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Public Play - 10/15/2009 7:29:03 AM

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There seems to be a common issue that rises with me a lot. Maybe I am just missing the definition of Public Play or maybe I am looking too much into it. Please tell me your definition of Public Play and what it generally consists of? Does Public Play not also include 'private' activities such as having your sub/slave finger herself behind a bathroom stall, petting her when no one is around, making her wear no bra and panties while shopping, servicing you while in the car driving down the road, tieing her to a tree in a park off the trail, groping her in a movie theatre? If these are not considered as Public Play then is there a word for them that describes these acts of 'private' play in public areas? Thanks!

RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 7:38:37 AM

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I can promise you that none of the activities you describe are what I refer to when I use the term public play.

To Me, public play is a term to describe engaging in S/m activities in a public venue, such as a club or a play party where other people are present.

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 7:48:29 AM

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I'm with LP.

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 7:52:18 AM

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Hello Acquiescent,
Lady Pact is absolutely correct in the definition of public play as I understand it as well.

What you have described - nice term by the way, private play in public areas - fall into two categories. There is the solo (no bra or panties or touching herself in a bathroom stall) orders to be followed. These are quite good at reminding an S-type in a mental way of what their place is. However, the other - messing around in movies and on public trails are a little more touchy. Sure, there is a really yummy feel of "what if we get caught", but what if you DO get caught? You have subjected an innocent bystander to your kink which is not cool and you can be arrested. Know what happens when you get arrested for stuff like that? Ever heard of the Sex Offender Registry?

I remind you of this because sometimes the thrill makes us forget ourselves. There can be some serious consequences to foolish choices.

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 8:03:16 AM

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Exhibitionism is what you are describing to me
be careful... when things go wrong you or your partner in crime might be be in trouble... i think it can be very sexy though

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 9:42:38 AM

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If you really are any good at giving head, then what happens if he loses control of the car? That's something I am not willing to do. He's had me pantiless in the car and a hand discretely under my skirt, but he took his hand back when he needed both on the wheel.

Beyond that, forest rangers are licensed peace officers who carry guns. One comes across a naked girl tied to a tree and being tortured, you are both going to be in jail and he'll be lucky if he isn't shot.

And trees around here usually have poison ivy on them.

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 6:16:10 PM

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Thank for responding LadyPact. For some reason I always thought of what you described as being called 'voyeurism' or 'exhibitionism' during a munch, club, or party. Of course I do understand that voyeurism is the act of getting sexual gratification by looking at other sexual acts and that exhibitionism is the act of displaying genitals in public or behaving in such a way as to attract attention. I just thought that Public Play was the act of doing anything sexual oriented in public no matter where you are at. But perhaps I need to revise my definitions of what these words mean when Master's and Mistresses point them out.

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 6:29:31 PM

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Public play...playing in a club or dungeon

Anything else as you've described: voyeurism, exhibitionism. As someone else said though..be careful of who may be eyeing you. Someone was recently arrested here for having sex in a car in the parking lot of a church around dusk.

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 6:33:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: YourAcquiescent

There seems to be a common issue that rises with me a lot. Maybe I am just missing the definition of Public Play or maybe I am looking too much into it. Please tell me your definition of Public Play and what it generally consists of? Does Public Play not also include 'private' activities such as having your sub/slave finger herself behind a bathroom stall, petting her when no one is around, making her wear no bra and panties while shopping, servicing you while in the car driving down the road, tieing her to a tree in a park off the trail, groping her in a movie theatre? If these are not considered as Public Play then is there a word for them that describes these acts of 'private' play in public areas?

Thanks!

Public play usually means going to a club

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 7:19:03 PM

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I just thought that Public Play was the act of doing anything sexual oriented in public no matter where you are at.

This is the heart of the matter. Yes, you can have concentual play between two people surrounded by the vanilla public. However, you forget that the vanilla public has not been asked to give their concent. If you don't ask everyone who "might" see if they would be offended by the play they "might" see, then the play ceases to be concentual at all. Then it is a case of two people subjecting and forcing people to see something they might very well find objectionable. This is not Public Play. This is a case of breaking Public Indecency Laws.

I agree with LadyPact and others. To me, Public Play is play at a party or club where others are aware that BDSM activities as well as nudity might occur.

