TheEmber
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Well, now that is actually a bit of a perplexing question. The word 'Trust' has so many definitions and contexts to it that it alone makes the question one that requires a different answer for each connotation of the word. Can you trust a switch to be submissive from start to finish? To be dominant from start to finish? Obviously the answer is no for either question. They are a switch, after all. You can't trust a switch hitter in baseball to bat in the same position every time, now can you? That is WHY they are called a switch hitter, because they switch from hand to hand depending on the pitcher they are facing. Being the dominant for a switch requires a universe of patience each and every second, simply because there is no true reason for a switch to stay submissive or dominant. It is both an active and subconscious choice to be either submissive or dominant. Frequently, stress has a role to play in the situation, or at least that has been my observation of the change of a switch from submissive to dominant, or vice versa. Once you get down to it, it is an instinctive reaction to circumstances, just as being dominant is or being submissive is. To some extent, yes, there is choice, but for the most part, our nature dictates how we will react. Some people naturally prefer for others to have control over them to one extent or another. Some enjoy having that control over another. And some simply enjoy feasting off both ends of the cake, so to speak. Do I understand why people are a switch? Yes, for the most part I can at least grasp the basic concepts behind it. Could I do it myself? No. To me, allowing someone else to make my decisions for me, regardless of how minor they are, is somewhat repugnant to me. If others want to do things that way, then more power to them. I live no one else's life other than my own.
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