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young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 9:50:03 AM

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Your a late 40's early 50's dom who has managed to snag a hot 30 year old slave. so you spend the next 25 years together and, well, you kick the bucket. so you are at the perly gates and Saint Peter motions you over and he says"look down" so you look down and you see your now 55 plus year old slave, crying out of loniness. St peters looks at you and says" Looks like you were alittle selfish wern't you?
What is your response and why

RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 9:54:05 AM

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Since when does love have an age limit and we were both adults knowing the risks of getting involved when we met.

25 years of happiness is something EVERYONE should Aspire to why judge me because your boss took me too soon for her? I am happy with the time we spent together.

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 10:08:09 AM

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I'm going to go with Steele on this one. There's a lot of folks in the world who'd give their right arm for any single year that Carol and I have had much less 25 of them. Let's assume god showed up to me on the day that Carol & I met and showed me a glimpse of the time we would have together. Then assume god tells me that I can have that if I want, but only for 25 years and then it's over. So the question is, would I take it?

*snorts coffee* That is so NOT even a question.

My answer to St Peter's question? Yeah, you could look at it that way. Or you could say that I spent 25 years giving her something worth that much crying.

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 10:11:27 AM

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My boy will quite likely die before I do - he is much older and in poorer health. I love him very much and cherish our years together. I know his death will be awful for me, but I create my own happiness, and I do not expect any other person to be responsible for whether I am lonely or not. Was he selfish to open his heart to me and love me in celebration of my quirks and craziness?

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 10:17:13 AM

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The first man that i called Master is 28 years older than i.

however, with his family genetics and healthy lifestyle, he could have easily as much remaining lifespan as i do. other of his relatives have lived past 100, i don't have that kind of longevity in my family.

i did seriously consider the fact i might have to nurse him for years if his health failed though. at that time i knew i loved him enough to do it.

nobody knows how long they have to live or what thier state of health will be in a few years.

if the person is important to you, you are going to have to face these kind of issues for yourself. no one can tell you which is the right way to go.

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 10:28:05 AM

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Your a late 40's early 50's dom who has managed to snag a hot 30 year old slave. so you spend the next 25 years together and, well, you kick the bucket. so you are at the perly gates and Saint Peter motions you over and he says"look down" so you look down and you see your now 55 plus year old slave, crying out of loniness. St peters looks at you and says" Looks like you were alittle selfish wern't you?
What is your response and why

Everything ends. Nothing is permanent. Doesn't matter if a slave is 30 years younger than I am, and only spends 5 years in my collar. If those five years were safe, and warm, and happy, and fulfilled and better than they would have been bouncing in and out of the beds of those her own age who were just looking for a nice quick fuck, she did well for herself, and is very likely better equipped than she would have been for the next years of her life, whatever they may bring. I don't think there is much improving on that.

Is it prefereable that everyone find someone right out of college that they're going to spend forever with? In some ways, I suppose. There is something to be said for continuity. It's very, very rare that it happens though. Just about everyone is going to go through a series of relationships of various kinds in their lives before they "stick" somewhere, if they ever do.

I know that there are all kinds of social and cultural taboos about older men keeping young girls around, and why someone might see it as self-serving or wrong in any number of other ways. I think it depends a lot more on the actual people involved, and their qualities and character, than any generalization you're likely to make.

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 10:43:48 AM

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quote:

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Your a late 40's early 50's dom who has managed to snag a hot 30 year old slave. so you spend the next 25 years together and, well, you kick the bucket. so you are at the perly gates and Saint Peter motions you over and he says"look down" so you look down and you see your now 55 plus year old slave, crying out of loniness. St peters looks at you and says" Looks like you were alittle selfish wern't you?
What is your response and why

Everyone is selfish when it comes to taking what they want in life; that includes partners.

Why shouldn't a man or woman, for that matter; be with the person who makes them happy and content, no matter the age difference.

My late husband was 23 years older than I was...if he was selfish in taking me, then by Gosh, I was very selfish because I took everything he offered and asked for more.

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 10:44:46 AM

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Albeit not a d/s relationship, a 22 year age difference is between me and my spouse. I know that it is more likely that I'm the one who's going to bury him and not vice versa, and sure the thought sometimes scares me.

But then again when you start a relationship, no matter if there's an age difference or not, you never know how long the relationship is going to last or if the relationship is going to have that one in a million magic spark.

All I know is that I'm having the time of my life in my relationship and have been doing so for the last 3 years. I hope for them to become many more, but of course there is no guarantee for it. So I just fully enjoy what I have while I have it.

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 10:46:23 AM

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"Selfish? Because I gave her the best 25 years of my life, and she in turn did the same to me? How many walk our God's Earth, and will ever know what we did?"

And, because it is due mention, My sub is ten years older than I.

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It also bares mention that I could get in a fatal car accident on My way to work tonight, or at any point, or one of a billion other possiblities.

