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DesFIP -> RE: local BDSM community (11/15/2009 7:06:15 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Hierodule
I have a question related to this and don't think it warrants a new thread. Its was part of the original topic but i don't think it has been fully answered yet. Correct me if I'm wrong.
Do you think an individual, a Dominant, who participated in power exchange relationships for 20 years but never went to any clubs or met with others who lived the same way, is just as "experienced" as a Dominant who had been involved in these kind of relationships for a similar amount of time but was very active in their local community, attending seminars watching others scene etc?
I think its more important to consider a Dominant becasue they have to know what is safe and what isn't since they are in control and literally have someone's life in their hands.
Depends what you're looking for. If you're into very edgy play, something new and exciting each time, then a community is more likely to offer a great rigger and a great needle top, and someone who is greatin temporary brands. But that means you're playing with three different people.
Because no one person is equally interested and involved in every possible aspect.
But you don't need workshops to learn about the dangers of breath play. You don't need workshops to know that suspending someone from an eye hook shoved in sheetrock is a bad idea. You can learn all of this from reading the local newspapers. And certainly there is more info out in books than you'll get in one small group. See the acknowledged rigger in your group who teaches others what to do may only know his one style. So if he's into shibari and you're into damsel in distress, then you won't necessarily learn what you want from him. In that case you may well do better to read the Knotty Boys books and see their youtube videos.
The edgier the play is, the more you need to learn about it. But there's info all over if you look. In many ways isn't that what collarme is? A giant munch with backbiting and so on? But there are dozens of top riggers here who can make suggestions of how to do what you want and what to avoid, not just one.
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