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Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 12:45:10 PM

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Take a hike NO one here cares to hear about all the bulls__t in your fantasy world.You are a self centerd c__t Make room for other women who Truly seek a D/s relationship.You and your bulls__t is cluttering up the site so TAKE A HIKE.

I would like to ask everyone's opinion on this email. Im not gonna give names or point fingers I am just curious about something.

Why is it that there are so many "Doms"/"Masters" on this site that will gladly go out of their way to be so rude to people. My girl received this message today, completely out of the blue. I know she don't talk to Doms or Dommes on this site because she has no desire to. I just feel that this type of disrespect and behavior is the reason I have heard so many people speak poorly of this site. Most people here share the thoughts of their fantasy world on this site. We all know that what most people want here, Dom or sub can never really have what they truly want. In a perfect world we all could. I just want to know why people like this can post a profile and plainly state, and I quote "11/16/2009 5:30:52 PM: Opinions are like assholes so mabey all the assholes on here should keep their opinions to themselves.And if for any reason you do not like me its very simple dont message me.Like ive said before if i have offened any of the wanna bs on this site Kiss my Royal ASS...." then make sure they go out of their way to send a message to simply be rude to someone.

RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 12:53:16 PM

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As has been stated on the message boards time and time again, some people are rude assholes. They come to places like this hoping to ruffle some feathers and get a reaction. It is the way they get their kicks. It is useless to complain about them as they never read the forums. That is why Collarme gave us the delete and block features. Use these features and get on with your lives.

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 12:53:39 PM

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Some people have serious self-image issues and seek to bolster their sense of self by spewing the kind of crap you describe. Sadly, I think some such folks seek out the BDSM world in just such an attempt...calling themselves a Dom not because they are or even have any real interestin BDSM...but because they think it gives them license to spew such crap and it makes them feel better about their pathetic self-image.

Just a thought.

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 1:01:11 PM

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There are many possibilities. The person could be an arsehole themselves, there are plenty out there. Without knowing anyone involved there could be past history, or a posting style which caused offense. Your girls pic may have been stolen and used on a scammers profile. But going on the profile description, it seems like a self important, insecure arsehole.
But rudeness is not uncommon, in real life, on the internet or on this site. I'm sure some people confuse rudeness/bitchiness with dominance, but anyone who can remember their school days should not be surprised from this type of behaviour. It is natural for the weak and insecure to seek out false dominance through rude, bitchy, bullying behaviour, attempting to bring others down in order to elevate themselves.

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 1:04:47 PM

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I just figure they haven't been laid in a long, long time and are mad at the world.

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 1:06:26 PM

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Take a hike NO one here cares to hear about all the bulls__t in your fantasy world.You are a self centerd c__t Make room for other women who Truly seek a D/s relationship.You and your bulls__t is cluttering up the site so TAKE A HIKE.

I would like to ask everyone's opinion on this email. Im not gonna give names or point fingers I am just curious about something.

Why is it that there are so many "Doms"/"Masters" on this site that will gladly go out of their way to be so rude to people.

Do you really see these people as doms/masters? Just because someone uses a title or honorific doesn't mean they deserve instant respect. Besides, there are rude people everywhere who take great pleasure in being nasty to others. You'll find, much like those in RL, they do this because they have their own issues. Rarely does the person on the recieving end have anything to do with the tirade.

My girl received this message today, completely out of the blue. I know she don't talk to Doms or Dommes on this site because she has no desire to. I just feel that this type of disrespect and behavior is the reason I have heard so many people speak poorly of this site.

If it was "out of the blue"and from a stranger, why bother putting any energy into letting it get to you or your girl? I don't think it's this site in particular that has the market cornered on bad behavior. Water off a ducks back....let it roll right off. If neither you or your girl know the person who wrote this email, why let the words of a stranger get to you?

Most people here share the thoughts of their fantasy world on this site. We all know that what most people want here, Dom or sub can never really have what they truly want. In a perfect world we all could.

