Blaakmaan -> RE: How to get a sub or slave to perform a REALLY hard task, like to stop smoking or to lose weight? (9/9/2009 3:47:49 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DePubed I am a 'submisive male'; I am now 61 yrs old and with a very low energy level. Due to this, although I am average/slim build, I do have a potbelly that protrudes. In fact, it is because I am so naturally thin that my waistline seems incredibly pronounced. I used to go to the gym for years when I was younger, but I havent gone for 3 years now due to no energy. Now, when I meet with different Dominants, I am amazed at how some of them try to change my appearance. They will inform me that they now expect me to work out three times a week, to exercise, and to reduce my waistline. They say that they will measure me weekly and if no progress is shown then they will punish me in ways that I d not want. Yet, these same Dominants themselves are usually out-of-shape people who are younger than me! When a Dominant starts to tell me that I must lose weight or change my appearance I realize that they do not want 'ME'. My feelings are hurt even though they try to be kindly about it or when they try to pretend it is not about appearance but about 'health'. I realize that what they are actually saying is that they do not find me attractive, but that they might find me attractive if I modified my appearance through exercise. I usually dont go back to that Dominant any more because they have drawn a line in the sane that I cant cross. i am an old man and I do not have the energy for working out that a guy in is 30's has. Again, these Dominants themselves are over weight and out of shape. No submissive who is IN shape finds THEM attractive or wants them; so they take me, who is willing to sub for them, but then try to re-work me into somethign else. It just doesnt work. no matter what pretext is invented for it. This is precisely why I stated, in my original post, that we were speaking of a case where the Dom/Domme/Master wanted the sub/slave to lose weight for his/her health, and not to approach some Barbie physique that might be more appealing (I think that encouraging or helping someone to stop smoking is always beneficial, health-wise). The latter, to me, is never justifiable (although I'm sure some would disagree). Because a Dom/Domme/Master suggests/asks/orders/requires that you exercise does not necessarily mean that he or she does not want you or find you attractive as you are, but I'm sure that sometimes that is the motivation.
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