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DarkLordPrince -> Define an appropriate master (12/4/2009 3:06:07 AM)

There are cetain behaviors which are appropriate for a Master, and there ones which are not. Since this is clearly a subjective question, I was curious to find out from female submissives what defines their "perfect" Master.



lapgirl -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/4/2009 3:23:32 AM)

maybe a cross between George Clooney and Tedy Bruschi...lol Both are beautiful men blessed with extraordinary looks but Bruschi has the brawn that is so atteactive to me. i tend to gravitate towards bigger men. Oh, but i like the 'bad boy imagine" too... have to throw that in... leather, bike, tat.. who could fill that role?



DesFIP -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/4/2009 3:56:20 AM)

Throwing a tantrum is inappropriate.
So is asking for honesty and then punishing the s type when he doesn't like what he hears. Man up and deal with the fact we won't think you're always perfect, because you aren't.
Not keeping your word.
Demanding trust you don't merit.
Ditto with respect.
Trying to order every female in the world around as though they are your slaves when they aren't.
Treating other dominants as though they are your inferiors, starting a pissing contest because you always have to compete even when it wins you nothing and loses you a lot.



WestBaySlave -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/4/2009 1:28:36 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Throwing a tantrum is inappropriate.
So is asking for honesty and then punishing the s type when he doesn't like what he hears. Man up and deal with the fact we won't think you're always perfect, because you aren't.
Not keeping your word.
Demanding trust you don't merit.
Ditto with respect.
Trying to order every female in the world around as though they are your slaves when they aren't.
Treating other dominants as though they are your inferiors, starting a pissing contest because you always have to compete even when it wins you nothing and loses you a lot.



Replace "every female" with "everyone", and it sounds like we've met many of the same masters. [:D]













HisSweetElysium -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/4/2009 1:43:49 PM)

I have a list I made as part of my search. I had many people I talked to and considered, so it was important for me to know what my needs were so I could find the ONE.  Again, this is what is appropriate for ME, I mean no disrespect and I do not generalize that my needs are everyones! Oh and passionate is on there twice, because I need someone passionate both in the bedroom and in their thoughts and opinions

Empathetic
-understanding, communicative, honest, sensitive, patient, stable
Intelligent
-verbal, inspiring, respected, creative, witty, humorous, challenging, engaging, passionate
Strong
-assertive, protective, stable, aggressive, possessive, strict, secure
Attractive
-athletic, tall, thin/wiry, charismatic, genuine,confident, passionate, intense, full hair, adventurous, dead sexxxy! [:D]



mnottertail -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/4/2009 1:45:46 PM)

I'm all those things and got a big dick besides, and I am still sleeping with myself, so YMMV.

Ron



HisSweetElysium -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/4/2009 1:49:53 PM)

quote:

got a big dick besides
quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I'm all those things and got a big dick besides, and I am still sleeping with myself, so YMMV.

Ron


yeah that gets filed under "dead sexxxy" [:D]



sweettangles -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/4/2009 2:29:21 PM)

He knows himself and what he wants and won't settle for less, he has integrity therefore I am able to trust him even when i don't understand him, he has patience when needed but does not coddle me, he does not have to remind me of my place because he is so secure in his that mine is always well defined, he understands that nothing is more important to me than pleasing him and so he makes it his responsibility to ensure i don't give more than i have, he pushes me so that i may feel pride in my accomplishments without pushing me past what i am capable of coping with, he is strong enough to love me, and loves me enough to be strong.



RoamingCaptive -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/4/2009 2:43:43 PM)

To me perfection isn't the objective. Or rather, put differently... perfection isn't good enough. No one can be or maintain perfection, and so I'd much rather have someone who can deal with being human and imperfect in a way that inspires and motivates me to listen and grow.

Being more specific about the traits and behaviors I respond well to... I think it's all about triggers. If I am confronted with someone who is irratic, volatile or needlessly (c)rude it doesn't compel submission in me. Quite the contrary. If on the other hand I am before someone who rests in and controls himself, knows himself and behaves with dignity and self-respect... then invariably I view him in a different light. It makes me want to resonate with what he shows me. Reflect it somehow, if that makes sense.

I don't think it comes down to a list of specific qualities, per se. Everyone's different and I know that what draws me to my Master's feet today wouldn't necessarily at all have been useful a few years ago. I guess some things are generic though... and the biggest thing is that it is extremely important to remember the difference between real life and fantasy. What is hot in fantasy and scening isn't all that fun when real life hits. It's also important to me that what goes on is natural. In other words, I can't be something I am not... I can learn to adapt, grow and acquire new skills but I can't suddenly like things I have no taste for just because it pleases Him. Things like that take time, training and consistent continued exposure to it. And in that same way, He can't be something He isn't either just because I want it. It takes a strong person to be true to oneself, especially when it seems like everything would be better or easier if one could just be something else... something more...





squina -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/4/2009 3:04:30 PM)

I think the most important thing is having full confidence in your master.



windchymes -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/4/2009 3:49:03 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I'm all those things and got a big dick besides, and I am still sleeping with myself, so YMMV.

Ron


She said "full hair".



Underumam -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/4/2009 4:08:11 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I'm all those things and got a big dick besides, and I am still sleeping with myself, so YMMV.

Ron


No wonder you're so crotchety. lol.



CaringandReal -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/4/2009 8:22:40 PM)

An appropriate master for me would do what he wanted when he wanted and how he wanted. He would not compromise about being himself, no matter how rough that was for me. He would allow me to serve him in the ways he wanted to be served and he would also be someone I craved to serve. He would have some natural compassion, but he wouldn't let it get in the way of his rule. Sometimes my life with him would feel very bleak, but often it would be good, and I would have the security of knowing my place.



littlewonder -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/4/2009 8:49:08 PM)

One who is compatible with me on a physical, spiritual, mental level....similar morals, values and views.



elleX -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/5/2009 4:45:00 AM)

,,,
Good morning , that is a good subject

to me the sense of honor ,  keeping his word,  no hysterical behavior ,and a capacity to reach my innerself are the quality for a good Master
thanks
elleX



AnimusRex -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/5/2009 9:42:18 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder
One who is compatible with me on a physical, spiritual, mental level....similar morals, values and views.


Not one word about his dick? None at all?





sighs



UniqueRaven -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/5/2009 11:58:47 AM)

Hmm, honest (number one), strict, fair, kind, protective, intelligent, powerful, and capable of dark, focused, sadistic intensity when necessary or just when the mood strikes him.

Also someone that realizes that it is possible to actually have fun in this lifestyle as a Master/Owner and that it doesn't have to be dark and gloomy all the time.  A big part of why i am a slave is to have fun and connect with someone on all levels, and humor and happiness are two of those levels.

julie





HisSweetElysium -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/5/2009 3:38:20 PM)

LOL busted...



littlewonder -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/5/2009 5:28:47 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AnimusRex


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder
One who is compatible with me on a physical, spiritual, mental level....similar morals, values and views.


Not one word about his dick? None at all?





sighs


It's in there...compatible..ya know..like puzzle pieces that fit together.



WykkidIntentions -> RE: Define an appropriate master (12/8/2009 4:30:45 PM)

That was beautifully expressed sweet



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