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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Hello osf,
Repeating my question of earlier... 

You said:  for doms its a different process but no less time consuming maybe even more time consuming

I imagine that in the "sensitive new age guy" society we live in, learning to strip off those diplomatic, play nice attitudes is part of what a D type has to handle.  But really... we all go through that.  Could you perhaps talk a bit about the process from that side of things?

best,
sunshine

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

This is a question that keeps coming to Me over and over from reading the boards here.  It could be that I'm missing something, and I'm hoping My fellow D folks can help Me out.

See, I have a little confusion on this matter because I tend to believe that I think differently than many people out there.  As I assess My situation, I understand that I am the person in authority in a power dynamic.  I happen to think it's a rather successful one.  Not perfect by any means, but it's working for Me and it's working for My boy.  To Me, logically, that means that in the past two and a half years since the beginnings of this dynamic formed, since the final authority rested with Me regarding decisions, minimally, I must have at least gotten some of it right.  If I hadn't, I doubt that this dynamic would have formed and continued to exist.

This doesn't mean that I've never had a question about it or solicited advice.  I absolutely have in those times that I thought I could gain more information or hear different perspectives.  Once obtained, I use it to help Me base decisions that I had the original question on.  Then, if no new information is presented to Me, I make My final decision, and move along.  Until such time as things change, that is how things will be done.  In other words, that's it.  The committee is over.

Often, I have written things on these boards that have not been popular opinion.  When I've been in the minority, I've simply shrugged My shoulders and said that's how things work around here for whatever it is and those who disagree with My opinion aren't involved in this dynamic, so it makes the point moot.  That goes from everything to rituals, to writing style, to any other thing.  It ain't broke, so your (general) opinion on it doesn't matter a lot to Me.  I see this as being rational.

So, My question in turn to other Dominants is, why do you care about such things when it comes to your own world?  What does it matter to you if someone has a different opinion than you when it concerns your dynamic?  Why do the opinions of so many random strangers have such an impact?

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ORIGINAL: osf

#1 show up

#2 shut the fuck up

#3 do as your told

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ORIGINAL: akirauke

All I can say right now is... LOL

Ignorence is your new best friend matey!

also, thought I'd point this out

"MotherFUCKER is not a safeword"- what if it was? That'd be just icing on the cake, or as we Irish say Caca Milis!
I actually like the MotherFucker. It'd be a great safeword... I just laugh everytime I see it now.

excuse me... i'm a wee bit hyper at 3am...

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Sweetie,

Ya shoulda let this thread die the slow agonizing death it was destined for. It's already cold...why try to revive it? You can see it's not happy here...
Just...
Let.
It.
Go....