Rainfire
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I have to agree with Antipode, until you have that confirmation that yes, he's on his way, anything can happen. I know someone who was involved in a LDR and the other person kept promising to be up and move to them yet for 15 months, every time it came time to meet and for her to move, something happened. They never did meet up, after so much baloney and lies, it was called off. Yet I was able to arrange to be here within a few months of agreeing to be with Lumus', things worked out like a miracle for me to be here. I have had extreme LDR experiences, one time I flew 2500 miles to meet someone who ended up standing me up for 3 days (best damned 3 days of the trip!) in Baltimore, MD, then when they finally showed, it was discovered that they were totally not what they'd told me. In came out that the pictures and cam time were the person's friend, who matched the description I'd been told, which was he was 6', Irish, black hair and blue eyes and the pictures supported that. Reality was he was a female, African-American about 3" shorter than me and much heavier than what she'd said. Needless to say, I was freaking out and all trust was lost - it ended the relationshiop. Then I met Lumus on here at CM and moved out to Him. Best risk I ever took, we'd been honest upfront, nothing was hid or kept back and look where we are now. ZD, meeting obstacles is just like any relationship. Only in LDR's, you have to add in travel complications, costs and sometimes, Immigration. Handle them as they come up, just like any other obstacle in a relationship. Honest communication works wonders.
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"I have sold my soul to the devil for You, will You still love me when I am soiled, stained and souless in my love for You? Or is this the beginning of the end?" Proud member of the Clan Scarlett O'Hair
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