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Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 12:20:10 PM

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*i don't think i have started a thread on the Mistress board before so be gentle! LOL*

A guy s-type said something to me that got me thinking....

He said, "Tell you the truth Candy...the only fear i have on these message boards would be of inadvertently ticking off the one I came here to find.....a Domme...so I tread carefully around the Dommes...anyone else...well they can kiss my ....oh well you get the idea."

my question: Do you look at how they treat JUST you? Does how an s-type treat others matter? As long as they were polite to you and/or other D-types?

Thank you Ladies in advance for your time and consideration.

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 12:24:09 PM

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It matter's very much how they treat other people. We aren't on an island.

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 12:44:17 PM

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If I date any man, vanilla or sub, I watch how he treats service personnel, such as taxi drivers, clerks and cashiers. If he is polite but firm, perfect. If he's passive and puts up with substandard treatment or impolite comments, that's very bad, but still not as bad as someone who is rude to others just because they make less $$ than he does.

I expect the same on here. I couldn't respect a man who is submissive to doms or other subs, who doesn't express himself and his beliefs and mine eloquently but politely, or who puts up with or exhibits rude, twitchy-switchy or bratty behaviour.
I also expect him to be mature and secure enough not to obsess over comments from some troll or Momma's basement dwelling Aspberger-type they don't know and will never meet.

So it depends on what he has said to other people: if it's astute yet dryly Wilde-ian wit at a bratty sub's expense or comes to the rescue of someone being savaged by a sociopath, then he perhaps I'd take him for a testRide. But if he's just name-calling or otherwise being a little prick, then the cartoon trapdoor opens -- and closes -- irrevocably.

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 12:46:36 PM

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It matters greatly how they treat others - it reflects on their true character. And anyway, I'm the kind of person that you can do whatever to me and I'll shrug it off ... you mess with my friends and I'll take you down - and I have a good number of friends on this site who will tell me if I start talking to someone who has been an ass to them.

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 1:03:37 PM

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I look at his general pattern of interactions with others. I don't like people who are, in general, assholes. So if someone messages me, I look them up on this side, too.

I also do a fair amount of talking before playing, because if someone is naturally a jerk it will come out and up eventually.

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 1:13:04 PM

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How a sub treats others is very important. Regardless of roles as Dominants or sub/slaves, respect, compassion, and consideration for others is vital and gives insight into his true character.

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 1:47:04 PM

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Candy, I think your male friend is partially correct, though if I were him, I would be expanding the concept to everyone, and not just the Dommes.

I've started a couple of threads of My own in the past on the subject, asking a similar question. Yes, I've wondered on more than one occasion if people honestly believe the memories of some posters out there really are quite so short or if we just have selective memories somehow. There will be personality conflicts of all types amongst people out there. Not everyone is going to have the best day, or the best month for that matter, when typing up what they do around here. At some point, the allowances for potential poor behavior stop, and a person's character and attitude shine through.

On some occasions, I've even gone so far as to ask a particular poster if they realized they really were shooting themselves in the foot by displaying the way they were addressing other posters here. I've told people that I would never be interested in them by the way they have treated one of the other Dominant women. That includes what goes on around these boards and sometimes off.

There are a number of Dominant women who frequent these boards, some I've had the pleasure of meeting and some I haven't, that I would seriously take them in their word if they had bad experiences with one of the bottom/sub/slaves. While some of us don't particularly email each other on a frequent basis, there are some folks around here that I wouldn't want in My life, due to the poor reference that one of the Dommes gave them. To be honest, I don't even need to know the details of such. It's enough for Me to know My opinion of the person giving the poor reference. I made that mistake one time around here, and I can promise you that I was completely wrong.

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 1:47:52 PM

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OP:
How anyone treats anyone is important..
You can see a lot from how waitresses are treated..clerks...family..co-workers..
and here too..

IF treatment changes due to "title' ..station,monetary accumulation,body type etc...it
tells a lot..
and I too check ppl out on this side and gather info as to how they interact..
Do they jsutify bad behavoir?
Are they polite?
Do they respond not react?
Do they listen?

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 1:53:53 PM

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If an s type is polite to Dommes but treats all others as if they can kiss his ass then he is going to be put out of contention for my attention very quickly. That just absolutely reeks of egotism, where he feels he is too good to need to be polite overall, but only when it gets him what he wants. This translates, to me, that if he is not getting what he wants from me as well then his need to be polite ends and he will be an ass. I dont accept conditional manners, either you have them or ou dont, but you cant decide who you have them with or not.

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 2:19:09 PM

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I absolutely watch how they speak to EVERYONE on the boards, regardless of gender or orientation. I have met far too many men who think that they can suck up to ME, and dis everyone else. It's really fun when they come back to me with stories of my friends, thinking that we all must live in a bubble of silence!

I am with LP, in that there are many women on the boards, and men as well, whose opinions I trust regarding others. If someone has had a bad experience with someone, I believe them. If I have had a bad experience, I feel out the others to see if the same has happened to them. There really IS a femdom network! Yes, we talk to each other, but not about sex or play--about CHARACTER and behaviour.

So, the unsavoury show themselves quickly, because some lies are too complex to maintain.

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 2:37:05 PM

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LOL... I am sure there is some sort of submissive network as well!

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 2:38:02 PM

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i expected the answers posted so far to be honest, i feel the same way too. i really like this guy, he is really nice, even if he likes to think hes not LOL. i was hoping that this thread might show any s-type thinking along these lines, that perhaps refining a rough edge or two, can be a benefit.

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 2:50:33 PM

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LOL... I am sure there is some sort of submissive network as well!

A circle of horny net geeks, consulting on the quality of our bewbage and strap on collections???

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 3:01:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

LOL... I am sure there is some sort of submissive network as well!

A circle of horny net geeks, consulting on the quality of our bewbage and strap on collections???

LOL... I KNOW... I have been dissed all over the place when I have rejected someone because I caught them in lies or games... hell some knew I posted on the boards and came to play. I was said to have no life... to be a sick mental case... to be unfair and demanding becasue I expected more than a hook up for kinky play and a loser who had no dominance in me.. just looking for a man and to be a fake becasue I wouldn't meet them within four hours of conversation over the course of a number of days. lol

Oh... and don't forget the angry woman who won't help someone with emotional difficulties It's a wonder any submissive man would even come near me! lol

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 3:02:44 PM

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Well I am a fake and a time waster, so hey! Welcome to the club! If you are also stuck up, you get into the VIP room.

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 3:04:14 PM

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Let me just say you Glorious Women are looking quite spectacular this fine day.

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 3:05:06 PM

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Well I am a fake and a time waster, so hey! Welcome to the club! If you are also stuck up, you get into the VIP room.

i have been called a snot...does that count as being stuck up?

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 3:05:09 PM

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<<<< runs to google how to be really stuck up so I can run the VIP club! Flips curly hair, nose in the air and tries to walk away on my six inch heels... falling flat on my big nose!

This isn't going to work is it?

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 3:06:28 PM

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Snot does not mean snutty.. is that a word? (I need a nap!)

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RE: Your Opinion Please... - 12/11/2009 3:08:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Snot does not mean snutty.. is that a word?

dunno. Whats a snut?

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