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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/1/2009 1:35:47 AM

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Chicks want CASH!

Guys want sex...

It's that simple, regardless of how we try to explain away the truth of the ongoing battle between the genders.

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/1/2009 9:09:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: cuckeeeboi

Chicks want CASH!

Guys want sex...

It's that simple, regardless of how we try to explain away the truth of the ongoing battle between the genders.

Oh, I can see you are going to make yourself really popular around here.

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/1/2009 9:25:55 AM

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Um...can I request something with Tinker Bell on it? Maybe in a light pink or lilac?

Look, Otters, I'm sorry to have to break it to you, but Tinkerbell doesn't exist.

On the bright side: Lockit does . . . .

But but....but...I clapped...I did....

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/1/2009 9:27:08 AM

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Chicks want CASH!

Guys want sex...

It's that simple, regardless of how we try to explain away the truth of the ongoing battle between the genders.

No, it's not that simple.

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/1/2009 3:02:27 PM

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Dear Person named Cuckeeeboi,

you have many things to learn. One of them is a lack of binary needs in reality.

What about power, fame, respect...... love even?

You are twice my age yet you still subscribe to such beliefs? Shocking. Truely shocking.

Tisk tisk tisk. You will learn.

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/1/2009 7:22:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: cuckeeeboi

Chicks want CASH!

Guys want sex...

It's that simple, regardless of how we try to explain away the truth of the ongoing battle between the genders.

This negates one considerable reality, however: females want sex, too.

In the animal world of which we are a part, a sum of female choosiness is generally based upon (genetically) non-heritable security concerns for resources and territory. Currency is a social construct which serves as a proxy for these non-heritable securities, indeed, but the female also chooses based on genetically heritable traits in the male that will ensure stronger fitness in her offspring (sexual attraction). When you look at the female's mating stratagem, it's (generally) a holistic one; it's not just about material concerns.

The female wants stuff from the male and male wants sex from the female paradigm isn't necessarily totally wrong, but it's not totally right, either.

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/2/2009 11:37:25 AM

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Uh.....after hanging out in the BDSM community for a whole lot of years, about the only conclusion I can come to is that a female led relationship is one in which the person with the "innie" is the dom and the person with the "outie" is the sub. Except in the cases where both partners are female or female-identified, or where the dominant has male bits but is female-identified.

Folks, there just ain't a good pigeonhole to put this one in. There is just too much diversity and variability in human relationships. There are so many ways to have a "female led" relationship, and it really depends on the individual personalities involved.

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/2/2009 11:41:20 AM

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Chicks want CASH!

I do and that is why I WORK for a living and therefore I have cash.

Guys want sex. Yes they do, so do I therefore I have a submissive that I get my sex from.

Nothing is ever really as simple as it appears to be.

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/2/2009 12:50:56 PM

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Chicks want CASH!

Guys want sex...

It's that simple, regardless of how we try to explain away the truth of the ongoing battle between the genders.

How simplistic and angry darlin. You got burned, according to your journal post I saw and I am sorry for that... but to put us all in the same line of fire and assume we all do the same is wrong. I may say most men just want sex... but that isn't blamed on all. There is nothing wrong in wanting sex... I do too... but if that is all they want, they don't get any. Nor should a woman that just wants money.

I never took one thing from my husbands... I just wanted out. I left the houses, car's, everything and we are still on speaking terms. In fact the one I left the most to, just came for a few weeks for a visit. I pay the bills around here... with help from my son's income which is fair seeing as though I take care of him in every way. I don't expect anything from a man except that he be willing to heal from whatever past he has and get on with the happiness of life with me. In fact, I really would like one who doesn't work more than part time and who can hang out with me a lot. The more they have sometimes the more anal they are about things. I live simple and I want simple.

Any poor guys out there? lol I don't want your money... just your body!

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/2/2009 2:34:25 PM

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:D I'm poor....

