CarnalCravings
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Joined: 1/1/2004 Status: offline
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If I may, I began this lifestyle with my exwife; both of us green. We thought the same thing, we will grow into this and add to the smorgasbord of our life. What we did not foresee was that we would actually grow apart. What we needed, as we progressed, wasn't what the other did. We eventually ended up going our own separate way in life and the lifestyle. No way do I state that this would be true for every married couple coming into this. It is just that the possibility exists. I suggest many many discussions on why you are drawn, your expectations and what you want from it. I also suggest a mentor (if possible) for the each of you to assist in your goals. I highly recommend, one way or another, to find a munch near you, even if it is a few hours away. That is the easiest and safest avenue to take to meet like-minded others. One last thing to the subs here. As a founding member of a local group here in my area I have found the hardest to draw to a munch, workshop or any other function are the single subs. Other than forums such as this, they offer you the safest haven to talk, ask questions, listen and learn. If possible, do attend workshops...know what activities are in this lifestyle and what they entail. Though they may not end up as something you partake in at least you have the knowledge to make a better decision. If it is something that heats your blood, you can indulge with the knowledge of all the safety precautions in place to enjoy it to it's fullest. CC
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