LookieNoNookie
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha There's a dynamic that is the butt of jokes I'm sure most have heard of - when the man in the relationship is "pussy whipped." If you are in a femdom relationship, do either of you feel this label could be applied to you - in humor or in seriousness - either by you or by outsiders looking in? We are friends with a couple where the guy is always told he's pussywhipped, because he always has to do what she says and she's definitely more domineering with her opinions, and what they should do or not do, what movie to see, when he can go out with his friends, whatever. If he gets a phone call and he's out with the guys, and he has to go home because she's having a bad day or whatever, he gets crap for that. He doesn't really care and he admits it - and clearly, she is running the show. The kink in their dynamic? I would say there's zero chance of that, they are as vanilla as can be. I just know he gets no sex unless she is in the mood, but she probably expects/wants him to still initiate, as that's the traditional way. If you contrast that with my relationship, where I am clearly in charge, this is a femdom dynamic, and my man really does have to do as I say -- no one, I can guarantee, has ever jokingly thought to label him as pussy whipped. I think that comes more from the way I treat him in public, and how he doesn't openly posture as following me around like a lost dog or waiting for instruction. He's more of the "think ahead" type. To some, even, it would appear he is *in control*. Whether he's carrying the bags, making the travel arrangements, helping me pick out an outfit, or running errands for me - it just appears as more efficiency. I guess, when I think about it, the reason no one would label him as "pussy whipped" is they don't see me ordering, nagging, or interfering. Sometimes I do think some women who "pussy whip" their men (in vanilla relationships) do so, purposefully, in a semi public way. They could have that level of control, surely, without having the guy's friends all know about it. She must just get a kick out of that? Whose pussy whipped, do you want to be, and ladies, do you want to be the pussy whipper? Akasha First of all...."Who's". Second of all...if there's no kink....this dude needs to get a fucking spine (and straighten some things out). Thirdly....I need to apologize....there was a time when some while back, I chastised you....you ask great questions. Truly. Lastly.....(speaking as a sub), it's appropriate that she has him running home when she deems it so.....however...if he's neither a sub and she's not even remotely a Domme....someone needs to sit down with these two....and if it were I making the recommendations....I'd be certain to assure him that it needs to be him. Unilaterally. LN
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