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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 2:53:00 PM   
Aylee


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ORIGINAL: Kalista07

I admit it I enjoyed every minute I spent with both of the Things equally.

I admit it I have some serious first dibs on the Things if something happens to Red.....Especially Thing 2 as Thing 1 is predisposed to his dad.

I admit it I have decided to just post my *sex question* here.........

I admit it I do not understand anal sex.........If you were having consensual anal sex with someone would you have some anal tearing?

Kali



You could.  Just like you can have some vaginal tearing during consensual vaginal sex.  If this has occured, no need to worry (unless you are STILL bleeding) it will heal, just give it a couple of days.  This may cause some additional discomfort for the next couple of times that you have anal sex because you will be more nervous and tense.  Go slow, use lube, and my favorite, a toy or two first.  Try and relax and remember to breathe slowly.  In. . . one. . . two. . . three. . . Out. . . one. . . two. . . three. . . four.  Lather, rinse, repeat. 

Something to keep in mind is that extra lube needs to be used and more may be need to be added.  You just do not naturally lube up there like you do vaginally. 

I hope that I understood correctly just what you were asking. If I missed the mark, just explain to me using smaller words. 

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 2:58:27 PM   
Aylee


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ORIGINAL: Kalista07

I admit it I need to stop wording my questions in a 'correct' manner as to not offend someone and just put it out there. So here's the deal.... I'm looking at having to have a surgery to fix an anal tear that happened when I was anally raped three years ago.... I guess I'm wondering, from your all's perspective do you think this makes it more evidence that it's actually rape? I don't know why it even freaking matters....ARG!!!

Kali



Well yes it would go towards showing violence.  Although some people like "violent" anal sex.  And was this tear documented in the rape inspection that they did? 

If it was not. . .I am not sure that it would re-open the case or not.  I think that it would depend on your doctor's notes between now and then.  Why the surgery was not done before and when it was first noticed and when it became a problem?  All of that. 

With regards to my previous post about this, I thought that you meant a little tear with a couple of drops of blood.  Not something that would require seeking medical help. 

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 3:00:53 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Kali,

You know what happened and that it was non-consensual.  Whether or not there is actual physical damage that is visible under examination doesn't make it any more "real" or "legitimate."  As you know abuse in any form, verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, or mental is wrong.  Sometimes you can see the scars, and sometimes, like with your clients... the scars are on the heart and mind.

I love you, doll.  It's real... no one else needs to validate your reality or your past.

Red

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 3:00:58 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		Aylee,
Yes, it was documented at the time of the rape kit.... I'm not looking to re-open the case or anything like that. I'm just looking for something for my own peace of mind I guess.. I'm just trying to make sense of things in my own mind...
Kali


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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 3:19:24 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		I admit that I got this cmail:  "hi how are you sexy peice of white meat."

I admit that I am just all "blink-blink" at the amazing use of creativity, originality, and oozing sex-appeal in that one-liner. 

I admit that he will not get a reply from me.

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 3:20:00 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		I Admit it I may need to do something different....As I was scrolling by the humor section it apparently said "talking dogs" but I would have bet my life it said "taking drugs"...Which made me sit there for a very very long time and wonder what kind they were offering....

Kali


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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 3:20:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

I admit that I got this cmail:  "hi how are you sexy peice of white meat."

I admit that I am just all "blink-blink" at the amazing use of creativity, originality, and oozing sex-appeal in that one-liner. 

I admit that he will not get a reply from me.


Please tell he he actually spelled piece wrong, and it was not a typo!


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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 3:21:12 PM   
Kalista07


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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

I admit that I got this cmail:  "hi how are you sexy peice of white meat."

I admit that I am just all "blink-blink" at the amazing use of creativity, originality, and oozing sex-appeal in that one-liner. 

I admit that he will not get a reply from me.


I admit it I tried with this come on Red.....If you didn't like it you could have just told me.....

Kali


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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 3:25:18 PM   
Aylee


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ORIGINAL: Kalista07

Aylee,
Yes, it was documented at the time of the rape kit.... I'm not looking to re-open the case or anything like that. I'm just looking for something for my own peace of mind I guess.. I'm just trying to make sense of things in my own mind...
Kali



Okay. . . here is the thing. . . you were there.  You have told ME that it was rape.  Did you lie to me?  Yeah, that is what I thought.  You did not.  What you really need to do now is find that little nagging voice inside yourself telling you that it was "your fault" or "you really wanted it" and gag the sucker. 

You cannot change the past. 

The real reason that you are still looking for peace of mind is that you have spent so many damn years convinced that you do not deserve a happy life.  Now you have a fairly happy life.  With marriage plans and plans for buying house.  Well, so you have something that a part of you thinks that you do not deserve and so
subconsciously you are trying to justify and ennumerate the reasons that you are undeserving. 

STOP IT! 

