CallaFirestormBW
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So if a submissive is in a place where she can't see clearly, don't doms make demands all the time that they are expected to obey? If he knows she is not doing so well, isn't that coercion by your own definition. Isn't he forcing her? If a person enters into a relationship where xhe agrees, at the outset, to obey in all things, then it isn't -force-... it is honoring a pre-agreed-upon contract. It is CONSENT. I don't get to decide what is consent and what isn't for any situation but one that I am participating in. If someone tells me they consent, then it is my -ethical obligation- to believe that they are consenting. Likewise, if they tell me they do -not- consent, I have no grounds to move forward, regardless of whether or not it appears to be socially acceptable or societally imperative that I do so. I am going to comment more here, and I strongly suspect that you' won't like it, as I'm about to go after one of those societal "sacred cows" - I've been a ministerial counselor for over 30 years. In that time, I've seen a LOT of people who have been in what I perceived to be domestic violence situations. Some of them have come to me for help, and I've helped them find their way out, helped them put their lives back together, and for more than 80% of them, had to watch them -choose- to return to the person who they claimed, just a few hours, days, or weeks before, was battering them. I've called the cops on individuals that I believed were in domestic-abuse situations when they wouldn't leave on their own... and, over the years, have had several commit suicide because the person who was abusing them was incarcerated and they couldn't "go home". Those experiences absolved me of any sense of being able to understand -why- people choose certain relationships and stripped away any illusion I might have of what it means to do something "in someone else's best interests". How the -hell- are we supposed to know what is in another grown adult's best interests??? *shakes my head* Dame Calla
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