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Angry yes but the path can still be changed. You still have time to change the road you are on.

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/2/2009 3:39:41 PM

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That may be true in a financial sense, aquatic, but from what a number of us have seen, you're rich in some other areas.

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/2/2009 4:10:40 PM

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Well, riches bring other riches I suppose. I heard from a famous rapper that riches bring bitches.

With the blinged out glitter crocs!

:P - I've had a day like other days. Eventful.

So what was the point of this thread again? Principles of a Female Led Relationship...

don't say anything about eggs or how bland they are.

urrrm.

meh.

I do not know much of anything except dominant females are hot. I will continue to say this. Forever.

and before anyone can say put down the bong.... i have had none. i may have some brandy later which is a shocker for me. fun. so venatrix if you would care to join me later with that wine.........

RAR. Come on peeps, we have some educating to do!

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/2/2009 4:34:04 PM

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Hey, Pyro-dude, you'll have to drink that wine alone.

As of Monday, I'm going to be flying a Virgin to London, and will be unCollarMe-d for almost three weeks. I expect you to behave yourself.

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/2/2009 4:37:51 PM

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'Tis alright.

Enjoy your time in London.

what the hell is a Virgin.... a plane?

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/2/2009 4:49:26 PM

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Virgin-Atlantic Airways, I believe, pyro . . . . . Sir Richard Branson likes that name for corporations, so all the subsidiaries of his Virgin Inc have some variation of the moniker . . . . .

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/2/2009 4:59:12 PM

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Ah, well. I think real virgins create too much drag.

Thanks. :D

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/2/2009 5:51:03 PM

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Hmmm, I kinda have a thing for virgins in drag -- geeky virgins in their late 20's & early 30's, that is . ... . . Sorta Rocky Horror meets Revenge of the Nerds . . . . .

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/2/2009 7:07:04 PM

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FR, after read thru

Okay, sorry for thread-jacking above. Here's a little substantive thinking on the topic . .. . .

Shakti beat me to saying much of what I wanted to say in reading thru the first coupla pages of this thread, & did such a great job of it. & LadyNTrainer also put well some essential components of this . . . . .

There are differences between what we categorize under masculine & feminine, & outside of some of the obvious physical externalities, we can, with some accuracy, discuss the 'masculinized brain' & the 'feminized brain' . .. . . But the distinct differences are, frankly, kinda minimal when one pulls back for the big picture. Fractional differentials, mostly. & Shakti, airsmoochiehugs to you for mentioning the criterion of significant difference -- within-group variation is greater than between-group variation equals no significant difference between the groups.

The external physicalities are surprisingly loosely correlated to 'brain sex', & not just for those transgendered persons over there *waves hand, points off into the distance* . . .

Part of it is that 'masculine' & 'feminine' parse out into hundreds, even thousands or tens of thousands, of affected components which can be evaluated. & darn few persons end up on the end of the continuum in every fem v masc category . . . . & there's significant overlap in the middle of the two overlapping normal curves you get if the distribution of this or that fem / masc characteristic are surveyed . .. . . As many are a blend of masculine & feminine as are holders of the 'purer' either / or characteristics . . . .

But the interesting thought that occurred to me as I was thinking thru this thread was that relationships are such complex constructs, existing over lengths of time, possibly involving multiple persons . . . . & thus I suspect that masculine versus feminine personality differences end up being a relatively small proportion of the overall factors impacting any given relationship . . . . .

This was an interesting thread, Otter.

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/4/2009 5:57:03 AM

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this isn't false.

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RE: Principles of a Female Led Relationship - 10/5/2009 9:49:35 PM

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Gee - I didn't realize that having an FLR with my gf could get so complicated - so many issues, so much to consider. I like pyroaquatic's summation: listen....follow. It's a simple guideline for me to keep in mind. I'd rather spend more time with gf than mastering complicated concepts.

Good discussion, very illuminating!

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