You are NOT a souless, whoring, sea donkey! 

You do deserve to have a happy life.  So gag the little rat bastid in your head that keeps telling you otherwise.  For if you do NOT you will only deserve to sit in the pity pot of life. 




< Message edited by Aylee -- 3/14/2010 3:26:16 PM >

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 3:33:07 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		It will be more suspect the bigger it is, but girls have been hurt pretty significantly even with all the right precautions.  If you are worried about some sort of mandatory reporting thing, I would think they would need a whole lot more than a tear to make a report.  Further, they can tell that the injury is old and not something that happened recently.  The reality is that new incidents are easier to pursue than old ones and leaves it less likely they are going to try to push you into a bunch of legal crap.  I deal with this a lot with my girls at the domestic violence shelter.  Some of them come in for things that happened years ago or as children and are worried about a current partner getting into trouble or being hassled.  There's no guarantee, sweetie, but I have seen enough to say it is both less likely and more often than not unsuccessful anyway.  I don't know if that's really any comfort, but that's the lay of the land from my experience.  The mandatory reporters can only report.  The prosecutor's office has to determine its legal viability.  I think it is probably better to be honest about how your condition occurred than to try to hide.  Hiding usually puts up more red flags than frank discussion.  Hiding tends to give the appearance of continuing victimization and causes more alarm and a lot more concern for your welfare in the present.  No one wants you to continue to suffer abuse, so be honest about when and what happened and let them know you are safe now and just want to repair the damage that occurred to help in the moving on process.  I know it's not easy.  I have had to do something similar.  I think it is a good and courageous thing to do and wish you nothing but the best going forward.  *hugs*



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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 3:33:51 PM   
Daddysredhead


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ORIGINAL: trappedinamuseum

quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

I admit that I got this cmail:  "hi how are you sexy peice of white meat."

I admit that I am just all "blink-blink" at the amazing use of creativity, originality, and oozing sex-appeal in that one-liner. 

I admit that he will not get a reply from me.


Please tell he he actually spelled piece wrong, and it was not a typo!


I know!  I copied it straight from my mailbox to here.  LOL...

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 3:35:07 PM   
Daddysredhead


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ORIGINAL: Kalista07

quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

I admit that I got this cmail:  "hi how are you sexy peice of white meat."

I admit that I am just all "blink-blink" at the amazing use of creativity, originality, and oozing sex-appeal in that one-liner. 

I admit that he will not get a reply from me.


I admit it I tried with this come on Red.....If you didn't like it you could have just told me.....

Kali


Sorry, sweetness...  I thought your usual approach was to grab my hair and say, "Hey bitch... you're fine, you ho."  This new approach confused me.  *nods*

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 3:50:58 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kalista07

I admit it I need to stop wording my questions in a 'correct' manner as to not offend someone and just put it out there. So here's the deal.... I'm looking at having to have a surgery to fix an anal tear that happened when I was anally raped three years ago.... I guess I'm wondering, from your all's perspective do you think this makes it more evidence that it's actually rape? I don't know why it even freaking matters....ARG!!!

Kali



Hon, I'm sorry I misunderstood your post *hugsssssssssss*

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 3:53:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

I admit that I got this cmail:  "hi how are you sexy peice of white meat."


Redalicious, he obviously went to the Colonel Sanders School of Schmexy.

< Message edited by Level -- 3/14/2010 3:54:48 PM >

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Fake the heat and scratch the itch
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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 4:01:13 PM   
Daddysredhead


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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 4:22:01 PM   
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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 4:45:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		i admit that my whole scalp feels like i brushed my hair backwards - i DID NOT!.
 
i admit that i think i know what it means.
 
i admit that i knew this might happen.
 
i admit that everybody said it might not happen to me.
 
i admit tha no matter how much you understand about something it doesn't help when it actually starts to happen.
 
i admit i know where my Xanax is.
 
i admit that there is a box of tissues within arm's reach.

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 5:08:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: fluffypet61

i admit that my whole scalp feels like i brushed my hair backwards - i DID NOT!.
 
i admit that i think i know what it means.
 
i admit that i knew this might happen.
 
i admit that everybody said it might not happen to me.
 
i admit tha no matter how much you understand about something it doesn't help when it actually starts to happen.
 
i admit i know where my Xanax is.
 
i admit that there is a box of tissues within arm's reach.


I admit that I am here for Fluffy should she need me, and no matter what happens, she will still be one of the most beautiful people I know, inside and out.


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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 5:15:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thanks, trappy.
 
i admit that i have 10 fluffy points for you.

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 3/14/2010 5:51:03 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		I admit I agree with Trappy one million percent!!

I admit I am unfortunately so far gone however, that at first I had to sit here and think about why people would have told Fluffy she might not have lice.... And then it finally occurred to me that it was not lice they were talking about....

*big hugs for fluffy*
Kali


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