SilentSpark
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All the people above had offered some wonderful insights. From my own experience, with new subs no one really know what to expect from a scene. Don't go too deep for the first few times, and my advise is don't leave them alone after. Some subs are OK with dom leaving them alone to recover, but before you're sure about it, better stick with them. You also need to be careful with their emotional state. because we're dealing with strong biochemical reaction here, probably the strongest any sub would ever encounter in his/her life. I've seen people burst into tears for no reason and can't stop; I have heard of people getting flash back of their past bad experience, and feeling resentful towards their current dom. Although those are rather extreme examples, and it's very unlike to happen with you. but it's till better to get prepared for such situation. you could choose not to play with that particular person afterwards, but for the time being, it is your responsibility to take care of the sub, because she's in no condition to take care of herself. That's the danger we all face as subs... sigh.... Can we drag ourselves out of that situation, sure, I've done it, so have countless others. Do I want to repeat that experience, definitely not. Also, I want to mention the sub drop, which could happen hours or days after a scene. Subs might have a strong emotional drop, depression, even desperation. Sub drop happens to almost every sub at least once. And it is a horrible feeling, things could get a lot worse if they don't have their doms to be there for them. Some people believe when the scene is over, the responsibility of a dom is over. But I believe taking care of the sub drop is part of the dom's responsibility, just like it is subs responsibility to be there for doms when they have a dom drop (YES, dom drops DO happen).
< Message edited by SilentSpark -- 9/7/2009 1:08:48 PM >
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