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"Switches can Hurt, but can be Loving also."

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Like Alexa, i do not have much in the way of submissiveness in me, however in the situation postulated in the OP, I think i would hook up with said person, and start searching together for submissives...become one of the Dom/Domme couples that so confused somebody in another thread .
I don't think a switch is something one can choose to become, any more than one can choose to be a dom or a sub. It is something you either are or you aren't.
At the moment I describe my Pet and I as a male dom/female sub couple, however as we explore ourselves and grow, I believe that we would probably be more accuratly described as a male dom/female switch couple.

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We met in an online game of all places and it was an instant attraction up until he said "I'm into VERY submissive women". He was a dom and I am a domme, no submission here on this end. To complicate things he was into Gor and was married to his slave but they were separated. We got to be friends, VERY close friends and his sometimes *macho ways* would get on my nerves. But we realised quickly how much alike we were and how close we had become. He told me he loved me after a year and I felt the same way. He released his slave and got a divorce, moved back to his old home town which isnt far from where I live.
The dominance factor was a bit of a problem as we both love BDSM but I just couldn't be the submissive sort of woman he was used too. I am a true believer in equality between the sexes. We discussed this in detail and I told him do some soul searching if you can't live without a sub female then by all means go find yourself one, don't try to live life and be unhappy. After awhile he came to me for a heart to heart talk and he revealed he'd always had submale fantasies but was to afraid to ever voice them to anyone. He said he felt like he was living behind a mask and it was one of the reason's his marriage had failed. He wanted to know if I would view him as less of a man for his wanting me to dominant him. I told him he could never be anything but a man in my eyes for it takes a brave soul to admit who you truly are and what it is you truly desire.
My BF now is a very happy switch and in fact he is running more sub then anything. I occasionally switch but can only do so in *baby girl* mode with him as *Daddy*, I have a real hard time with submission. He doesn't miss being a dom at all and in fact is something of a painslut
MistressAlexas

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"You have been Chosen to speak, but do You speak what You have chosen?"

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If you're monogamous and both submissive, can you not both look for a Dom/me together?

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"You have been chosen to speak, but will You speak what You have chosen?"

Sincerely, Ant

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ORIGINAL: knees2you

When Your A Dom/Submissive/Slave,

and You have met your match, {meaning the same as You are}
there is nothing to do other then becoming a Switch?

Has anybody here been a Master, Mistress, Submissive, Slave
and have found the same in another person?

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ORIGINAL: pollux
There are at least two issues that seem like they would be problems:

How do you get your BDSM needs met? (an equally obvious answer is you each go outside the relationship and find a sub, or you could switch)

And, who wields the power/authority in the relationship if your partner is also dominant?