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RE: The sub/slave version of the ‘top 5 annoying Mist... - 5/17/2009 6:07:46 PM

LAgirlsub

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Lady J, I do hope it's just been my not so pleasant introduction to this lifestyle that made me begin to question what do these dommes want. And even without having tried this yet (oh sometime soon I hope), I decided to start making my own not so much rules but 'conduct' when I do find someone to experience this with. Such as - I think I want there to be in my way like a play off of a safe word but instead the words 'we're in play mode' when we enter into this. So before and after, there's less confusion/misunderstanding that we're not in these roles 24/7 together. At least that's what I want with whomever I'm with.

Excuse my endless ignorance...but F/m? And so your sub changed his personality? I wonder why? I only want to be myself, but I can in my mind at least see how when we shift into this role/mode of play, it's something else. I think, again in my head only unfortunately, it could be wildly fun when I'm in sync with another woman in this. And the only that would happen is in my view clear codes of conduct. Do you think that would work well?

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RE: The sub/slave version of the ‘top 5 annoying Mist... - 5/18/2009 9:23:06 AM

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quote:

domme to meet me for a cup of coffee so I can see her in person…and often she has already made

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ORIGINAL: LAgirlsub

Have you really been told this to your face....'you're not a true submissive?' - I think my first gut response would be 'obviously you're far from a true domme.' I'm truly starting to wonder if I just want some kink in the bedroom because I feel like a lot of this is just nonsense. I want to be open and I am for the most part, but I have a tough time if a domme comes off arrogant, controlling and domineering (which some in their profiles - heck even their pictures where they don't smile - sound that way). That just won't work for me ever. I have plenty to offer and if some woman, just because she's more dominant then I am, plays this game with me, I'll be gone quickly.

Maybe I should throw out the question since I know it's been talked about with subs, but what about dommes and if they lack self-esteem (or have self-esteem issues)? Will they take it out on you? (their insecurities) - I guess that's not something that can easily be answered, but it just came to mind when thinking of a domme having the audacity to say you're not this or that...regarding being submissive. Maybe it's the part of me that has never liked bullies...I wouldn't want to see a domme who treated a sub in that way.

i hate when someone asks you a question about how you feel about a certain area of the lifestyle, and when the answer isn't something they like, they automatically do say something put-down, like "you're not really a true sub" or "you don't know what you're doing/talking about." there are NO right/wrong answers, especially when you're just starting to get to know someone for god's sake!

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RE: The sub/slave version of the ‘top 5 annoying Mist... - 5/18/2009 9:42:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: LAgirlsub

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And I should ask any dommes reading this...Are you uncomfortable with an educated or strong sub who does take her own actions (such as stating her needs, desires and asking for them) instead of just waiting around for you to act?[quote/]

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I PREFER ..a strong educated sub..
I Have it in my profile...
A weak sub has nothing to give..an uneducated sub..prehaps cannot hold the conversations I wish...provide feedback or may not have the skill sets I want to enhance my life..
A weak sub cannot THINK..past robot mode...
IT takes a strong man to surrender and lend me his power

GQ

I Am still having trouble with the quote thing,,,help duh

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RE: The sub/slave version of the ‘top 5 annoying Mist... - 12/11/2013 6:51:00 PM

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Holy mother of Jeebus.
I'm domme, and readin this all kinda made me smile.
Put it like this, there is a level of respect general people have for each other, and I can only speak for myself, but I will show any sub, slave, the same respect they show me. AFTER I have talked to them on an equal basis and our agreement has been made.Like holy hell, I don't take the title of mistress, and I will surely not be claiming that until I have spent my time EARNING that. But there is a fair amount of respect to be given to someone who can willingly submit themselves to me. I can agree and disagree with the things being said here but give credit where it is due. Not all dommes want you to be at every beck and call the moment you first speak. Some of us are realistic and know what we want and respect subs and slaves as they respect us. Besides that, anyone with their head that far up their ass is not someone any I know would even want to talk to, domme or sub.

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RE: The sub/slave version of the ‘top 5 annoying Mist... - 12/11/2013 7:55:46 PM

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Psst...
Check the date of the post above you. This is a dead thread. It is considered bad form to raise the dead.
You might want to start your own.

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RE: The sub/slave version of the ‘top 5 annoying Mist... - 12/20/2013 5:15:39 AM

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