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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 1:20:17 PM

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If you want a sex slave, then a photo of a sexy girl in a trashed out room with lots of beer cans and half empty liquor bottles may not matter much.

If you want a trustworthy companion/service slave also, then that trashed out room might be telling you that the girl hasn't got a CLUE how to serve the way I want to be served.

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 1:21:56 PM

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QUOTE:STEEL OF UTAH[I think more than the back grounds are the people who judge in such things. Pictures are taken all the time and if I think I look good in the picture fine who cares that the bed is not made and the dildo my wife fucks when she wakes up horny is still in the shot next to the body butter. ]

my OP clearly states
things that cause you to have 2nd thoughts......( so...NEED MORE INFO)
or curled your hair(ewwwwwwww or frightening)

I do not judge...and am very tolerant...

.IF the statement "more than the backgrounds are the ppl who judge such things
is directed at me you are mistaken about my personality

and "more than the backgrounds" does not make sense
.......more than what??
more than looking at pic? we should be more concerned with ppl judging a pic...? than the pic?? why..??

If a man looks good in his pic but has a crack pipe on his bed,,
I may wish to reassess meeting him in making an assumption it may be his or I may need more info..from him
I judge him not for having one on his bed...

If a man looks good in his pic but it show he is living in a homeless shelter in the pic and he then asks how much $$ I make a year..
I may wish to assume he might want a sugar mama or perhaps is indeed a good sub....but still I want more info based on what I See
THIS ACTUALLY OCCURED on here for me..
after asking( based on the pic background) he told me he was just out of prison and hiding fr soemeone and thought that he could exchange being a sub for a place to live for the winter plus get sex( at least he was honest)
he also invited me for free coffee..

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 1:28:29 PM

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question answered..........

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 1:38:45 PM

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Phoenixpower, have you tried to look at it from the other side? You as the employer? Of course you want the people that are best qualified for the job, but you also want the people who show real commitment, possibly represent the company, etc. Now my point would be, that if somebody can't be bothered to dress up for an interview and the first impression, that person is possibly not really interested in the job and might not give the job all the commitment.

Of course it does depend on the job a lot, if it would come to manual labour and somebody who will never be in touch with clients or customers, the way they dress wouldn't make a difference (apart from being clean, I think neglecting personal hygiene is usually a sign for other problems), but if they have to represent the company or the department in any way, I would be bothered about stuff like that...

Well, my work at that time was in a childrens home where you often end up messy with doing crafts with the kids and ending up with spillages on your clothes during dinnertime with 9 young children around you or when once in while kids throws a tantrum...it does not matter if you wear a jacket when you attend the interview or not and has nothing to do with preparation for that job...at times you are even seen in a swim suit with them you know...

Despite that you can still be dressed smart and appropriately and have all the important bits and pieces with you without wearing a jacket on a warm day in march

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 2:15:35 PM

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Phoenixpower, I wasn't having a pop at you, as I said, it depends what your work is and often getting a job depends more on how you present yourself than what you actually can do.

I work for an international company, a lot of work I can do from home, or at the office if we know that there is no client dropping in, we are fairly casual, but I keep a business suit there "just in case", if I'm seeing a CEO of a rather large company, usually they have approached us for our service (but chances are they also have approached the competition), but I will not only research the company, the structure, their image, what they have been doing, what they plan to do, I will also check the company culture, the dress code and try to find out everything about the person I'm meeting. I found dressing to fit into their company culture makes it a lot easier to deal with them, of course I could do my job just as well in jammies or jeans, but it's a sign of respecting the client to make the effort...

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 2:23:42 PM

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Which is why I was saying that you can still be dressed smart without wearing a jacket. Not wearing a jacket doesn't mean that I come along sloppy. I believe on following the dress code, but there are parts which are absolutely necessary and parts which are less necessary. If I go to court with a teenager who missbehaved I am dressed up as I am representing the employer and also have to speak up about and for the teenager I am joining, but for a normal interview normal trousers (which are not jeans) and a nice top does the job for me on that occasion and jacket simply is for that job as unimportant as if you wear grean, yellow or blue socks...but I agree that on some occassions it does matter. Nevertheless on that occasion it did not and I could only laugh about that colleague.

