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RE: how do you know when you've had enough? - 2/22/2006 12:52:34 PM

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Hi just wondering how other subs figure out their body has had enough while in subspace.

When the Master/Dom, who by definition has spent enough time with the sub to read his/her body, stops. If you can't trust your partner to do so, don't engage in play having the potential of putting you in "subspace". Don't consider it safe if you put yourself in a position where your Dom's lack of skills, and/or knowledge of you, puts you in a position of jeopardy.

I base this on how beth and other people I've been with describe "subspace". They report that they are incapable of making a conscience decision concerning what is happening to them. Under that definition, and no it doesn't represent "THE" definition, once in "subspace" you are trusting someone else with your body. If that's the case, they should know how far to take you on your journey through "space".

i completely agree. While some may see things differently than i, if i am the one deciding when it's too much, then that makes me the one in control, and my Master would never tolerate that. my slavery needs him to always be in control.

Now, this doesnt mean to say that i haven't on occasion, "come to" and wildly cried, "Master i'm freaking out here!!!!!" But then HE decides if i really am or not. End of story.

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RE: how do you know when you've had enough? - 2/22/2006 1:10:40 PM

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They report that they are incapable of making a conscience decision concerning what is happening to them. Under that definition, and no it doesn't represent "THE" definition, once in "subspace" you are trusting someone else with your body. If that's the case, they should know how far to take you on your journey through "space".

Exactly. IF you have been with someone for a long enough period of time ( this is discounting two who have just gotten together...under that scenario, I agree 100% with LA )..if you have been with someone for a long enough period of time, they should be able to read your body reactions...and KNOW right away that either something is not right, or that you have reached a limit. Like mentioned here, and I have stated before...when I start slipping into space, I become almost catatonic. All thought processes that have to do with reasoning are swept away in the feelings. If my partner can not read when I have had enough...then I have no business being with him.

And I am in no way saying that this happens overnight, or within a month, or even a year. With my husband it was almost 4 years before we reached this stage. My partners after that...we never did.

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RE: how do you know when you've had enough? - 2/22/2006 8:10:47 PM

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Once again I am awed by the sophistry and the skill of what we do, and the risk of it left in the hands of the untrained.

Mercnbeth captured both sides perfectly. It is our job as sub to know of our limits, and when we get out into subspace we have our trust in our Doms/Mastgers to know when to reel it in.

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RE: how do you know when you've had enough? - 2/22/2006 8:39:55 PM

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My Dragon and I have great communication. He reads my body very well. There have been times that he has said 'enough' saying that my body had taken enough. Even though I thought that I could have taken alot more. I dont think that I am a good judge of what i can take.

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