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RE: Reluctance to "Forced" Play - 4/14/2009 10:50:09 PM

catize

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Physical force, even when consented to, is coercion. When my face is smooshed into the floor and the weight of his body is holding me down and my skin is suffering rug burns, I am helpless. It feels real enough to me both emotionally and physically that it only becomes ‘role play’ after the fact.

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RE: Reluctance to "Forced" Play - 4/15/2009 12:04:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: catize

Physical force, even when consented to, is coercion. When my face is smooshed into the floor and the weight of his body is holding me down and my skin is suffering rug burns, I am helpless. It feels real enough to me both emotionally and physically that it only becomes ‘role play’ after the fact.

Nicely put

I really don't know why some people see a problem in this. It seems that some feel we are needy and making our Doms/partners life hard! and the poor man would be far better finding someone who was more compliant, when in actual fact its something that you and your Dom/partner and me and my Dom/partner get something very exciting out of.
Of course its force so long as there is resistance. Its not as simple and clear cut as 'just consensual play' . Yes its been agreed on sometime in the past and its been talked about after the episode. Its possibly edge play of a type because in this kind of play it is far more likely that both of us may get accidentally hurt and thats cool too if we are willing to take that risk.

I am not a 'yes Sir, no Sir, three bags full Sir' kind of sub and I am a zillion miles away from being slave material but I respect and remain judge less on people who prefer to be that way. Maybe I'm not sub at all but just a fiesty bitch that has consented to be taken by force and abused as and when the mood takes him but whatever I am, I am happy with my lot and my man says he wouldn't want it any other way.

< Message edited by allthatjaz -- 4/15/2009 12:06:27 AM >

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RE: Reluctance to "Forced" Play - 4/15/2009 8:22:32 PM

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I don't see "forced" play as taboo at all. It just depends on who you are playing with. Some won't go there.....and that is fine. Others thrive off of it.....and knowing the difference between the two types of players is paramount.

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RE: Reluctance to "Forced" Play - 4/16/2009 12:03:52 PM

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For myself, force is more about knowing and feeling a greater, stronger will than mine own. It's less about the role play and far more about power and authority. The "game" doesn't matter, the fact that he can overpower my will is very much the point. My consent is to him which then makes whatever the event consentual; however, that is very different than pretending to not want to.

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