You can have sex but you can't masturbate.

Join Our Community

Collarchat.com

Home Login Search

You can have sex but you can't masturbate.

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> You can have sex but you can't masturbate.

Page: [1]

Login

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/24/2009 8:52:16 PM

Posts: 59
Joined: 6/7/2008
Status: offline

I've talked to a couple Dommes before who say that subs they have are not allowed to masturbate without permission but they are free to have sex with women if they get the opportunity.

Are there any Dommes here that feel this way? If so, why? What's the distinction?

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/24/2009 9:05:15 PM

Kaiel

Posts: 748
Joined: 4/17/2007
Status: offline

Errr, nope! I don't feel that way!

_____________________________

I keep My expectations and thread counts high- "catitude"

(in reply to subsubtle)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/24/2009 9:15:12 PM

Posts: 11292
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline

That sounds like a situation where it is something that isn't going to last as a romantic relationship (for example) and the submissive will be looking for someone besides the dominant/top they are having some sort of bdsm or d/s dynamic's with.

Would I do this with someone... highly doubtful.

_____________________________

No matter how old a woman gets, some men will think she was born yesterday! ROFL... I love this place!

(in reply to Kaiel)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/24/2009 9:24:12 PM

Posts: 1160
Joined: 11/20/2008
Status: offline

The only reason I might imagine this, is if the man in question has a wonderful relationship with his hands, but trouble getting it going, or having energy to satisfy the lady he is dating. Otherwise, not a kink I'm aware of, or would participate in. M

_____________________________

The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands.-Robert M. Persig

Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence Erich Fromm

(in reply to subsubtle)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/24/2009 9:42:00 PM

Posts: 70
Joined: 3/5/2009
Status: offline

If I were in that position, I'd be totally screwed.

Pun FULLY intended.

(in reply to FullfigRIMAAM1)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/24/2009 10:19:52 PM

Posts: 1674
Joined: 8/13/2007
Status: offline

*chuckles* Interesting training method. I suspect the rationale is to wean the man off constant self-gratification. A lot of guys who flog the bishop too much end up desensitizing it to other sensations, and become incapable of achieving climax without giving themselves a hand.

_____________________________

"Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea."
-- Robert A. Heinlein

(in reply to YoungLust)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/24/2009 10:24:11 PM

aidan

Posts: 904
Joined: 5/28/2005
Status: offline

I don't know about sex with any woman their sub could have a chance with, but I do know Dommes who say their sub can only have sex with them.

_____________________________

Do what now?

"I aim to misbehave."
-Mal Reynolds

(in reply to ShaktiSama)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/24/2009 10:43:31 PM

Posts: 1160
Joined: 11/20/2008
Status: offline

Damn right! I think that's what she'd say.

M

_____________________________

The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands.-Robert M. Persig

Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence Erich Fromm

(in reply to aidan)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/24/2009 11:07:02 PM

Posts: 5159
Joined: 10/18/2005
From: Montana
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: subsubtle

I've talked to a couple Dommes before who say that subs they have are not allowed to masturbate without permission but they are free to have sex with women if they get the opportunity.

Are there any Dommes here that feel this way? If so, why? What's the distinction?

Sounds like an order from a Pro Domme. That way the client thinks about the Domme when he isn't sessioning with her and allows him to have sex with his wife or g/f. The more he thinks about the Domme, the sooner he'll pay for antoher session.

(in reply to subsubtle)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/25/2009 12:07:50 AM

Posts: 1125
Joined: 10/14/2006
From: The Netherlands
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: subsubtle

I've talked to a couple Dommes before who say that subs they have are not allowed to masturbate without permission but they are free to have sex with women if they get the opportunity.

Are there any Dommes here that feel this way? If so, why? What's the distinction?

I wonder who you spoke too...!

It would rather say it is the other way around,
and then Not cum of course, because that's the fun of it !!

I wish you enough,

GoddezzT`

_____________________________

~* The only disability in life is a bad attitude. ~Scott Hamilton*~

~*Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart. ~Kahlil Gibran*~

(in reply to subsubtle)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/25/2009 8:19:52 AM

Posts: 59
Joined: 6/7/2008
Status: offline

Sounds like this woman I was talking to was pretty unique in her beliefs!

I didn't expect many of you ladies to agree with her which is why I asked.

Thank you, all.

(in reply to GoddessTeaze)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/25/2009 8:24:20 AM

Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline

I know a lesbian sub who was told that she could get all the action she wanted but not masturbate... so it is not unheard of! It made the lady pretty flustered at times, too. (and NO I was not the one giving that order!)

