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lilboycaught -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 12:49:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer quote: ORIGINAL: lilboycaught So it brings up the question. Are us sub males really unappealing? Do women just not want us? Many, if not most, males are unappealing to an individual female. We're picky, neh? Your chances of clicking with a specific female based ONLY on a common interest in D/s are low to zero. If for instance you're a big sports fan and prefer beer, meat and potatoes on the table, and she's a gourmet wine snob who hates sports, there is not a lot of relationship potential or even interesting conversation potential here. If she's a hardcore gamer geek and you think D&D is for wimps and losers, or you don't know who Cthulhu is, same story. Fundamentally D/s is still about human relationships, even if you add tight black leather and whips to the equation. You can't substitute porno movie logic for how human relationships work in real life. quote: I'd rather live in reality than fantasy. I can always jack off over a fantasy, but reality is something I have to live with 24/7. Please be honest. That's the first step, really. Dominant females are real people, not cardboard cut-out images from a fetish magazine. If you treat us like real people and approach relationships with us with the understanding that we are human beings and not drive through McDomme's that exist for your kinky gratification, it's a very positive start. If all the dommes you've approached have turned out to be pros, it suggests that you're targeting professional profiles. If you're only contacting women with magazine quality photos who advertise blatantly that they want kinky sex, well, guess what you're finding. Try chatting sociably and nicely with women whose profiles seem a little more down to earth and realistic, and you won't be playing into the hands of the stealth pros. Thanks. I'm aware that there are REAL dominant females. Like You. I hope you'll understand though, and I think you do, us sub guys have to wade through a minefield of BS...it gets depressing.

lilboycaught -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 12:55:26 PM)
For some reason, CM won't let me get to the 2nd page of this thread. It keeps saying "access denied."

lilboycaught -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:00:51 PM)
Okay now it's working. I have no idea why this showed up in "Polls and Other Random Stupidity." I was in "General BDSM discussion."

Lockit -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:02:04 PM)
You had two threads, typically called cross posting. Your other one was in Poll's. They just picked this one to move to the board it belonged on and keep. As for what submissive's have to put up with around here... everyone has a burden of some sort here. Look at what you have put out there for us dominant women, to put up with. A game... a pitiful, naughty act that demands response claiming he wants honesty.

LadyNTrainer -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:09:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lilboycaught Thanks. I'm aware that there are REAL dominant females. Like You. I hope you'll understand though, and I think you do, us sub guys have to wade through a minefield of BS...it gets depressing. Surprise, I'm actually one of the pros. But that doesn't make me not real. It is written nowhere that the definition of REAL DOMME actually means "she wants me and will have kinky sex with me tonight". [8D] I do understand the frustration of discovering that all of the people you've pinned your hopes on don't actually want you, but blaming them instead of picking yourself up by the bootstraps and figuring out how to be a desirable partner in a D/s relationship is not going to win you any sympathy. Spend your time improving your own desirability and your relationship building skills, as well as figuring out better ways to meet people who may be searching for a relationship or are open to meeting personal play partners. That's a lot more productive than accusing people of not being real because none of them have personally wanted you.

lilboycaught -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:12:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit You had two threads, typically called cross posting. Your other one was in Poll's. They just picked this one to move to the board it belonged on and keep. As for what submissive's have to put up with around here... everyone has a burden of some sort here. Look at what you have put out there for us dominant women, to put up with. A game... a pitiful, naughty act that demands response claiming he wants honesty. I'm sorry. Have I been dishonest? Perhaps I have and didn't realize it. Us subbies can be very self-centered. I try not to be. But I'm far from perfect and I know it.

AresNAphrodite -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:17:31 PM)
Three words: contradiction. in. terms. No matter how many 'bossy', 'assertive', 'fat-but-physically-strong', 'massively-insecure(usually waist over 32 inches)-so-really-demanding' or any other type of 'dominant' female I meet I still find that they have a female brain. And that equals in-built, biologically evolved, chemically induced, female-neural-pathway transmitted timidity. A dominant female is always insecure in typically female ways. Her conversation topics and language used are always female. And by my (admittedly fairly high) standard of what constitutes True Dominance that means a woman can never be called 'Dominant'. True Dominance implies a capacity for emotional autonomy that women are biologically incapable of. That said, most 'Dominant' men I've met at munches are not True Dominants either. And I'm not there yet either... Working on it. [:D]

Lockit -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:20:34 PM)
You clearly want attention and are willing to come off tempermental and self focused and you are getting attention. The wrong kind of attention. Then when you get honest responses and you have had some good one's between the two threads... you get upset and stomp your feet. Thus, my calling this a game. I didn't say you weren't being honest. Look... you live in the same city I live in. I've seen you around. I didn't respond to you for a number of reasons and we did try to point those things out. Yet, that wasn't good enough. You still had some more bitching to do. Now, try getting a dominant. lol You did it to yourself. It isn't because we are all scammer's, fakes and pretend.

