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ORIGINAL: Elisabella I notice that on these forums when people refer to their partner, the majority of the time the dominant partner is referred to as his or her BDSM role, while the submissive partner (if not a slave) is generally given some sort of affectionate term. You see a lot of people saying my Dom/me, my Master, my Mistress, my Daddy, my Sir, etc., compared to my girl, my pet, my boy, etc. Those with a M/s relationship rather than a D/s one tend to use "slave" but I'm talking more about D/s. I have a few questions about that. 1. Do you use different terms with vanilla people as you do with kinky people? IE is he your boyfriend/husband with vanillas, and your dom/pet with BDSM'ers? my M is my Master when i speak with those that are aware of the way we live, and He is my husband when i speak to those that aren't privy to this part of our lives. 2. Do you feel uncomfortable calling your long-term partner a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend' when talking to other BDSM'ers? i usually don't because i like to make it clear what role i play in the scheme of things. 3. Do you think this is a sign of what people put primary value on? In other words, do you think that saying "my boyfriend/girlfriend/fiance/husband/wife/partner/significant other" puts a primary value on the relationship you two have, while saying "my Dom/Master/Daddy/Sir/Mistress" puts primary value on your power exchange/BDSM roles? To me Him being my Master and my husband go hand in hand. Neither is more important, nor more powerful...just a part of who we are as a couple or dynamic. i can exchange them freely with those that know we are part of a 24/7 and i feel comfortable with referring to Him in the best fitting way for the time at hand.
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