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euroluv -> how long does one wait (4/24/2009 12:57:01 PM)
this one has a question concerning her Master i havent seen my Master in 5 weeks due to His work and some trouble with traveling how ever since 2 weeks he is back home and i got 2 emails from him one saying he was home and one saying might meet u wednessday this didnt happen but havent heard a word in over a week and i am actually fed up waiting i love Him but my patientce has ran out since i am used to have a date with Him once every 2 weeks .i ve set another week of waiting for Him or am gonna end it ive emailed him on cm and hotmail and some other mail thing we have i ve called him no replay ive text messaged him again no replay . what is Your opinion on this ... greets euroluv

hopeful68 -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 1:11:25 PM)
Move on. When the communication stops, that is a sure sign that something is a miss. Sounds like there is more going on there then you wish to disclose, which is your right, and probably a good idea. Go with what your gut is telling you honey.

peppermint -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 1:27:46 PM)
He could be very very busy with work and family, or he just isn't all that into you.

GeekFreak -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 2:20:40 PM)
Well, this seems to be a very non-BDSM question, and really just more of a general "what do I do when guys are dicks" question...:) But, with that...this is not really a question anyone else can give a ton of advice on with the vague info given. Basically he's either avoiding you on purpose, or something strange has happened making it hard to get back to you. Wait until you feel you've given him enough time, but really...he's probably a douchebag and this is his way of pushing you out of his life.

Focus50 -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 2:27:09 PM)
It's quite obvious you're his hobby or play thing at best and that his real life (and loves) are elsewhere. You have to decide how much longer you wanna keep torturing yourself because he clearly isn't gonna leave the missus.... Of course, I don't actually know for sure but when something looks, walks and quacks like a duck, it's most likely a duck - and there's an awful lot of Donald Duck in your post.... Focus.

SassySarijane -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 2:46:12 PM)
It sounds like, from what you posted, that he's just not that into you really. I'd move on seriously. I'd also buy that book He's Just Not That Into You. It's an eye opener. If a guy is really into you and cares, he'll make the effort to stay in touch and spend time with you.

DesFIP -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 3:13:36 PM)
His wife has first call on his time, she isn't going to understand why he needs to suddenly disappear right after he got home. If he wasn't married you'd be calling the home phone. The fact that you don't have that number means he is.

Joseff -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 5:46:50 PM)
The double edged nature of on line relationships, which the nature of the OP leads me to believe this is, is that they are cheap. One needs only to invest, at minimum, some basic communication skills. On the good side, it allows some insulation in a new relationship, you only have to share as much as you are comfortable with while determining if the relationship has merit. On the bad side, it makes it very easy for the thoughtless and unscrupulous to decieve. I don't intend to disparage on line relationships, just count yourself lucky that you haven't relocated for this person, or made any similar lifechanging moves, and move on.

sirsholly -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 6:02:27 PM)
it sounds like he is married and just stringing you along in case he ever wants to use you. Come on...you deserve someone better...don't you think?

marie2 -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 6:09:37 PM)
If his absence was temporary or easily explained, that would be another story, but he's not even answering your texts etc. Unless he's dead or in a coma, I would imagine he's done and doesn't have to balls to step up to the plate and deal with you. Regardless of married or not, you're not getting your needs met, and you have no way of even discussing it with him, since he's just not around. It's hard to cut yourself loose, I know, but it might be less torturous than hanging on for this slow death.

MasterAramis -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 7:06:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: euroluv what is Your opinion on this ... You failed to mention why you don't have his telephone number. One can only assume in the absence of such information. I would suggest you move on. Life is too short to be playing games. A Master or an owner would not treat his property in this manner so I would assume you are now abandoned property. By the way, if he is indeed committed to someone else, then perhaps you are better off. Find yourself an owner that is upfront and that all people understand who is involved and what the roles are. Sincerely, Aramis Duval

FrankAr -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 7:10:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: euroluv this one has a question concerning her Master i havent seen my Master in 5 weeks due to His work and some trouble with traveling how ever since 2 weeks he is back home and i got 2 emails from him one saying he was home and one saying might meet u wednessday this didnt happen but havent heard a word in over a week and i am actually fed up waiting i love Him but my patientce has ran out since i am used to have a date with Him once every 2 weeks .i ve set another week of waiting for Him or am gonna end it ive emailed him on cm and hotmail and some other mail thing we have i ve called him no replay ive text messaged him again no replay . what is Your opinion on this ... greets euroluv Greetings, Might be a simple person but I need a few questions before answering. Are you collared to the Master ? The reason why this question is asked is because some females tend to be living as if they are collared to the male, but have not been collared. Now with this comes a cavern of no communication, for some men just string the females along to get their rocks off. If you are collared to the Master, are you an online slave ? The question for this is that it seems that he has a family and work commitments and because of no communication, you are now left outside. If you are collared, how long did you get collared after your initial starting conversations ? With this question comes about in so many people just jumping into relationships without thinking first. Be well. Frank Ar.