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 2:39:40 PM

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When I signed up, I browsed through other profiles to get an idea of what I should write about myself. I couldn't help but notice how many profiles (mostly women) that were obviously professional photos. The number seemed out of proportion with the likely amount of real models that would have legitimate pro photos of themselves. The attempts to put the most attractive photo they can find, revels how fake it is. I wonder how many models would find that the legitimate swimsuit, catalog photos they did have been copied and posted on here to be used by scammers. Many of these type of photos are accompanied by bios with grammar that isn't any better than the spam emails Nigerian spammers send out.

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 3:32:17 PM

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...I wonder how many models would find that the legitimate swimsuit, catalog photos they did have been copied and posted on here to be used by scammers. Many of these type of photos are accompanied by bios with grammar that isn't any better than the spam emails Nigerian spammers send out.

Hi and welcome to the forums.

The funnier part of these stolen photos is that the ethnicity is often at variance with the photo - that's one BIG time when the photo tells you something.

And I still want to know ... what is wrong with a bowl of fruit?

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 3:36:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: GYPZYQUEEN
What he did not know is..
......this was my sub's room..sparce for a reason( focus)
but goes to show background is important and leads to assumptions.

So you have been incorrectly judged in the same manner that you incorrectly judge others. At least you have walked a mile in their shoes.

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 4:14:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: newgirl83

" I couldn't help but notice how many profiles (mostly women) that were obviously professional photos. The number seemed out of proportion with the likely amount of real models that would have legitimate pro photos of themselves. The attempts to put the most attractive photo they can find, revels how fake it is. "

It IS usually easy to spot a professionally taken photograph - BUT - a professional photo-shoot is an increasingly popular birthday or anniversay gift, especially for women, at least around here. There are quite a few photographers/businesses that make a living out of doing "glamour" shoots with a makeover, hair, costume etc for everyday folk to look like models......so the fact someone chose as there best picture one that was professionally taken doesn't neccessarily imply they are fake!

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 4:39:02 PM

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So we've all seen the bedroom in a disarray "I am in front of the blue light of the comp at 3 in the morning" pics..

[???What else have you seen that may provide need for 2nd thoughts or that gave you addtional info..or has just plain curled your hair or caused an eyebrow raising???

***NOTE:I want to add that I wish to be careful here and
not be rude about things such as lack due to finance...or life circumstance...or things about race.religion etc..]

*I have seen a woman kneeling with a leash in a living room so cluttered with laundry and animals you could not see how she could get to the door.
*photo shot in bathoom mirror with dirty toilet( no mention of scat)
*Dom in filthy stained shirt and pants..standing by a window with no glass...just burlap
*dirty feet
*dated photos ,3 months apart with the SAME pile of debris in corner by chair..including a dildo ........ yep

*DOM in living room with whip with and collection of Hummel minitures....plastic flowers...frilly cushions( said he was unattached and had no sub)
*filthy fingernails and smoke stained fingers
*Dom who said he was 25 with high school text books on table
* crack pipe on bed
* sub posing with dead deer kill

again
I am interested in what you have seen..
not the reasons for what I have seen..I already found out..

CHEERS
GQ. ] quote

REPLY***WHERE in the above did I make a judgement??
all things in the pics were stated as what I saw..with no judgement attached..
I wondered??? I needed more info ( re DOM in frilly room)

where as yes being called a welfare bum by a messager IS
a JUDGEMENT

I asked posters about things that
PROVIDE A NEED for 2nd thought..
things that gave addtional info or things that curled your hair.
I di d not say I thought for example..kneeling woman is a pig...dirty toilet man is a poopy pants or crack pipe man is an addict..
ALL THINGS I mentioned were fodder for QUESTIONS

GQ

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 4:56:09 PM

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so the fact someone chose as there best picture one that was professionally taken doesn't neccessarily imply they are fake!

I total agree that not all are fake. The number of pro photos just appears to be higher than I expect to encounter in any given group of people. When that is combined with no other photos and extremely suspicious essays, and men I have talked ot mentioning they received spam from profiles on here, I believe there are in fact many fake profiles. All the ones I have seen have been of women appearing to be in their early 20's too. If most of them were taken as you mentioned, I would expect them to be even distributed across age, if not, then more towards slightly older women who are typically more likely to afford to get pro photos done.

