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Does enjoying femdom videos make one a sadist? - 8/24/2009 2:15:00 PM

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Bit of a wierd question. It stems from the fact that although I am deeply masochistic in nature, I have started to question why I like watching femdom media, where a female is torturing a male victim.

On the surface it seems the answer is obvious - its because it shows a situation that one could imagine being in.

However, when I started to think about it (ouch!), I realised that if the Mistress in question wasn't inflicting pain of some sort, the video wouldn't do anything for me. Does this make me some sort of sadist by proxy - because I need to see the victim in real pain?

I have been wrestling with this argument for a fair while and haven't come to any firm conclusion on this. I have never thought of myself as a sadist and indeed inflicting pain on people holds no interest for me, yet the above thoughts lead me to the conclusion that I must be one in some shape or form and this has disturbed me a little.

What are other peoples thoughts on this? Am I just bonkers or is there a real discussion here?

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RE: Does enjoying femdom videos make one a sadist? - 8/24/2009 2:25:25 PM

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Does the fact that I don't enjoy watching them, change the fact that I am a sadist?

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RE: Does enjoying femdom videos make one a sadist? - 8/24/2009 2:55:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Does the fact that I don't enjoy watching them, change the fact that I am a sadist?

Perfect answer. I echo this thought.

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RE: Does enjoying femdom videos make one a sadist? - 8/24/2009 4:18:43 PM

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Does enjoying slasher movies make you a serial killer? Same kind of question, in my mind.

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RE: Does enjoying femdom videos make one a sadist? - 8/24/2009 5:59:13 PM

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Nah, probably makes you a voyeur.

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RE: Does enjoying femdom videos make one a sadist? - 8/24/2009 8:58:39 PM

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I have always been amazed that slasher movies are higher rated than porn.

I mean, vanilla porn is basically making love - and that gets an X rating ... while slasher movies are about murder - yet they get an R rating.

Weird society we live in when loving is more regulated than killing.

<<< agree with the "it doesn't make you one just by watching it" crowd ...

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RE: Does enjoying femdom videos make one a sadist? - 8/24/2009 9:03:27 PM

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Agrees with pompeii and notes that there are some odd threads abounding this day.
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RE: Does enjoying femdom videos make one a sadist? - 8/24/2009 9:21:04 PM

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Same camp. To Me, it just means you enjoy watching porn that includes S/m.

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