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jj292 -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (3/10/2010 4:41:39 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MsStarlett
WTF? Is this thread actually worth my reading 16 pages of it to see if anyone set the OP straight?
Pardon me if I repeat myself and/or others.
Tribute has nothing at all to do with Female Domination as a Lifestyle "Failing". I come from a long line of Domineering women who all ran their households on both sides of my family. While Domineering is not the same as Dominate, it does train a girl up to know that 'wearing the pants' is not strictly a male role. We simply called it "Being a STRONG woman." Let me assure you that both BDSM Female Domination, Domineering and Strong Woman lead lifestyles are all alive, well and very successful.
As for the 'tribute' thing, lets face it folks. That's all about the sex. There are Thousands of men willing to pay for sex to every single woman who feels the need to pay for it.
The main reason most Male Doms do not ask for tribute is because they (many, not all) consider the free sex, any time, any place, any way they want it, from their female subs to be "Tribute" enough. Many men who sign up as "Dominants" aren't actually Doms at all, they just think its an easy way to get free pussy.
The reson most Female Dommes require 'Tribute' is to weed out all the "Do Me" subs who want nothing more than to be 'forced' to have sex 24/7/365 without having to bother with any type of relationship. Those guys don't want to be subs, they just want a free kinky whore to sex them up or provide the form of sexual stimulation they prefer. If all they want is the equivolent of a prostitute in a leather corset and stilettos, they jolly well better spread that wallet wider than their asses.
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I think some dominant women have the wrong idea about it though. It's typically the young and newbie women that struggle with the concept. I like to call them fake dommes. Because the whole money and tribute angle becomes the central focus of the entire relationship. If you rely on someone else to take care of you and provide for you...that means you are dependent on someone else. That's not a dominant position. That's a submissive position. And I dont think most sub men are turned on to that kind of thing anyway. The idea of a dominant woman is one who is independent, smart, creative, etc.. A woman who is a leech may be fun for a fling, but that's about it.
The fact of the matter is that money is part of our society, kink or vanilla. And no matter what, the one that brings home the bacon is really the one who is in control. If a female submissive is making $50,000 more than her dominant husband, the husband may be running the bedroom...but I assure you the wife is running the house.
Same thing if the genders are reversed. If the male sub is bringing home a lot more money than his female dom...she may be running the bedroom but he's running the house.
And I want to clarify that Im talking about lifestyle BDSM here. Im not talking about pro-dommes who are basically paid by the male to satisfy a fetish. Yeah, yeah... I know the pro-domme claims it is HER fetish that matters. But the fact is that if she doesnt satisfy the male, he'll take his business elsewhere.
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