DavanKael -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 7:35:17 PM)
Seems as if he's making it very clear that you are not a priority. If that's okay with you, continue to attempt contact. If it's not okay with you, move on. Best wishes, Davan

windchymes -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 8:11:39 PM)
As others said.....if he wanted to contact you, he would. He most likely is married and sneaking around with you. He had you, he's moved on. You should too. It sucks, but happens frequently here...very frequently. And if you continue to hook up with guys who only see you every 2 weeks and don't give out personal information like phone numbers, it will continue to happen to you. You can do better.

Kaiel -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 9:08:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DavanKael Seems as if he's making it very clear that you are not a priority. If that's okay with you, continue to attempt contact. If it's not okay with you, move on. Best wishes, Davan I totally agree!! maybe you should stop loving him and start loving you! Make yourself the priority!

girlivy -> RE: how long does one wait (4/24/2009 9:34:41 PM)
As long as it feels right with healthy results within the dynamic........ The gut speaks volums if one listens... after Facts are established :) Blessings to you sister!

GoddessTeaze -> RE: how long does one wait (4/25/2009 12:05:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: euroluv this one has a question concerning her Master i havent seen my Master in 5 weeks due to His work and some trouble with traveling how ever since 2 weeks he is back home and i got 2 emails from him one saying he was home and one saying might meet u wednessday this didnt happen but havent heard a word in over a week and i am actually fed up waiting i love Him but my patientce has ran out since i am used to have a date with Him once every 2 weeks .i ve set another week of waiting for Him or am gonna end it ive emailed him on cm and hotmail and some other mail thing we have i ve called him no replay ive text messaged him again no replay . what is Your opinion on this ... greets euroluv you already gave your own answer, so you don't need Us to tell you what to do right ![:D] I wish you enough GoddezzT`

badlilthang -> RE: how long does one wait (4/25/2009 3:30:53 AM)
quote: euroluv: since i am used to have a date with Him once every 2 weeks .i ve set another week of waiting for Him or am gonna end it ive emailed him on cm and hotmail and some other mail thing we have i ve called him no replay ive text messaged him again no replay . what is Your opinion on this ... quote: ORIGINAL: euroluv First thing i thought was "used to have a date every 2 weeks?" That does not sound like a Master/sub relationship to me - more like a kinky fun date now and then...and most likely he is married or in another relationship. Second - You have mailed to several addies/texted/called, and from his total silence - he is either sick/hospitalized - or done. Save yourself the heartache and move on. i do not think i would write a goodbye note, either....he does not answer anything you send - so why go to the trouble of ending something that from his side is over? And that vague message about "might meet u wednesday" - um...did something (someone) more fun come along? i am sorry that you met a player - but as many has said before me - meeting the right One takes a lot of time, trust and effort..a collar does not slide around a neck on the second date...and a Master would find a way to stay in touch with his submissve/slave - at least letting her know about his travel times and such. Good luck!

NorthernGent -> RE: how long does one wait (4/25/2009 5:53:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: euroluv might meet u wednessday this didnt happen I lose interest in anyone who starts going down the road of ifs, buts and maybes. Basically, you're either doing it or you're not, and if you're doing it then follow through on your promises (whether friends or partners). Once the above happens, I don't think you owe him anything because he's not living up to his side of the bargain (assuming you set your stall out from the off). From the above, the ball's now in his court and I'd wait for him to get in touch with you and tell him exactly what you think about the scarlet pimpernell routine. I mean, life really doesn't have to be that difficult.

crazyredhead1957 -> RE: how long does one wait (4/25/2009 8:20:06 AM)
i understand how you feel. i had a relationship that lasted for quite a bit and then, all of a sudden there was NO communication for over six weeks. No e-mail, no phone, no IM after having contact every day, and believe me i tried. i moved on. i would say you've been dumped. i'm so sorry for you, but i think you should forget Him and move on.

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