lovingpet -> RE: curious question (11/13/2009 2:47:47 PM)
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Stability with a switch? Hmmmm. Better ask my partner. Yup, he says, definitely possible. I don't really get this idea that somehow a switch cannot stay within the parameters of a given relationship. The basic issue is whether or not the relationship is right for the two people involved in it. My partner is the dominant one in the relationship. Aside from the infamous hairbrush incident (which consisted of one whack on his bottom from me with his hairbrush and a sudden firey flash of disapproval from him followed by shaking and tears from me), I have never raise a hand to him, attempted to top him, or even to tell him no. He has the power and control. I do not. End of discussion. If I am abjectly honest about it, I am his slave (not formally at this point, but that day is fast approaching). There is no switch to flip in our relationship. I do, however, like to top other people and we even have a few provisions in our relationship for that. If the partner is approved by my partner, I have permission to top non sexually and sexually only with his presence and other specific requirements. There will eventually be a permanent outlet for me as well. All of this has been put in place over time in recognition of my needs within a relationship. Taking good care of me as his means seeing to all aspects of who I am rather than trying to cram me into a box that doesn't fit. I think it is a matter of deep respect stemming from the love he has for me. Stability is dependent upon the builders and the foundation they lay. lovingpet
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