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MaamJay -> RE: Who does the dishes? (7/7/2009 12:09:05 AM)
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Master and i have always split the chores up pretty fairly. We've always said that even if I found a full time sub, that would not be an excuse to get rid of all our chores. We are both believers in everyone contributing to the upkeep of a household. In our new mobile home life, a bit of rearranging of chores was inevitable, but it's still a pretty fair split.
He does the pet care stuff - feeding, watering, cleaning the kitty litter, taking the dog out most times. However, He doesn't do pet medical stuff, so i am the one who gets to bath and groom them, clean out mucky ears etc! He also does the physical work of setting the van up, plus maintenance such as emptying out the waste tanks (so glad i don't do that one!). He also keeps the couch in place (grin) but, more often than not, will be the One who carts the rubbish bag to the bin. And He sets up the computer gear and tunes in the TV. He also exercises great patience when i've got absorbed in my work and forgotten to cook dinner! And He has been known to sweep the van out a couple of times. When we're on the move, He does the lion's share of the driving because He enjoys it so much, but it's my job to keep Him entertained with chat, crossword puzzles, reading books aloud to Him ... it's a bit of a relief when He opts for music! When parking the van, it's my job to be out there with walkie-talkie being the reversing camera, while He has complained sometimes about confusing directions, He's had to admit i'm way better than anyone else who has tried!
i do the laundry, the cleaning (dusting definitely, i don't mind doing the vacuuming and mopping too though sometimes He likes to play with the vacuum Himself!), all the cooking and ... the dishes! Of all those, the dishes is my least favourite job and if (when, thinking positively!) I have a subbie, the dishes WILL be their job! However, we also rarely need to scrape them, having a willing doggie tongue (and also sometimes a raspy cat one) just under the table! i also plan the menus, liaise with the mail forwarding person, make bookings and appointments, and am working on my PhD and other odd jobs for income. When we get gigs however, we share the setting up but the heavy work falls to Him, but we both perform. We also shop for groceries together though i suspect the bill would be a little less if He'd let me go alone LOL!
The final caveat is ... that if either of us is unwell, the other picks up the slack without needing to be asked. And sometimes we do the other person's chores just as a nice surprise, as an "i love you" thing. When He does the dishes ... i love Him everso much LOL!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]
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