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 5:15:16 PM

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Quite interesting the folks that feel the need to defend trash, clutter, dirty clothes and used dildos as flattering photos on a dating site where the objective is attracting other individuals.....to think that these have no affect or should have no affect is negating the power of our first sense - sight and the "first impression".

Having a desk or bookshelf that shows the signs of being used is far different than the topic this OP started with. Seeing people active and involved in projects(even messy ones) is a nice change to the posed photo and certainly doesn't fall in the categories of trash, filth and neglect.

Cleanliness....it's a good thing~

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 5:46:33 PM

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sub posing with dead deer kill

Now what is wrong with that????????? lol. Hey, a man has to have a hobby he is proud of, right? lol. Me cave man. Me good provider.
Look at all the questions this could inspire!!
Where'd ya shoot it?
What gun ya use ta kill that there critter?
Yup, I kilt me one last year. Ate it too.

I hope this thread is done lol.

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 6:41:49 PM

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Okay, it may just be that I'm a sexist pig here, but I think that the thinking is that 'real guys' don't eat anything but meat & potatoes, that 'real guy' abodes are very bachelor-pad-ish, & that evidence of frilly womanhood (ie, healthy eating patterns, & etc) is suspicious . . . . .

& I fully understand where that comes from . . .. . I like guys. Hang out with lots of them. But left to their own decorating & nutritional devices, bowls of fruit & ruffled curtains & such like are very low probability items to show up without a femme hand behind them . . .. . . . In my obnoxious opinion.

Hope that helps, some . . .. .

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And I still want to know ... what is wrong with a bowl of fruit?

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 6:54:20 PM

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In most of my pictures, my room is my room. I have school books and papers everywhere, shoes, clothes (clean ones, because well... I like to change my mind when I'm getting dressed. =P All of the dirty ones -do- go in the hamper.) It's lived in and I know where everything is. I'm a college student and I'm sure my Master -hates- my clutter. However, whenever I go over his house, the first thing I do is make sure his room is cleaned up of all clutter. So... I don't think it really matters. As far as anyone else judging my pictures... I'm not trying to find anyone, and I think that we're all human and if our pictures are too perfect... it's a little creepy and staged and I'm going to think something's up. I like it when I can see how people really are in their pictures, that way (if I were trying to find someone) I wouldn't feel blindsided later. Especially since I'm on the I've got to clean it up end. =P

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 6:58:12 PM

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1)if the thread bothers you don't look at it............????

2)ONCE AGAIN I REPEAT FOR THOSE WHO DO NOT READ

**I NEVER ONCE SAID ANY OF THE THINGS IN THE PICS WERE WRONG>>>>EVER>
go back and look I stated what was there...but no comments..
(except frill man)
**I stated that they gave one info for further query and I also stated I found out more about each one adn would tell it//

THIS actually proves that SOME ppl DO JUDGE.though.
because they are actaully judging the

things in the pics as right or wrong WHEN NOTHING was said

GQ

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 7:12:11 PM

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I got a cmail yesterday from a 24 year old Dom with his profile pic taken in front of Chuckie Cheeses

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 7:20:43 PM

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I got a cmail yesterday from a 24 year old Dom with his profile pic taken in front of Chuckie Cheeses

Now that is kinky.

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RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics - 5/6/2009 7:24:29 PM

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I'll be the first to admit, my chambers are a MESS! I write, I study, I do research, I draw. There's papers, pillows, stuffed animals everywhere. The pillows and plushies, because the pet likes to cuddle with them (plushies more than pillows), I like to pile them up around me when I read, write, draw. There's various claptrap on top of my entertainment center, including pens, pencils, computer wires, even the occasional empty soda can (I have a bit of a lazy streak sometimes... usually). However, do I take a picture in this? Nupe. I have a pic by the fence to the backyard, in my driveway, a couple shots from my room, but they're just headshots and a blank wall behind me. Why? Because it's clutter. Not filth, that's just... ew... But clutter, whatever in the picture... it's supposed to be a picture of me, not all of the stuff I have, not my room, but me. You want a pic of my chambers, ask. I'll think you're odd probably, but will most likely show you, after we've talked a while. But that's not what I want my first impression to be. If someone wants to contact me, I want it to be because of what I've written (good or bad), because of the first impression in my photo, etc. Not because they want to talk about the clutter on my shelf.

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