to his face and commentary behind his back. That's the point of this what this thread has devolved into---no one believes anyone! And, the scene is not the Mafia. I might be an Enforcer, but I have no authority other than my force of personality. No one has to listen to me, or any other community organizer. Something else I've been thinking about. If it had been a one to one of he said she said thing, I'd understand why people were trying to be fair. When it starts being multiples, and more and more keep chiming in, you have to look at that. Even if what's his name has excuses for it all. It's like anything else that comes down to the common denominator. (Sorry. I'm sure the last thing you want to hear is anything that sounds like a math reference.) I heart math. :) I did come into the thread when you were specifically asking for male opinions, and that could have been seen as rude. Hope you didn't. You're never rude! At least not to me. And of course only OUR interactions matter. <evil!> One other thing I will say since I'm already in it. Even for some of the tempers and emotions that have run high in it's duration, it's a good thread, and it's an important thread. Silence about these kinds of topics in our communities only perpetuates allowing them to continue. This has been an amazingly educational thread. I have learned a lot about the other posters on the boards, and I have certainly learned that there is no point in asking the men here for any practical assistance. I am disappointed, and yes, surprised. The attacks on my motives and integrity are irrelevant, what concerns me is that none of them are willing to believe actual witnesses! Are they all Heinlein fans? As Tammyjo said elsewhere (I paraphrase) there is no easy way to get around millenia of conditioning. I am not sure how to get around the scene hypocrisy which says on the one hand that we must be responsible adults, but on the other hand that if something bad happens we are not to be believed... and are somehow to blame. This shoves issues underground, when the opposite should be happening. Remember in the 70's, when the feminist movement was encouraging women to publicly confront their rapists? ( I have an awesome poem about it). I loved that idea. I normally run from confrontation, but the idea of getting in someone's face in a public setting where they HAD to speak out for themselves, or not... very appealing, kangaroo court or not. My whole life, I have been the one that points out that the Emperor has no clothes. I'm not about to stop now. Thanks for your input, everyone.
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