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question for Masters - 4/28/2009 9:00:49 AM   
euroluv


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Status: offline 		   id otn know quite where to start but its the following thing i am wondering about  I have a Master and we use to see eachother every 2 weeks at least and  have  a very reg contact on msn here hotmail texting or phone . now it has been almost 6 weeks since i've seen him or spoken to Him  altough he has send me 2 mails in the last     2 weeks saying he is extremely busy  and  tried to meet but never happened . i am kinda worried he is just letting me go slowly but surely  what is Your opinion on this  would be welcome as i  have no idea what to do  i've tried contacting Him  but no replays .iv e always been loyal  and faithfull to Him and we never had any problems  we always talked everything trough whatevr we had done that day  . i love Him and  wear the collar with pride but am scared its all over
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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 9:17:22 AM   
SirMIkeSD


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Status: offline 		I can't say what is in his head, no one can but him. You have said he is busy and has sent you two emails, do you have reason to not trust him at his word your post says otherwise to me. Seems to me you are questioning him when he has told you what is going on. If he had not have sent you hose 2 emails telling you he is very busy I could see your concern about being dumped, but he has and you have no reason not to believe him from what I can tell. Do don't say what he does, is he in banking or automotive related position, if he is in anything related to these or any other field that is going down the tubes get over it and give him some time.

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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 9:21:13 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I assume you have asked him before asking complete strangers?

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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 9:24:49 AM   
euroluv


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Status: offline 		ive tried asking emailed him asked him here by leaving a post and  textmessaging and so on what more can i   do ?so no replys

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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 9:29:27 AM   
subtlebutterfly


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Status: offline 		it doesn't take long time to say write a message with only a hi, to let you know he's alive.
Is it a long distance?
I'd wait a little longer...like anotha week or so but my guess: You've been dumped.


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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 9:32:07 AM   
euroluv


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Status: offline 		i ve been  at the   house and  no its not longdistance  and i ve tried all i know  what  more can i do  

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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 9:32:20 AM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		It takes maybe five minutes to send an email. Ten if you're verbose. Doesn't sound good to me. Sorry.

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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 9:34:07 AM   
subtlebutterfly


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Status: offline 		ah well...nothing else you can do really, think I'm going to stick with my gut...which is:
You've been dumped.

Sorry.


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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 9:38:21 AM   
euroluv


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Status: offline 		well ive given Him till friday if no contact then i am dumped which is a shame  "sighs ". it could have been so nice and good

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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 9:53:16 AM   
hopeful68


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Status: offline 		You already asked this question.. do you think you will get different responses if it was worded differently... ??  Just Curious

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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 10:42:04 AM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: euroluv

i ve been  at the   house and  no its not longdistance  and i ve tried all i know  what  more can i do  


If you've left messages and he has not replied, if you've gone to his house and he isn't answering the door.........the answer is obvious. Move on. He has.


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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 11:38:24 AM   
akisha


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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 11:44:02 AM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		He's just not that into you.

Why would you waste any more of your time waiting for him to change his mind? That's messed up.

Get some self-esteem, and move on. Block him, and don't contact him again. Face it, he's a jerk. Decent people at least say "hey, its been fun but I'm done here." He can't even do that- what a loser.

As others have said, it takes just a minute to text you. He hasn't. Do you need him to be any more of a jerk to you, than he already has? If you let him, he will. So don't let him. I'm sure he's already moved on to his next victim by now, or was busted by his wife. How is that attractive, at all?

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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 3:55:23 PM   
Interesdom


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quote:

ORIGINAL: euroluv
ive tried asking emailed him asked him here by leaving a post and  textmessaging and so on what more can i   do ?so no replys

But you previously stated

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altough he has send me 2 mails in the last 2 weeks saying he is extremely busy

So what have you come here for?  Permission to leave him because he is busy?  Confirmation of your fears that it is all over when we know him not at all and you have all the background knowledge of him, his work/business etc.?  Maybe the relationship is not as important to him as it is to you; maybe it is important and so is whatever else is going on in his life; maybe he really has lost interest all of a sudden.  We can not know more than you.

If you don't trust him when he says he is busy, then leave him because it is all over and you are no good for him whether he is wanting it to end or not.

If you can think of ways you could help him while he is really busy and you don't want it to end, why not stop concentrating on your own needs and fears and write to him, suggesting in the subject and the text of your message that you could help with housework, cooking etc while he is so busy.

Or you could write and effectively threaten him with leaving if he doesn't pay you more attention.  That might work but if he is busy and would prefer some help rather than hassle, don't be surprised if he kicks you into touch.

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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 4:10:59 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		We read questions like your nearly every week around here.  I can only remember once when a submissive actually let us know what she had decided to do and why.  Could you please let us know how all this turns out?

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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 4:12:48 PM   
lizi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: hopeful68

You already asked this question.. do you think you will get different responses if it was worded differently... ??  Just Curious


This is a valid point that hopeful68 has pointed out about the fact that the OP has already asked this question and not very long ago. She posted almost the same thing under the thread "how long does one wait" and got quite a few answers. Interestingly enough the answers received on this new posting of the same question are about the same as the ones she got before. Unfortunately she has probably been dumped and although it's hard...it's time to move on.

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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 4:46:34 PM   
britishebony


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Status: offline 		What is it about subs who indirectly top from the bottom.  When you've explained to them it'll always be about the Dom serving them mentally, physically etc

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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 5:07:24 PM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		Man who WANT to talk to and spend time with a woman find a way. 

When they give out lame excuses like, "I've been busy" for weeks on end, that translates into, "Well, I'd rather do what I'm doing than make time to see you, but I might want to see you in the future if nothing better comes along, so I'll just throw you this little bone to keep you hanging on and hoping."

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RE: question for Masters - 4/28/2009 9:48:06 PM   
xxblushesxx


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ORIGINAL: britishebony

What is it about subs who indirectly top from the bottom.  When you've explained to them it'll always be about the Dom serving them mentally, physically etc


Why would we have to top from the bottom when it's all about the dom serving us mentally, physically, etc?



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RE: question for Masters - 4/29/2009 5:06:17 AM   
Dungeoneer


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Status: offline 		The definition of insanity is to repeat the same mistake over and over and expect a different result.  And often it leads to an even more insane response, "I'm so mad at you, I'm going to hurt myself."  Get a home gym and work out while you wait, make yourself more attractive if he does show up and if he doesn't -- better bait for a new collar.

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