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ORIGINAL: InvisibleBlack

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ORIGINAL: XXlittlegirlXX

So i've been on and off collarme for over a year. I'm a switch,but i'm trying to find that bond with someone,whether it be a true lover one,or a good friendship one with the understanding of where we stand. Dom or sub. This has been very hard,not what i thought it would be.
Of course we all know that there is way more men on this site,also a lot of females are pro dommes. What about us broke little girls?
Well beside all that, let me tell you this....

i have came across about 3-4 doms online from this site. One i was brought to him on yahoo by a ''slave'' of his,when to this date i believe it was just him. The others,we talk,we see what our interests are and get a feel for each other. I wouldn't mind relocated in florida,but out of florida is alittle much for me at this momment. That does not make me feel comfortable,unless however that Dom came to see me,and after a while,we realized it was meant to be. This,of course was not the right thing to say to these Doms.
I denied their offer to move to (un)god knows where,with a person i haven't met before? That sounds very comfortable.
How about the fact they won't send me a picture,or go on webcam? They call me shallow,and tell me that BDSM isn't about being shallow. Supposely BDSM isn't about what the ''slave'' whats.

I thought this was a team effort,a balance between the true right?

Well after talking,and realizing i said no,i think i'd rather stay in florida properly of course. BUT no,i get insulted,tell me i'll never be helped, i don't know what the ''real lifestyle'' is, i'm a wannabie,a player.

Now,this does not sound like a true dom to me. How about you ?

Okay. I'm going to try and respond to this in the spirit in which it was intended and hopefully avoid the "real & true" dom snarkfest that typically happens in response to these threads.

As I understand it, what you're saying that you are a switch who is looking on CM  for a male dom for a long-term relationship based on compatibility, understanding and shared interests and that after about a year of effort you are dissatisfied with the responses you've been getting. They are, in your opinion, way too demanding way too early, offer little to nothing about thesmelves while wanting pictures, relocation, whatever from you with no reciprocation, mutual sharing or any indication of interest. You find this disturbing and wonder where the male Dominants who are also seeking long-term relationships based on shared interests (kink and non-kink)?

Do I have this right?

Well ... the problem is you. 

What do I mean? Work with me here:

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You say you're a switch. Your profile claims you are a female slave.

I am a switch,but i am looking for a female Mistress. that is all. My post has NOTHING to do with my status.

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You say you've been on CM for over a year. Your profile says your join date is December 13, 2009 - that's 22 days ago.

ever heard of changing ones user name? if not,i am sure there's a somewhere that can assist you with that.

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You say you're looking for a Dom and not finding any. Your profile says you're looking for a Domme, a couple or a female switch. It doesn't even mention Doms.

i did not say i was looking for a dom.


< Message edited by XXlittlegirlXX -- 1/3/2010 6:57:29 PM >

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''People are always angry at anyone who chooses very individual standards for his life; because of the extraordinary treatment which that man grants to himself, they feel degraded, like ordinary beings.''

(in reply to InvisibleBlack)

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ORIGINAL: HisSweetElysium

I'm glad you're not so young to fall for something like this. Dust yourself off, learn from it. Ever get emails asking you to send your bank account money to Ethiopia so that some deposed monarch can transfer billions of dollars to you?  You met the kink equivalent.  And yes, the ruse you described with "slave" and dom being the same person does happen, and often. 

And there is nothing shallow about wanting to see the person you're considering having a relationship with!!! Good lord!  Attraction is a REAL thing, just because someone is kinky does NOT make them the right match for you, but there are plenty of people out there who will try to guilt you or convince you otherwise.  Don't listen. 

Good luck to you, it  can all work out! My advice, for what it's worth is just don't rush, and  to put your psychological and emotional needs above the kink in importance. 

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Are you saying you would relocate for a guy whom you barely know?  Seriously?

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ORIGINAL: weaselwelder

I have to agree with the people on here who have said that your profile is going to attract people who are only interested in sex. The reason is simple, all you want, or at least all that interests you or that you talk about, is sex.

It doesn't matter who you actually are. It doesn't matter what you think. What matters is what you've shown us. All you are to us, all you have chosen to show us, by your own decision, is that you are a naked ass with a laundry list of fetishes and a desire for a mistress.

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ORIGINAL: weaselwelder

I have to agree with the people on here who have said that your profile is going to attract people who are only interested in sex. The reason is simple, all you want, or at least all that interests you or that you talk about, is sex.

It doesn't matter who you actually are. It doesn't matter what you think. What matters is what you've shown us. All you are to us, all you have chosen to show us, by your own decision, is that you are a naked ass with a laundry list of fetishes and a desire for a mistress.

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f life basically. My whole point was,is that even a true dom? when someone can't truly just respect that not everyone clings,enjoys the same things or just randomly wanna go live wiith some creep they never met? you tell me.

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ORIGINAL: XXlittlegirlXX

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ORIGINAL: weaselwelder

I have to agree with the people on here who have said that your profile is going to attract people who are only interested in sex. The reason is simple, all you want, or at least all that interests you or that you talk about, is sex.

It doesn't matter who you actually are. It doesn't matter what you think. What matters is what you've shown us. All you are to us, all you have chosen to show us, by your own decision, is that you are a naked ass with a laundry list of fetishes and a desire for a mistress.

i wasn't talking about my profile getting any sort of attention. I was more referring to the ''doms'' who couldn't say no,or i'm not interested in,lightly. I suppose i should really re write what i say sometimes beacuse most of the comments i got have nothing to do which what i was talking to say.


the doms,being as it was 3-4 insulted me beacuse i was a ''wanna be'',or a ''gamer'' beacuse i wouldn't just up and move to where they were,to become their slave,for however long. They wouldn't show me pictures,and told me i was being shallow which is aganist BDSM code of life basically. My whole point was,is that even a true dom? when someone can't truly just respect that not everyone clings,enjoys the same things or just randomly wanna go live wiith some creep they never met? you tell me.

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which is aganist BDSM code of life basically.

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ORIGINAL: XXlittlegirlXX

Do i wanna turn up to be one of those girls who goes missing,and before someones true torture toy til death?

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

This is a reminder why I don't want a young girl. Give me an old hag anyday...... always so grateful, with so little to live for.



Jeff

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"sadly as it is,putting up a picture of my ass MIGHT get some more attention on this side of my profile. We'll see."