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 7:39:07 PM

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*Ahem* you will not be put on a "Sex Offender Registry" for public nudity, indecent exposure, etc... There are consequences for being caught doing such things, but that isn't it. The Sex Offender Registry is for rapists, child molestors, sexual predators (felony sex crimes).

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 8:11:05 PM

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In my state, a person may indeed be put on the Sex Offender Registry for repeated incidents of indecent exposure, or for indecent exposure in combination with being a disorderly person.

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 8:28:18 PM

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quote:

*Ahem* you will not be put on a "Sex Offender Registry" for public nudity, indecent exposure, etc... There are consequences for being caught doing such things, but that isn't it. The Sex Offender Registry is for rapists, child molestors, sexual predators (felony sex crimes).

Incorrect, depending on jurisdiction. You can wind up on the Sex Offender Registry for getting caught taking a whizz behind a bush in many places.

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 8:29:20 PM

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repeated....as in habitual

which would likely make them look like a pervert or predator and move them up to felony status.

kinda what i said, though i didn't realize i had to go into lengthy detail

glad i dont live in your area..

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 8:32:17 PM

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Doesn't have to be habitual if it's on school grounds.

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 8:32:53 PM

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Doesn't have to be habitual if it's on school grounds.

which would make it a FELONY

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 8:40:55 PM

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And in some instances consensual sex can get you landed on the sex offender list if you're say 17 and she's 15 and either one of the parents have an ajenda, hell there's an artical on a girl giving a guy a blow job in class, and she didn't follow her parole instructions and then had to sign up as a sex offender.

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*Ahem* you will not be put on a "Sex Offender Registry" for public nudity, indecent exposure, etc... There are consequences for being caught doing such things, but that isn't it. The Sex Offender Registry is for rapists, child molestors, sexual predators (felony sex crimes).

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 8:56:11 PM

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And in some instances consensual sex can get you landed on the sex offender list if you're say 17 and she's 15 and either one of the parents have an ajenda, hell there's an artical on a girl giving a guy a blow job in class, and she didn't follow her parole instructions and then had to sign up as a sex offender.
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ORIGINAL: SubOnlyForHim

*Ahem* you will not be put on a "Sex Offender Registry" for public nudity, indecent exposure, etc... There are consequences for being caught doing such things, but that isn't it. The Sex Offender Registry is for rapists, child molestors, sexual predators (felony sex crimes).

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repeated....as in habitual

which would likely make them look like a pervert or predator and move them up to felony status.

kinda what i said, though i didn't realize i had to go into lengthy detail

Thanks for pointing out that i did not pull out my law books and give you a list of every offense and the repercussions for each one. i was under the impression the other people out there in cyberspace conversing on this forum were adults and not school-age children that needed explicit step-by-step instruction and direction. Obviously, my head was in the clouds. i gave examples, not a complete detailed list. i beg your pardon(s)

There are age guidelines per state for consensual sex. In my state it is 16 and not more than 2 years age difference between the parties who are getting horizontal (oh i should clarify my slang so no one gets in a tizzy about that, i dont mean only horizontal...they can be doing it doggy style, woman on top, standing up or any other way, the rule is still the same)
As far as someone being on parole and in school (college i am assuming? because parole implies they've just gotten out of PRISON) and if they didn't do what they were required to do as part of their sentence, well, duh!

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 9:11:58 PM

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From the Wikipedia page on Sex Offender Registry:

In New York and various other states, crimes that society does not necessarily view as sexual in nature are also considered to be registerable sex offenses, such as kidnapping, unlawful surveillance, "sexual misconduct" (such as mooning or streaking), unlawful imprisonment, and in some cases "sexually motivated offenses" (such as assault, burglary, etc.) that are not categorized as sexual offenses unless the court determines that the offense was committed pursuant to the offender's own sexual gratification.

Please note that the misdemeanor "sexual misconduct" is explicitly in there. It's the second thing on this official list of registerable offenses.

http://www.criminaljustice.state.ny.us/nsor/sortab1.htm

SubOnlyForHim, you were mistaken, and the other posters are correct.

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RE: Public Play - 10/15/2009 9:33:41 PM

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As to the original question, I think peppermint gave an excellent answer. Most of the things the OP described are not public play; they are illegal in most areas, with potentially lasting repercussions. The short-term consequences of involving non-consenting spectators are distasteful to me also. Not worth the risks.

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