Emperor1956
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It is pretty rare that I side with Steel in a discussion, but here I think he's got a point. This isn't pretty, but at this point, LadyH, you have so discredited your purported good intentions I don't see a way other that to call you out. LadyH, you find it "interesting" the men aren't responding? In my case it was because I was watching you dig yourself deeper and deeper into the muck. Lets face it, you just DON'T LIKE THIS MAN. The more you write, the clearer it becomes. There's been no real accounting of the damage this guy has done -- he's an asshole (by your estimation), he's told someone he gave her herpes (which, if he actually did, is legally actionable both civilly and criminally) and he made a girl cry in the bathroom. In other words, you don't like him. Why not just say that, and be done with it. Why dress it up with your self-righteous claim to be doing something "for the community." Have the integrity to say "I don't like him and I want to remove him from my venues." About that "community" -- Did someone in Detroit deputize you? Do you have a card that lets you pass judgment on kink? Detroit is a pretty big town. I have long standing B/D/S/M connections there and in Central Michigan. And you know what, they've never heard of you. That's right. No big. Your friends never have heard of me. My point is 'who made you the big bad D/s sheriff of the house'? Where did you get the sacred blessing to decide who plays nicely and who doesn't, and then attempt to force your judgement on others? quote:
Honestly, I would love to just walk away from any and all problems to do with the scene at large, but I have been one of those folks who everyone knows and everyone respects for too long to just turn my back on him. Honestly? then just do it. In fact, folks that "everyone knows and everyone respects" are the folks who live and let live. Meddlers, gossips and intolerant biddies, on the other hand, get involved in calling out people they don't like. I think this guy might be a jerk. But you have obscured that issue by layering on your own issues. What you are doing is repeating gossip. In the old Testament, it was called "Loschen Hora" (the evil tongue) and it was punishable by flogging or stoning because it is SO insidious. It is horribly damaging to gossip, and frankly it demeans you. You admit you don't know what really went on, but you still wave the flag of "doing something". (By the way, what would make you happy? Castration? Public humiliation? His death? What POSSIBLE solution could you propose in light of how you have completely trashed this man?) What really gets me is this man has actually respected you enough to try to talk about the issues, and instead you make light of his attempts, and spew your venom all over this forum. How did that "solve" your problem? The guy is, as I say, probably a jerk. But the course you are taking, and the way you are doing it, makes you worse. Consider the thread he is (justifiably) starting about you in some other universe. E.
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