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RE: A Depressed Slave - 9/27/2009 8:42:28 PM

Zevar

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When your slave comes to you and tells you she thinks she maybe depressed and she needs to talk to you, how do you deal with it when you are not ready to talk about the situation that's feeding her depression?

(note: no I'm not depressed, Me and NZ are fine, just a question I was curious about)

Ownership includes responsibilities that are not forsaken when I am asked to be emotionally available. Nor does ownership mean that when emotional issues arise that I then determine the solution to be to withdraw my word, companionship, protection, or support. Once I make a commitment with a female I am in for the long haul, regardless.

I do not extract my commitment to then be emotionally unavailable once I have given my word. Being in relationship with a female, if she is slave or Free woman, there will be unforeseen instances when being emotionally available will be required. I might add at times when least unexpected. None the less my word is my word.

Therefore when I am in relationship with a female and she comes to me and needs to talk I provide what is needed to demonstrate security and an arena for her to speak her heart to me unreservedly.

Point in fact: When my Free Companion was diagnosed with Cancer I did not abandon her when she was depressed. No way. I was there for her through each moment of depression that the disease brought with it. I walked through each moment all the way unto death.

Prior to her being diagnosed with Cancer she would from time to time become sad or depressed. I would listen to her with my all. I would lend to her my best and comfort her beautiful submissive heart. I would encourage her. I would share my times of having walked through feeling depressed in my walk. I would faithfully remind her that we all feel from time to time not at our best and might struggle with feeling depressed. I would lend my hand of strength to her. I provided her my steel strong security that her heart so needed when she was at her weakest. After all I had given her my word. My honor demanded this and more than I could have ever given to her in an eternity.

However if I would have noticed signs of clinical depression then without a doubt I would have clearly communicated my concerns. I would have presented options for professional help to be sought. As a licensed professional I would not even consider crossing ethical lines and attempt to treat a family member. I do though offer my mastered skills in listening and supporting as this demonstrates my commitment of love and guidance in action. That is something I never withhold once committed, slave or Free woman. A bond is a bond. At least in my eyes. Which is all that matters when it comes to what is mine. Once committed my love remains, depressed or not.

I wish you well,
~Zevar~

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RE: A Depressed Slave - 9/28/2009 12:54:10 AM

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Read Zevar's post mate. It might open your eyes. If you take someone on and they fall depressed you have a duty to look after them as best you can with professional guidance of course. You dont just cast them aside because they are depressed. People who are depressed need company and companionship. The worst thing you can do for a depressed person is stop talking to them or isolating them in a ward. They will never get better with just professional help. You have to do your bit too. Keep them company. Be nice to them. Lift their spirits. Talk to them. Reassure them.. I know it s a long road and not appettising but life is not easy. You dont avoid problems you meet them head on
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RE: A Depressed Slave - 9/28/2009 2:12:04 PM

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I have read Zevar's post mate. I never said I would not look after them, now did I? You likely need to read my posts again, mate. Never said I would cast them aside, mate. I am very well educated and first hand experience with depression, mate.

Rather than think you know it all, try reading my post. Also, I don't need to do anything, mate. I can be a prick if I wish to be, but that is not me. You see I even asked when did this go from being a little depressed and needing to talk, to the extreme that many thrive on.

So thanks for the pointers, mate, but they are unneeded.

Also, Zevar is one of the last people I would believe much from, or take advice from, but that is only because I know him from his many posts I have read.

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

Read Zevar's post mate. It might open your eyes. If you take someone on and they fall depressed you have a duty to look after them as best you can with professional guidance of course. You dont just cast them aside because they are depressed. People who are depressed need company and companionship. The worst thing you can do for a depressed person is stop talking to them or isolating them in a ward. They will never get better with just professional help. You have to do your bit too. Keep them company. Be nice to them. Lift their spirits. Talk to them. Reassure them.. I know it s a long road and not appettising but life is not easy. You dont avoid problems you meet them head on
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RE: A Depressed Slave - 9/29/2009 8:19:25 AM

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

Read Zevar's post mate. It might open your eyes. If you take someone on and they fall depressed you have a duty to look after them as best you can with professional guidance of course. You dont just cast them aside because they are depressed. People who are depressed need company and companionship. The worst thing you can do for a depressed person is stop talking to them or isolating them in a ward. They will never get better with just professional help. You have to do your bit too. Keep them company. Be nice to them. Lift their spirits. Talk to them. Reassure them.. I know it s a long road and not appettising but life is not easy. You dont avoid problems you meet them head on
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Kevin

I'm afraid that sometimes the isolation of a *ward* IS what's required.

My daughter has just left one, and no matter how much I love her, care and support blah blah ......*I* am not equipped to deal with that kind of irrational depressive illness and negativity. I'm not the best person for the job, end of. I'm a Mum, not a mental health professional. I have a part to play , as a Mum .....just as a *partner* has a part to play but just *wanting* to be of assistance doesn't mean you CAN. There are things you can offer and do, and things that it's best to accept that you cannot do without fucking yourself up.

I don't cast my daughter aside, I adore her , but I do have to cast her *illness* and it's ramifications aside sometimes. The worse the ramifications on the family, the more I push her onto the professionals these days. We are all still here in the same capacity we all ever were but no, if she's seriously negative and depressed, we KNOW we can't be of any beneficial assistance.

It's easy to say things like *Keep them company, lift their spirits, reassure them, talk to them*...I'm afraid that the nature of the illness can make that impossible to offer for some of us because it's SO unrewarding and soul destroyingly destructive.

I was surprised at first , at the low level of vistors for the patients in the unit my daughter was in, as I drove miles everyday to see her ........... After a month, I understood, yes, I really understood.

If I'm a *bit down* , then yes, I've been led to expect a level of attentiveness and if my owner has blippy moments, no, I'm not going to walk off in a huff.........but I seriously doubt I'd be able to be *ready* to deal with any serious depressive illness that had major destructive ramifications.

Not politically correct .....but true.

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RE: A Depressed Slave - 9/29/2009 8:44:36 AM

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Yeah depression is destructive but manageable. I ve been through it. Honestly its much easier on everyone if you can avoid the hospital ward. I didnt get better in hospital , I got better with community.
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RE: A Depressed Slave - 9/29/2009 8:46:06 AM

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Well thats good mate. I m happy for you that you are looking after her. She will be better for it and will thank you I hope in the long run. Your a good guy. I hope she appreciates your kindness
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RE: A Depressed Slave - 9/29/2009 8:47:56 AM

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Ps You have done as much as any parent would do for their offspring in this situation. I hope things look up for your daughter eventually
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RE: A Depressed Slave - 9/29/2009 12:53:19 PM

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