Actually, you'll find more than a few people who post based on REALITY and not fantasy.

I just want to know why people like this can post a profile and plainly state, and I quote "11/16/2009 5:30:52 PM: Opinions are like assholes so mabey all the assholes on here should keep their opinions to themselves.And if for any reason you do not like me its very simple dont message me.Like ive said before if i have offened any of the wanna bs on this site Kiss my Royal ASS...." then make sure they go out of their way to send a message to simply be rude to someone.

Because they can. My question to you is why let the words of a stranger on the internet bother you? Isn't it better to rise above people like that then to sink to their level? Believe me when I say most of us here have recieved an email similar to that, or some other type of troll nonsense. You only feed them energy by letting it get to you.

I love the "block" and "delete" features found here.

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 1:08:32 PM

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They spend too much time walking the political talk shows on Fox and MSNBC. Watch enough of it and you begin to think that obnoxious behavior is a normal way to get your point across. Just sayin'.

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 1:12:29 PM

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I just figure they haven't been laid in a long, long time and are mad at the world.

Hey! I haven't been laid in a very long time and I'm not an asshole...so fuck off lol

OP You may as well just ignore those messages, all that asshole wants is a reaction. Don't give it and they will go away.

Zeph

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 1:18:10 PM

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Hey Zeph... I haven't been laid in a long, long time either and I am tellin ya... I am only an ass hole in certain ways. But that fucking off thing... was just... an itch wanting a scratch??? It is okay to be a bit tempermental... but not psychotic! I think we are safe for the moment!

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 1:24:12 PM

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Sadly, between that and lack of sleep, psychosis has set in. I have no control over the - fuck off! - outbursts.

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 1:26:36 PM

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The difference Zeph, is that your lil issue is cured by some sleep and maybe getting fucked... that email guy... well, he is angry at the world because no one is willing to fuck him. I don't think either of us could say that. Get some sleep or... get fucked! hehe

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 1:41:46 PM

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That is why Collarme gave us the delete and block features. Use these features and get on with your lives.

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 2:28:00 PM

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 3:03:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

I just figure they haven't been laid in a long, long time and are mad at the world.

quote:

ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

Hey! I haven't been laid in a very long time and I'm not an asshole...so fuck off lol

Zeph

haha Getting a little Toppy are we? lol lol

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 3:08:09 PM

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haha Getting a little Toppy are we? lol lol

It's not my fault! Like I said i'm psychotic due to both lack of sex and lack of - bitch! Whore! - sleep

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 3:25:58 PM

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I think that anyone that gets upset about something like this probably is not cut our for and/or does not belong on a site like this. If you're gonna get your panties in a wad about some anonymous comment from some anonymous source (including this one) maybe CM isn't really a great venue for you.

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 5:24:22 PM

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Your forum just feeds the flames.

Ignore it, delete it, shrug your shoulders and move on.

Everytime you become angry or offended or upset you just give in to them.
They have power over you, dude.

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/9/2009 5:48:00 PM

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My girl received this message today, completely out of the blue

Likely just a ploy to initiate a conversation/communication... a bait and switch.

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/10/2009 1:45:30 AM

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He would of been awaiting her response so that he could wank furiously.... best thing you can do with people like that is ignore them.

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RE: Why go out of your way to be so rude? - 12/10/2009 1:53:32 AM

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As has been stated on the message boards time and time again, some people are rude assholes. They come to places like this hoping to ruffle some feathers and get a reaction. It is the way they get their kicks. It is useless to complain about them as they never read the forums. That is why Collarme gave us the delete and block features. Use these features and get on with your lives.

Great observation. I notice this in chat rooms also, where people come in to stir the pot, and people keep taking the bait, thinking they are somehow going to talk sense into them or "beat them down with words". I never understand why the ignore feature isn't used. But I admit, especially if it's some initial posting from someone new, I end up taking that bait at times. As many a member posts on these threads: "Don't feed the trolls", and I try my level best not to.

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