Lockit -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:22:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AresNAphrodite Three words: contradiction. in. terms. No matter how many 'bossy', 'assertive', 'fat-but-physically-strong', 'massively-insecure(usually waist over 32 inches)-so-really-demanding' or any other type of 'dominant' female I meet I still find that they have a female brain. And that equals in-built, biologically evolved, chemically induced, female-neural-pathway transmitted timidity. A dominant female is always insecure in typically female ways. Her conversation topics and language used are always female. And by my (admittedly fairly high) standard of what constitutes True Dominance that means a woman can never be called 'Dominant'. True Dominance implies a capacity for emotional autonomy that women are biologically incapable of. That said, most 'Dominant' men I've met at munches are not True Dominants either. And I'm not there yet either... Working on it. [:D] ROFL!

AresNAphrodite -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:28:33 PM)
One more thing. I think you should stop looking. Take pride in your masculinity and realise that it makes you superior to woman. ALL women. They are profound children (trying to find who said this, but it wasn't me originally). Flame away girlies, but it's true. Take responsibility for yourself. Responsibility for the fact that you're a bit of a pussy. Responsibility for the woman-children in your life. And stop believing you're something called a 'sub-man'. You just haven't ever discovered the joy of realising that women want to be dominated. Trust me. They do. Even the 'dommes' on here... [:D]

Lockit -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:30:32 PM)
We have a comedian in the house! Cheer's! lol

RobertCloud -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:30:56 PM)
Okay, boy, get ahold of yourself and suck it up... Being a whiny sub does you no good and if anything will make any true dominant female that might have been interested to forget you because you are too weak to take some effort. CM has the potential to help you find your significant other but it takes time and effort... Even if you search for your SO at munches it is still going to take time and effort. So grow up, be a man, howbeit a submissive man, but still not a whiner. Right now I see you as a joke. Barely worth my time, but I do want to help you. Write in your Journal everyday. Check your profile out and make modifications to it to make yourself more appealing. And visit these forums with a positive attitude, not a POOR ME... POOR PITIFUL ME... Now... get your ass up and do things right.

ShaktiSama -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:32:06 PM)
Fast reply to the thread: Lame. I hope you do give up. The real dominant women of the site are well shut of whiney losers with no staying power.

zephyrkajira -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:35:07 PM)
snickers and waits for LaT to find this I almost feel sorry for you Ares......almost [;)] waves to Lockit

queencaliph -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:42:05 PM)
Now, you give the guy a break, girl. You know he has to post a lot of messages to get rid of that vanilla cone.

KYsissy -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:42:19 PM)
quote: But most of the "dominant" females who have contacted me or who I've contacted just wanted money or wanted me to join a web site which, I suspect, they were paid on comission to recruit members for. When a 22 year old hot little number of a "dominant" is contacting you, chances are, she is just looking for money. Chances are also that it is not really her picture and it was lifted off Facebook. I have been getting 3 or 4 a week lately. You have to treat these ladies (potential Dominants) just like you would someone you would like to date. It isn't much different really. If you don't find each other interesting and enjoy each others company with your clothes on, the clothes will never come off.

lilboycaught -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:43:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama Fast reply to the thread: Lame. I hope you do give up. The real dominant women of the site are well shut of whiney losers with no staying power. Allright. Guess I'm just a whiny loser. That's what I thought I was. That's all I'll ever be. I wanted something more, but like many subs, I was just a dreamer. You've talked some sense into me. I'm taking my profile off-line.

blmtrsne -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:44:04 PM)
Yes, but... How many people have you fallen in love with ? Not that you didn"t see some girls you like, but the spark that tells you this is THE one ? My slave (who's been working in a lot of companys, meeting thousands of people had this feeling only tree times (and confessed it to me). On 27 years, this means once every then years, give and take. Finding the right Domme is at least as difficult as that, though I see a lot of young girls taking the lead. Going to the right places adds to your chance to getting some luck, but the bottom line is you have two options who don't exclude each other: - Go to a commercial Domme for good fun occasionally. - Find yourself a suitable partner (she won"t let you domme Her). She might not know she is a Domme, but she'll shure boss you around. And be as servile as you can the whole time (don't be pathetic). My point: Everyone is different, as are relations. And till you find the right one, you'll have to keep searching (try not to be desparate). To your advantage: a sub with your attitude is what Dommes are searching for. There are to many "slaves" with to many demands.

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:46:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AresNAphrodite One more thing. I think you should stop looking. I think he should check his attitude, and come back later with a different screen name. The one he has makes it appear that he's already taken. Take pride in your masculinity and realise that it makes you superior to woman. ALL women. What a crock of shit. [8\|] Being born one sex or another doesn't make anyone "superior". They are profound children (trying to find who said this, but it wasn't me originally). Flame away girlies, but it's true. Take responsibility for yourself. Responsibility for the fact that you're a bit of a pussy. Responsibility for the woman-children in your life. And stop believing you're something called a 'sub-man'. You just haven't ever discovered the joy of realising that women want to be dominated. Trust me. They do. Even the 'dommes' on here... Even if that were true, we wouldn't want to be dominated by anyone with that kind of offensive attitude. Ew. [:'(]

Lockit -> RE: Are There any REAL Female Dominants? (10/4/2009 1:47:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: queencaliph Now, you give the guy a break, girl. You know he has to post a lot of messages to get rid of that vanilla cone. LOL... my bad... didn't think of that! lol Wave's to zephyrkajira!

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