PanthersMom
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Joined: 11/26/2007 From: Cleveland Ohio Status: offline
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hello all you wonderful moms! i am in the same boat as many of you. I am the mom to four special needs boys, one biologically mine, the other three are drug exposed transracial adoptees. the oldest will be 18 in september, he was born weighing 2 pounds 13 ounces at 7 months gestation. he has cerebral palsy, is mentally challenged, has a host of neurological problems tied in with the cp, is almost legally blind, has scoliosis, has a blood disorder that is life threatening when it flares and had seizures for many years. he has the mentality of about a four year old, but in his adjusted classes he has a better gpa than mine, lol! number two is almost 15, has adhd and aspergers. he is very intelligent but socially he has problems that he's in therapy to deal with. his fixation is sports and this summer he's playing football with a city league. believe it or not, with me being in the wheelchair and unable to get into the basement, he does all the laundry! his charter school principal told me he was the smartest kid in his school and they'd love to have ten more. number three is 12, he was born positive tox for cocaine and went through withdrawals. i got him straight from the hospital at the age of 9 days and went through the tremors and all that with him. he is very intelligent but has severe odd. he was the one i had in residential treatment for a few months. he's doing slightly better, so i have a glimmer of hope for him. he may have some cognitive delays as he does not do well academically, but he has potential if we can get him in the right setting. number four is 11, he was cocaine exposed in utero and born about a month early to an incarcerated mother. i adopted him at the age of two. he's always been emotionally delayed and had difficulty with letters and numbers, he has difficulty recognizing and has dyslexia to boot. he also has odd, but not as bad as number 3. both of the younger boys are in day treatment this summer and will need special placement for school as the school associated with their therapy is closing. none of my boys take any meds currently, which is sometimes a good thing and sometimes not. i have dealt with three year olds who have refused to sleep, had violent melt downs and were so hyper the doctor spent a half hour with him and handed me a script without a fight. i have dealt with seizures, athsma attacks, multiple surgeries, transfusions, schools that refused to cooperate, special eqiupment, cruelty from outsiders, you name it, i've been there with all of you. yes i leashed my boys! when they were too big for that i'd dress them all the same when we'd go to places like the zoo or the fair, then i could point to one kid and say "he's wearing that outfitand looks like....." if anyone got seperated. we've done the expected behavior speeches, the routines, you name it. it's been hell, but worth every second! they are my life. thanks to the powers that be for giving us this place to vent and support each other. love to all of you and your families! PM
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