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im new here so.. - 2/7/2006 12:58:04 PM   
acuriousgirl


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RE: im new here so.. - 2/7/2006 12:59:28 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Same way you get into relationships in the vanilla world.

Learn, be yourself, figure out what works for you.

Do NOT get into ANY committed relationship for at least 6 months.

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RE: im new here so.. - 2/7/2006 1:00:39 PM   
acuriousgirl


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RE: im new here so.. - 2/7/2006 1:09:07 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Where you've been before you got here.

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RE: im new here so.. - 2/7/2006 1:13:32 PM   
acuriousgirl


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RE: im new here so.. - 2/7/2006 1:15:20 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		How do you find out what you like in vanilla relationships without getting married or seriously committed?

Also, if you find something you aren't sure about, click on the "search" link at the top of the forum page and do a search for it. Likely it's been discussed and you have lots of info at your fingertips.

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RE: im new here so.. - 2/7/2006 1:16:16 PM   
DelRey


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Vanilla = not kinky

Where you've been before you got here.


Kansas, just her and toto

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RE: im new here so.. - 2/7/2006 1:24:54 PM   
RavenMuse


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ORIGINAL: acuriousgirl

is there anyway to find out what i like and dont like? with out being commited?


Read the forums, search the web, learn what others are doing and look inside yourself to see if they are things you find appeal (Or conversly things that definatly DON'T appeal that you may want to note as hard or soft limits).

Above all learn who you are and what you want BEFORE getting into anything.

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RE: im new here so.. - 2/7/2006 2:28:28 PM   
Marquisd


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ORIGINAL: acuriousgirl

how do people get masters and become slaves and such?


be yourself first of all :)...........go with the flow have street smarts have a profile that actually says something ignore the HNG mail be patient and take your time if it doesn't feel right it's not for you

cheers and good luck

Marquisd

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RE: im new here so.. - 2/7/2006 2:45:13 PM   
windy135


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Status: offline 		Read Read Read!!! and talk to people. One thing you will learn that there are no lines drawn on things everyone is different and everyone does their own thing. That's what's great about the lifestyle! good luck :)

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RE: im new here so.. - 2/7/2006 3:40:31 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: windy135

Read Read Read!!! and talk to people. One thing you will learn that there are no lines drawn on things everyone is different and everyone does their own thing. That's what's great about the lifestyle! good luck :)

Actually yes, everyone draws their own line and everyone does their own thing.

But a lot of people try and make other people wrong for drawing their lines differently and try and make others feel bad about not doing the same thing they are doing.

Just like the vanilla world.

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RE: im new here so.. - 2/7/2006 4:20:08 PM   
Sensualips


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Kansas, just her and toto


If I had a dollar for every time I heard a variation of that joke....

Well, I could definitely get that custom fitted corset I have been drooling over. Probably even enough left over for a few CDs and some Coldstone.

-Ms. Lips, A Kansas Girl

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RE: im new here so.. - 2/7/2006 6:42:19 PM   
Petruchio


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s. Lips, A Kansas Girl


Oh, stop that! You'll just get me work up again!

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RE: im new here so.. - 2/7/2006 6:48:11 PM   
Petruchio


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ORIGINAL: acuriousgirl

how do people get masters and become slaves and such?


You read, work hard, and then eMail me for an appointment. (heh heh, little girl)

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RE: im new here so.. - 2/8/2006 9:25:43 AM   
MasterRobert1


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Status: offline 		What is it you're looking for? I mean, why did you become interested in BDSM D/s? The best advice that can be offered is, explore. I recommend a real life BDSM D/s educational/support group. Lets of them around. That way you could see and hear with your own eyes and ears. Here's a url that might be of use.
http://www.darkheart.com/usalist.html

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RE: im new here so.. - 2/14/2006 2:28:19 PM   
TyrAnasazi


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Status: offline 		Take your time, read and talk with other subs and slaves. Learn to understand yourself. The clue is look within, and see who you can relate to. If you had to respect someone and obey who would you pick? There are many books, and sites along with journals people write that can help you. Don’t be in a rush because you will find yourself in the bargain basement section, and be turned off by the lifestyle. Most of all if you are not ready to be attacked stay out of the chat rooms until you are at least a little experience. You will get more crap than you are ready for.

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RE: im new here so.. - 2/14/2006 4:24:45 PM   
kc692


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ORIGINAL: acuriousgirl

is there anyway to find out what i like and dont like? with out being commited?


It doesn't look like you visited this threaed since you started it, smiles, but, it is helpful to have profile info on the other side if you are seeking to meet others, otherwise no one can initiate contact with you....

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