As that old saying goes "Better to have known love, and lost, than to never have known."

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 10:53:07 AM

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And in this, there is also a belief that us young women are done a disservice by our older partners. How about those of us who prefer not to have children? Who prefer a set of priorities that differ from those typical of men in their 20's and 30's? Who prefer people we can wax nostalgic with, and are less likely to try to borrow money from us? Yes, I can see how badly I have been abused. Poor me.

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 10:53:41 AM

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I would tell any one who said something as stupid as that, that, If you love someone and they were good to you, and you had something special they'd be crying weather or not we were the same age, or decades older than the other.

Plus I don't believe in god or heaven, or after life or any of that stuff, so it'd be pretty far fetched.

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 10:54:26 AM

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And in this, there is also a belief that us young women are done a disservice by our older partners. How about those of us who prefer not to have children? Who prefer a set of priorities that differ from those typical of men in their 20's and 30's? Who prefer people we can wax nostalgic with, and are less likely to try to borrow money from us? Yes, I can see how badly I have been abused. Poor me.

LOL I love your sarcasm .....

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 11:48:14 AM

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Your a late 40's early 50's dom who has managed to snag a hot 30 year old slave. so you spend the next 25 years together and, well, you kick the bucket. so you are at the perly gates and Saint Peter motions you over and he says"look down" so you look down and you see your now 55 plus year old slave, crying out of loniness. St peters looks at you and says" Looks like you were alittle selfish wern't you?
What is your response and why

Assuming that I don't get rejected again from Heaven for wanting to make it a BDSM retreat and corrupting Angelic lifeforms, I Imaging that Saint Pete having that very conversation with me for marrying a lady 30 years my younger. Still the chances of me entering the Pearly gates are remote having had five attempts at getting dead and have the reject stamp tp show it along with the reject stamp from Hades for attempting to take over the joint and make it a BDSM Play Palace, are indeed slime to say the least .. Ahh well I'll probable remain on this plane of existence pissing off people as my eternal task..

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 12:19:38 PM

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My two late husbands were born the same year I was born. So what does age have to do with kicking the bucket? My Dom is 10 years older than I. Which one of us will go first is anyone's guess.

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 12:27:35 PM

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Since when does love have an age limit and we were both adults knowing the risks of getting involved when we met.

25 years of happiness is something EVERYONE should Aspire to why judge me because your boss took me too soon for her? I am happy with the time we spent together.

Steel

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 12:34:38 PM

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Your a late 40's early 50's dom who has managed to snag a hot 30 year old slave. so you spend the next 25 years together and, well, you kick the bucket. so you are at the perly gates and Saint Peter motions you over and he says"look down" so you look down and you see your now 55 plus year old slave, crying out of loniness. St peters looks at you and says" Looks like you were alittle selfish wern't you?
What is your response and why

"Maybe, but I'm the one that's gone. Not the sub. Hopefully, I'll get the chance to look down on the sub and see that same magic happen in his/her life twice."

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 12:41:57 PM

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Whether lifestyle or vanilla...why should it matter to anyone what the age differences may or may not be? As long as the two of you are very happy in what you have and share in and with each other, that is all that should matter, nothing more.....enjoy!

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 12:55:34 PM

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My husband/master was thirty-three years older then me and left me a lonely widow at thirty-five. I would do anything for more years to be together even if that meant never finding love again.

I entered into the relationship knowing I would if all things normal would out live him by many years, that was not his problem or responsibility but only mine. I would hope my husband would tell God that my crying is a testament to the love they have for each other and how just unselfish he must be for her to love him so much.

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 12:58:57 PM

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Why worry about that crap? As it is better to enjoy Hell than the Boredom of Heaven. Doubt there is a lot of BDSM in heaven after all!

And after giving someone years of happiness and joy is much more important than what will happen after I die! They may cry out of lonileness or maybe memories of the good times and its the latter I hope?

Oh and saint Peter dont be jealous you old want a be!

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RE: young sub/older Dom - 7/11/2009 1:05:01 PM

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I tend to get involved with men fifteen to thirty-five years older than me almost exclusively, so I've spoken about this issue a number of times with different men. First of all, I agree with the general consensus that ANYONE is lucky to have had a great few years with someone, let alone decades. Secondly, and on a much shallower level, I'm simply not attracted to men under thirty and usually not very many under forty.

As for respective ages, it can be an advantage serving an older man. When age takes its toll I can be physically able to help him more than if I was his age. A fifty year old is never guaranteed, but is likely going to be in better shape than someone eighty, and that means when aging hits hard I'll have a greater level of energy to be able to physically take care of my partner than if we were both eighty. Secondly... I'm not sure I'm going to really be able to serve on my knees or take rough play when I'm frail and elderly, and while I'll always be sub my BDSM bottoming years are limited by what my heath and energy can take.

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