I can't imagine telling that to a man, especially not a man that *I* planned on having contact with. I take my fluid bonding seriously!

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]

(in reply to subsubtle)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/25/2009 10:40:33 AM

Posts: 2492
Joined: 1/25/2009
Status: offline

It wouldn't work for me. I might let him masturbate, but wouldn't want him having sex with anyone except me unless we were in a closed polyfi relationship.

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/25/2009 11:34:32 AM

Posts: 913
Joined: 9/15/2006
Status: offline

i see my mistress on a weekly basis ..sometimes more

our fluids have bonded very nicely thank you

whether she gets me to cum by a nice long slow fisting

or by her allowing me to cum inside of her ..she does get me to cum for her one way or another

i love saving that for her and sharing that with her and she has told me no jacking off unless she gives me her ok

she loves feeding me back my cum whether its a snowballs kiss or a creampie ...one way or another i will swallow my cum for her

and i dont mind doing so either ..because i want to keep her happy

a happy mistress is a good thing trust me

love our times together ...have fun mal

(in reply to Andalusite)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/25/2009 12:57:28 PM

Posts: 19612
Joined: 9/27/2008
Status: offline

Possibly these women have said to their subs something slightly coded and which might be translated as "You're not allowed to masturbate. If you do, you've failed the test and may as well have sex with other women - in which case you can forget seeing me again." In other words, a test of loyalty.

If not that, my bet's on the weaning-a-man-off-hand-shandies idea. But the order still seems odd to me, whichever way I look at it.

_____________________________

http://www.domme-chronicles.com

(in reply to subsubtle)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/25/2009 1:05:19 PM

LovingMistress45

Posts: 271
Joined: 2/7/2009
Status: offline

hmmmmmmm......how about no masturbating and no sex? I like that much better. I can't see any circumstance in which I would let a sub have sex with other women.

(in reply to PeonForHer)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/25/2009 6:53:43 PM

Posts: 1026
Joined: 10/30/2006
Status: offline

Okay, I will throw My hat into the ring, for whatever it is worth.

My pet and I are not romantically matched. Saying that, if/when he finds a girlfriend, I would not forbid him to have sex with her. I would, however, still put restrictions on masturbation. He already explains to potential mates that he is owned and sex is part of the dynamic. (This does limit his choices but at least he is honest)

I would not tell him he was allowed to have sex with any and all women that were available though.

Lady Jag

_____________________________

Don't take life too seriously; No one gets out alive. .
Could a blue screen of death constitute being defenestrated?
~Owner of wolf~ (one of them, anyway)

(in reply to subsubtle)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/25/2009 7:08:31 PM

Posts: 248
Joined: 12/4/2007
Status: offline

~FR~

The only motivation I can think of is perhaps that she wants him to -only- get pleasure when he's (hopefully) giving pleasure to someone else. Make orgams a selfless act, almost, and take the focus off himself?

Either way, it's not something I'd be inclined to do.

(in reply to PsyVamp)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/27/2009 12:18:26 AM

asianintraining

Posts: 4
Joined: 4/5/2009
Status: offline

That would be torture for me because i have never cum during sex LOL

(in reply to subsubtle)

RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. - 4/27/2009 12:41:25 AM

Posts: 616
Joined: 9/20/2007
From: in servitude
Status: offline

Master forbids me to masterbate unless He gives permission and when i ask i don't always get it.....however He would never say no to that and yes to His slave having sex with anybody else. To me that scenario would be an odd situation, but then Wwe all do what is right for Uus don't Wwe? i do have to say however, that i would not be able to be romantically attached to someone who said that to me. Another thought however, is that this could be another way of making sure the s type understands that his/her body is not their own to use as they wish. That to me makes alot of sense, but the method of underlining it in this case seem to be suspect. If the s types body is not their own, how then can they make a decision to have sex with someone else? That decision surely should not be taken by the sub... Just some rambling thoughts before the school run lol!

gabrielle x

_____________________________

Slave to Master Slayer

~ Host of the Rather Marvelous Greenwich Munch ~

"There is no such thing as liberty. You only change one sort of domination for another. All we can do is to choose our master."
D. H. Lawrence

(in reply to asianintraining)

Page: [1]

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> You can have sex but you can't masturbate.

Page: [1]

Jump to:

New Messages	No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages	Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages	Locked w/o New Messages

Post New Thread

Reply to Message

Post New Poll

Submit Vote

Delete My Own Post

Delete My Own Thread

Rate Posts

Collarchat.com © 2024

Terms of Service

0.116